Why Co-Parenting Over Kids’ Phones Is Essential
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by Jordana Wolfson
2w ago
Every day in my office, I guide divorced parents through co-parenting and conflict. Every day, I try to help them work together for the benefit of their kids. And there is no part of parenting more important for this than managing kids’ phones. Photo by Tim Gouw on Unsplash You might think I’m being extreme, but kids from divorced families get pulled into smartphone use at an earlier age, which does more damage. If you don’t believe me, read this article from The Atlantic about the connection between smartphone use in childhood and mental health effects. The reason kid ..read more
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Call Me By My Name
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by Jordana Wolfson
2M ago
When a divorced parent decides to remarry, what is the best way to teach their children to address the new step-parent? If the children’s other parent is still living and involved in their lives, then the safest and most respectful approach is to teach your children to call the step-parent by their first name. I deal with this sometimes, when a parent is hurt by their ex instructing their children to call a step-parent Mom or Dad – as if to erase their biological mother or father. And it’s understandable why they would feel this way! When asked, “Why are you allowing our kid to call the other ..read more
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The Responsibility of Parents to Protect Their Children 
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by Jordana Wolfson
6M ago
Now is as good a time as any to discuss how parents can protect their children from the harshness of the world.   Photo by Vitolda Klein on Unsplash When there is crisis in the world, it is a parent’s job to shield their children from learning the horrors and atrocities that happen. Of course, keeping in mind age-appropriateness, we might start by putting limits on online time or using tools to keep children from venturing into uncharted Internet territory.  There is a lot of war and strife going on right now. It’s remarkable how, even in the face of such turmoil ..read more
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Everyone Lies to Their Kids
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by Jordana Wolfson
8M ago
I’ve lost count of how many clients have claimed, “I don’t lie to my kids,” as rationale for sharing completely inappropriate information about their ex. It’s never ok to say negative things about the other parent to a child, but this assertion, this moral high ground, gets used as a shield of protection. Photo by Jelleke Vanooteghem on Unsplash The context usually goes something like this: “So when they ask, ‘Did Mom or Dad have an affair?’, I’m going to tell the truth because I don’t lie to my kids.” Um, yeah, right. I react to this statement as if I’ve been punched in the gut ..read more
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MAKEUP TIME
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by Jordana Wolfson
11M ago
Things happen with Parenting Time and sometimes, parents have to miss an hour or two here or there. So do they get to make it up? If you forfeit Parenting Time, and you don’t have a right of first refusal built into your Divorce Agreement, you made your choice. You’re lucky if the other parent can take the kid, but they don’t have to provide you with makeup time. Photo by Brian Gordillo on Unsplash But in every other circumstance, makeup time is essential. Some parents get very caught up with making up minute-by-minute of missed time with their children. It’s great that they wan ..read more
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Determining Risk for Continued Trauma into Adulthood
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by Jordana Wolfson
1y ago
Early trauma from abuse, neglect, household dysfunction, having an incarcerated relative, mental health and yes, divorce and separation, can set up a child to carry trauma into adulthood. Or not. The ACES rating of adverse childhood experiences is one way that professionals chart a child’s risk level for lifelong trauma. Take the test here. The higher your ACES score, the higher risk you’re at for long-lasting impact. Childhood trauma can impact emotionally and physically, since we only have one brain that runs our body and our emotions. Everything is interconnected. So when a child compl ..read more
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The Impact of Co-Parenting Counseling
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by Jordana Wolfson
1y ago
While parents come to me for co-parenting counseling when they don’t know what else to do – or because the court has ordered them to – co-parenting counseling should never be a last resort.  Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash It should be a first choice. That’s because of the generational legacy that comes from fixing your family today. Not only do you create a better and healthier environment for your own children to grow up – you teach them a different way to treat people, and set a new model for parenting that they will take into their own futures, and the future ge ..read more
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How Divorced Parents Can Best Set Kids Up for Success
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by Jordana Wolfson
1y ago
I’ve heard too many times from divorced parents that they don’t want to take their children to an activity, work on homework or a school project or do some other task “on their parenting time.” As if the time is the parent’s. It’s not. It’s your child’s life that you get to be part of, and help facilitate. Your child is not with you for your enjoyment or satisfaction. Divorced parents really need to understand this. Photo by Greg Rosenke on Unsplash And when it comes to homework, especially when children are young, it is always the parent’s responsibility to make sure they get i ..read more
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Sleep Is Everything
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by Jordana Wolfson
1y ago
It may feel futile to try to agree with your co-parent on strategies and routines for your children, and you might not be able to, but there is ONE area where I urge all the parents I work with to try to come to agreement – and that’s sleep. Especially for young children, sleep is everything!! (And who are we kidding – for ALL of us, good sleep and enough sleep can be the difference between good health and success!!) Photo by Allen Taylor on Unsplash I always tell parents that their houses are not going to be matching, and there will be differences between homes no matter what b ..read more
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It’s Ok to Stalk Your Kids…Sometimes
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by Jordana Wolfson
1y ago
With all the apps today that parents can use to track their kids – Find My Friends, Life360, and others – kids often balk at their parents “stalking” them. Some teens even insist they have a right to privacy and their parents should not be following them. Photo by Rahul Chakraborty on Unsplash Well, I’m afraid to say that actually, until kids turn 18, the age of adulthood, they don’t have a right to privacy. Plus, parents are responsible for their welfare and well-being and with all the dangers associated with new drivers, predators and other very real situations, I believe it’s ..read more
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