Wilson Wang and Roy Kim continue their series focusing on the topic of Relationships. In this episode, Jenn Hsu joins to talk about overrated qualities in a partner. Some of our talking points: Addiction to the feeling of falling in love, or "limerence" Beauty, muscles, and charisma (Single's Inferno, anyone?) Wealth, status, and high ambition Opposites attract "Good" Christians dating "bad" people Questions to ask yourself to test if a certain quality is overrated As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you ..read more

Wilson Wang and Roy Kim continue their series focusing on the topic of Relationships. In this episode, Jenn Hsu joins to talk about the wild west of online dating. Some of our talking points: Our reasons for trying online dating Memorable online dating stories Pros and cons of online dating Why introverts often prefer online dating Online chemistry can be very different from in person chemistry Online dating tips Roy got catfished As always, we hope that something you hear helps you feel like you're not alone, that there are others in the same boat as you. Drop us a line: thesameboatpod@gmai ..read more

Roy Kim and Wilson Wang are joined again by Jenn Hsu, continuing their series revolving around the topic of Relationships. In this episode, we talk about different approaches to dating. Some of our talking points: "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris messed us up! You learn a lot about yourself when you're in a dating relationship The Chicken approach to dating vs The Eagle approach Do you have an off-ramp in your dating relationship? A successful relationship does not always end in marriage Sex has a way of masking true intimacy and character flaws Being desperate is not good for your ..read more

Roy Kim and Wilson Wang are joined by Jenn Hsu, continuing their series revolving around the topic of Relationships. In this episode, we talk about same gender friendships from a straight perspective. Some of our talking points:   Why are so many male friendships so superficial? The difficulty for men to be emotionally intelligent in marriage with limited emotional practice as a single What happens when we are not asked to be a bridesmaid? Does everyone have a bestie? Should everyone have a bestie?  Ways we feel prioritized in a friendship Things we look for in a friendship Friendsh ..read more

Roy Kim and Wilson Wang are joined again by Hiroko Hsieh, continuing our series on the topic of Relationships. In this episode, we talk about toxic friendships.   Some of our talking points: Being lonely can make us make poor relationship choices Narcissism, Codependency, and Insecure Attachment Is there something about us that makes us stay in toxic friendships? Are Christians called to be close with everyone out of agape love? Asian collective and loyal culture makes it extra challenging to navigate toxic friendships Empathy and differentiation Concrete ideas about dealing with toxic f ..read more

Roy Kim and Wilson Wang are joined by Hiroko Hsieh, continuing their series revolving around the topic of Relationships. In this episode, we talk about co-ed friendships. This conversation was motivated by the controversy of Pastor Matt Chandler stepping down because of his communication with a female friend.   Some of our talking points: What do co-ed friendships provide that same gender friendships do not? What kinds of co-ed friendships are healthy when married, and what kinds are not? Are there unique rules for pastors and co-ed relationships because of the power and trust dynamic? W ..read more

Roy Kim and Wilson Wang dive into a new series revolving around the topic of Relationships. In this episode, we talk about how lonely it can feel when we don't have significant relationships, whether they be romantic relationships or friendships.   Some of our talking points: We get why people talk to toys or imaginary friends. Being extremely popular and extremely lonely at the same time. The loneliness of pastoring. Escaping from loneliness through games and porn. What happens if all your friends are married/dating or don't have time for you? The heartache of being an older single and ..read more

Asian American Christians have been leaving the immigrant church for various reasons, and one of the consequences is strong homesickness. Wilson Wang and Roy Kim share some of their reflections about missing the immigrant church, despite all its flaws.   Some of their talking points include: Nostalgic and familiar Asian family dynamics at church The centrality of eating together at church Getting scolded at the immigrant church is normal, but getting scolded at a White church is grounds for a fist fight Pastoral visitations are so inefficient, but can feel so good! Obedience to a pastor ..read more

One of the reasons why Asian American Christians have been leaving the immigrant church is because of their experiences of spiritual abuse. Wilson Wang, Jenna Fu, and Roy Kim share some of their thoughts, experiences, and questions about spiritual abuse in the immigrant church. Some of their talking points include: Getting fired in the immigrant church; Boundary-less family style church life; Parallels with domestic abuse; Korean churches resembling military hierarchy; Trying to remember an immigrant pastor giving a genuine apology; Good and Bad ways to trust a pastor; and more. As always, we ..read more

A common experience for people in English speaking ministries (EM's) is feeling like they have no voice. They feel an innate pressure to comply with the immigrant church leadership, with little room for discussion.   What does it do to a person's psyche when you feel like your voice doesn't count, not just in a church context, but in any context for that matter?   Wilson Wang, Jenna Fu, and Roy Kim share some of their own EM experiences of having no voice, as well as their thoughts of the implications.   Some of their talking points include: invasion of privacy; protecting the p ..read more