This week on It’s Not All Black and White, Matthew and Cera look at the top 7 challenges many interracial couples face. Sometimes, we don’t even recognize the problems and challenges, so we looked to see what other interracial couples struggle with - to see if there was something impacting us that we didn’t even know about.  Some of these affect us for sure. Others, not so much.  Different expectations and assumptions. By the time we’re 7 years old, we already have many ingrained beliefs from our family and culture Different way of communicating - different nuances of words or inter ..read more

After our anniversary weekend I ended up in a funk. Drinking has that depressing effect on me sometimes. I tried all I could to get rid of the grumpiness: yoga, reading, Netflix, long showers... Nothing worked. Not even talking to my partner, Matthew. Fortunately, he did not take it personal (and wondered how I could mark our anniversary with sorrows and questioning the choices I've made in my life) nor did he take it upon himself to 'fix' me. It wasn't until we had our regular TikTok live and interacted with our online community there that my mood looked up. I did not do much apart from lis ..read more

Hair shapes our identity either as individuals or as a people. So when Cera  shaved her head bald over the weekend -it was a big deal. It's the first time in her adult life that she's shaved it this short. Why is that? On this week's episode of 'The Interracial Couple Podcast', we dive deep into: 1. Why a hair make over is the most natural means of self reinvention 2. How Cera came to affirm her own beauty and confidence in her body 3. How Matthew was in denial of his baldness until Cera came into his life 4. Is letting go of our identities really that bold a statement? Kindly share you ..read more

How does race affect our relationship? We identify as interacial couple because of the color of our skin. Otherwise, we would just be a regular couple. The last few weeks have been intense for Black people in America. First George Floyd and now Jacob Blake and countless of other people unnamed here. There is no time to heal or take a break. It’s exhausting. It can put me in a state of anger all the time, if I’m not careful. No matter how much time I spend in mediation, it’s affecting our relationship.  In this Weeks podcast we discuss  How current race tension in our country affects ..read more

Cheesiness is one of the qualities that have constantly served to keep our relationship healthy? Saying and doing the cheesy stuff is always easy at the beginning of a relationship. What happens though when the relationship is confirmed to be a longterm one? On this episode of The Interracial Couple, we discuss the cheesy things that still define us after 4 years of dating and their impact. Along with this, as part of Week 14 prompts from The Lover's Journal, we talk about what are the top on the list of important things in our relationship ..read more

Do you remember your first date? How magical was it? Is the magic from your most memorable date still there in your relationship? This week lets discuss our favorite dating experiences following The Lover's Journal Week 7 prompts: 1. What is your favorite date that you have ever been to with your partner? 2. What made it so? 3. What 1 thing can you do to bring some of that magic into this week? Share with us your most magical experiences below ..read more

Every couple argues -but when does it turn from simply arguing to fighting? On this weeks podcast, we discuss: 1. the differences between arguing and fighting 2. how Cera learnt to fight for the relationship instead of leaving to avoid conflict 3. how Matthew came to appreciate compromise as something that can make the relationship healthy 4. the most common causes of our arguments/ fights as a couple 5. why the holiday season is stressful for couples and how to resolve these disagreements with your partner  BIOS MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practi ..read more

On this week's episode we take on The Lover's Journal prompts for Week 4: 1. What are the things you admire most about your significant other? 2. What can you do to support your lover's dreams and goals? 3. What words do you want to hear from your partner this week ..read more

Is sharing phone passwords with your partner really a mark of trust or an innocent mistake? What about sharing bank account details with your spouse? Where do you draw personal boundaries in a relationship? On this week's episode of The Interracial Couple Podcast, we discuss whether phones should be private in a relationship. This is following a conversation we saw on Facebook about why sharing passwords with your partner is rarely a good idea. While some people held valid reasons for wanting to keep their devices and partners separate, Cera and I are of the opposite opinion. Sharing phones ..read more

Is watching porn any different from watching Netflix? According to Cera it's all the same since we're not our thoughts therefore it cannot be cheating if I get off on watching hot videos of other women. Even then, I must admit I'd feel humiliated if my girlfriend walked in on me watching the stuff.  On this Episode (42) of The Interracial Couple Podcast, we discuss: 1. Is watching porn cheating? 2. When does watching porn become a problem for you and the relationship? 3. How to handle your partner's porn habit and insecurities that arise from this 4. The upsides of pornography -are there ..read more