Come on. Be honest. How many times have you downloaded and then instantly deleted a dating app all in the space of one day? It’s a recurring process of seeking someone to at least hold a decent conversation with, only to simply be met with an influx of nude requests and a feed of faceless profiles. It’s no surprise a lot of us have already given up trying. Unfortunately, transgender people find dating apps even more challenging than others. There may be numerous apps out there specially designed for the LGBTQIA+ community, but that doesn’t mean they’re particularly useful for providing transge ..read more

Let’s face it. The love stories we’ve grown accustomed to in Rom-Coms have lied to us all.  Has Tom Cruise ever fixed his (quite frankly terrifying) gaze upon you and uttered the immortal words join my Scientology army you complete me? Has a date ever faked an orgasm in a diner, sending earth-shattering vowels and side salads flying? Has Hugh Grant ever ran to catch you before you’re about to board a flight and declare his undying love for you? Me neither.  But despite a lack of that Hollywood flourish in my romantic life, I’m a sucker for a good love story. The best Reddit stories a ..read more

Sexuality is fluid and with this movement, comes ways to describe the way in which people feel. One of the ways you can describe sexuality is heteroflexible. The term heteroflexibility fits within the LGBTQIA+ definitions of sexuality, but we’re here to explain it and its intricacies. Does it apply to you? Let’s find out. What Is Heteroflexibility? The notion of heteroflexibility has been coined as recently as the early 2000s but, the ideas surrounding it go further back than this. Being heteroflexible means that you are mostly heterosexual but also have minimal homosexual tendencies. Usually ..read more

It’s storytime, dear Dating Smartzrs. Gather round, everyone. Once upon a Tinder bio, I received a DM from a woman who was so far out of my league that I assumed it must be a prank. Her message? Your bio is HILARIOUS. The woman in question had the longest pigtails I’d ever seen. In my reply, I intended to say ‘Oh, thank you so much! I love your pigtails!’ Instead, my phone’s autocorrect thought it would be hilarious to send ‘Ooh, yummy pig tits’.  I’ll save the rest of that particular exchange (which my friends affectionately call ‘Pigtitsgate’) for therapy, but how that cringeworthy mome ..read more

It’s scientifically proven that sad songs can help heal your broken heart after a breakup, but if you’re done with channelling your inner Bridget Jones by crying floods of tears listening to ‘All By Myself’…these empowering uptempo songs about being single represent the next stage you’re finally ready to move onto. Congratulations! Why do we fear being single so much anyway? We gain fierce independence from letting go of someone who wasn’t right for us. The special happiness of only having to answer to yourself should be bottled up and sold to the pity-party goers who spend way too much time d ..read more

As you probably already know, sexuality and sexual orientation are ways in which you convey your romantic attraction. These deeply personal feelings are often difficult to express if they do not fall into the heteronormative, preconceived notions. That sucks. This is why we want to be able to help you answer the questions, am I pansexual or am I bisexual? Inclusivity is key and it’s important to mention that you do not have to put a label on how you feel. This may however be a way to explain your orientation to others and perhaps even find a community of like-minded people. Bisexuality refers ..read more

Nothing quite beats that unspoken moment of recognition between two people on a date that’s going well.  There’s an intangible spark in the air, and you can both feel the force of its hypnotic pull.  But of course, we’re living in the ‘keep your hearts at least one metre apart’ age, and after twelve months of virtual courtship, there can be pressure to deliver on some outdoor date ideas to prevent the dim of that initial spark.  Let’s face it –  COVID has firmly established itself as the devious villain in the unpredictable Rom-Com that is modern dating. But true love alway ..read more

First of all, let’s address the large vibrating elephant in the room –  sex toys have a stigma attached to them. And not the kind of attachments that give pleasure, either. Sadly, there’s still a lot of shame associated with inviting a little battery-operated friend to keep you company at night. The fact is that orgasms relieve stress, promote a healthier general demeanour, and (whisper it quietly) they feel really good! It doesn’t matter if you’re a first-time shopper looking for sex toys for beginners, or a seasoned vibrator veteran on the hunt for the latest extreme sex toys. We want y ..read more

Marriage proposals, popping the question, getting down on one knee. Whichever way you choose to define it, proposing is one of the most intimate moments of a relationship. But how do you make it special? There are so many proposal ideas that you can incorporate, to ensure that your moment is personalised, creative, and tailored to your significant other.  Before we show you our picks, let’s go over some things you should consider but perhaps haven’t just yet. Remember that while you’re catering to your other half, you should also make it equally special and personal for yourself. Just bec ..read more

Soul mates vs twin flame – do you believe in them? Personally, the idea of soul mates in a romantic sense had been rather ruined by generic quotes and cliché perspectives. Thinking about finding my soulmate led me to reflect on my own life. I concluded that soulmates don’t have to be romantic, nor do twin flames have to be pitted against them, which seemed to be the general consensus. There are so many twin flame stages, soulmate encounters, and human connections in life, that there is no possible way to describe them all. What we can do, however, is explore soul mates and twin flames separate ..read more