I have been quite fortunate to have a few stories published on different sites on the internet. Below are links to those stories. On Medium in Prism & Pen there's a Mother's Day story; Happy Mother's Day to Trans Moms like me Happy Mother’s Day to Trans Moms Like Me | by Jaimie Brickey | Prism & Pen | May, 2021 | Medium On Medium, this is a story about the year 1967 and how it effected me. The Hidden Birth of a Trans Woman The Hidden Birth of a Trans Woman | by Jaimie Brickey | May, 2021 | Medium On Vocal.media This is my entry into the Colors of Pride poe ..read more

 There is a dilemma for trans folks, especially trans folks like me who came out and began transition late in life. What do you do with the past? What do you do with cherished memories? What pronouns do folks use to refer to the pre-trans you? The last question is by far the easiest. Since I was always a trans woman, even when I didn't let anyone else know, my pronouns for the past  are the same as my current pronouns. I use she/her pronouns now, if you are referring to me in the past (and you know my current preference) that's what you'd use for me in a past memory. I think it's the ..read more

 Today, March 31, 2021 is "Transgender Day of Visibility". There are many levels of visibility that impact the transgender community and even more that affect individual transgender people. For this day in 2021, after all that's happened to the world in 2020, there is probably no more important message to the transgender people here in the America the President Biden's message; Quite a difference from the previous years... The message is critical for transgender rights and our ability to get and keep jobs, homes and healthcare. Essentially if we are visible, then we must exist and exist ..read more

 Last night at a transgender support group, I presented my version of  "What would I tell my younger self". It was quite an emotional night for, not just because of the content of the post, either.  A little background is in order. In the group we often open with an "ice breaker", just to get a few giggles and relax folks to get the conversation flowing. When there's a new person, we go around the zoom call "room" and give our name and pronouns. I've said "Hi, my name is Jaimie, I use she/her pronouns", 30 times in the last year. As has nearly all the trans folks on the call eac ..read more

 The first post on this blog is a "coming out" letter to my mother ("Hello !! This is my first blog post"). In that post I promised to keep her up to date on our grand children, children, Vanessa and me. After the first flurry of posts, things have slowed down to nearly stopped. There are a few reasons for that; the situation with our grand children has stabilized, my transition has been pretty smooth and most importantly I don't need the emotional release as much. Professional counselling has help tremendously, I highly recommend  it to everyone. That being said the last year had qu ..read more

As part of a transgender support group, we had a recent creative challenge, “What would you say to your younger self?”. Yikes! What do I say? At what age do I impart my vast insight to my younger self? There are few ages where she encountered a crossroad or two, but do I even have any insight to impart? Well I certainly have some opinions for her, not sure how insightful they may be. I suppose I could talk to the 11 year me that lined up early from recess because she was tried of being bullied and left-out. While I waited there for the bell to ring, the less than empathetic Mrs. Darby saw the ..read more

We interrupt the regular (well, nearly occasional) posts on this blog to give a brief synopsis of the state of the world.  It's April 7th 2020 and we are three weeks into our coronavirus lockdown. You can't buy thermometers, web cams or toilet paper. Forget about medical supplies like gloves, masks and alcohol wipes. Doctors and hospitals can't even buy that stuff. While tensions are high with virus issues and people dying at catastrophic rates we are in the middle of a presidential election (at least here in the US). This is the single most important election in my lifetime, maybe in the his ..read more

As I thought about writing the next post, all the lies and the destructive act of lying were always a key topic in telling the story of this incredible journey. I lied to my parents 50+ years ago. I lied to my wife and children. I lied to everybody over and over again. Tragically, I lied to myself, more than anyone else, trying to convince myself I was not transgender.  In the '80's or early '90's, there was a PBS special on transsexuals(the word transgender had not been used much then) that I watched (where was YouTube when I really needed it...), in it there were multiple trans women. Two ..read more

The most common questions I have received since coming out as transgender in Nov of 2019 was “How did you keep this a secret for so long, over 50 years?” and the companion question  “What happened now to make you finally fess-up?”. To the first question, well, I don’t know; it’s kind of what this blog is about. The doubts and insecurities I’ve felt, the dysphoria-beating tricks I’ve learned, the delusions I’ve convinced myself were true are all things that will be covered in the coming months (or years). Am I a cross-dresser? (no.) Am I a weirdo? (likely.) A pervert? (I don’t think so.) I w ..read more

I have my first therapy appointment next week, it's making me nervous and anxious. Well for the sake of total transparency, its not my very first therapy session, its the first one where I'll discuss my gender and my gender dysphoria. Yikes. Where the hell do I begin? I suppose she won't allow me to blame everything I've screwed up in the last 60 years on anxiety created by gender dysphoria. Too bad, it would make this transition thing so much simpler. I guess I could start with sophomore biology in high school, Mr. Brackeen (i think it's spelled right, but hey it was 1969) taught us about ..read more