What's Within U
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A mindset coach's personal experience managing her own inner critic and the stories it tells.
What's Within U
3d ago
I’m going to let you in on a little secret. I used to be absolutely terrified of failing. Like, hide-under-the-covers-and-never-try-anything-new kind of scared. I thought that if I failed, it meant I wasn't good enough, and my inner critic would have a field day with that – “Ha, ha…told you so! Told you, you would biff it!”
But then I had a mindset shifting, light-bulb moment…
It wasn’t my flops, missteps, or wearing a little egg on my face that were the real issue. It was how I let them affect me. It was allowing them to fuel that pesky inner voice and all the negative feels that came with h ..read more
What's Within U
3w ago
“Struggling thoughts are often an indicator that there’s something we’re not accepting.” — Joseph Goldstein, Meditation Guru
Introduction: The Dance of Transformative Change
I like to think of transformative change as a surprise dance party thrown by the Big U(niverse), because I never know how it’s going to show up. At times it shows up as an uninvited guest, and other times it sneaks in through the back door, wearing a glittering mask of opportunity. And with it comes some struggling thoughts.
Thoughts like...
“I can’t do this. I don’t have what it takes.”
“I don’t know how I’ll make this h ..read more
What's Within U
1M ago
A dear client shared this very short video clip with me titled “If I’m too much…go find less.” It led me to reflect on all the times I’ve been told things like, “You’re too serious” or “You’re far too sensitive.” “You cry too easily,” and “You could stand to lose a few pounds.”
But you know what? I became aware of something, thanks to this short clip. The more I self-reflect and work on my negative narratives, the more I’ve learned to embrace and appreciate every aspect of myself. So, in regard to the things that others have found to be too much…
I’ve come to realize that surface-level c ..read more
What's Within U
1M ago
Back in the early 2000s when I dove headfirst into coach training, I had no idea how emotionally numb I was from the neck down. I was the master of stuffing my feelings, thinking it was my way of dealing with things. Spoiler alert: it just made me bury my head in a bag of potato chips and flirt dangerously with becoming an alcoholic.
Fast forward to now, and it’s like I’ve got a whole new emotional GPS. Instead of shoving my feelings in the back of my junk drawer, I see them as little messengers trying to get my attention. Now, when an emotion pops up, I’m paying attention and curious to figu ..read more
What's Within U
1M ago
I'm a storyteller, no doubt about it. When faced with uncertainty, my brain kicks into gear, spinning some pretty wild yarns to make sense of things. It's like my mind's way of bridging the gaps in knowledge.
But here's the thing I've realized: just because my brain weaves those tales, those tales don't define me. Nor do they hold nearly as much power as they once did. (Thanks to all my years of mindset work. Be sure to read on towards the bottom where I share tips for how to rewrite the negative stories you tell.)
I’m like the library, the place that holds those stories. Stories t ..read more
What's Within U
1M ago
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RjquHTj4HlY
Have you ever felt the weight of societal expectations pushing you to conform, to be someone you're not? I recently watched America Ferrera's powerful TED talk, and it resonated deeply.
While I didn't grow up as Latina, I did grow up as a shy Jewish girl, who encountered remarks like, "You could stand to lose a few pounds" and "Nice Jewish girls are seen and not heard." Those messages and the many others, though different from America's experience, shared a common thread— mold into someone else's expectations of acceptable.
For years, I succumbed to ..read more
What's Within U
2M ago
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RjquHTj4HlY
Have you ever felt the weight of societal expectations pushing you to conform, to be someone you're not? I recently watched America Ferrera's powerful TED talk, and it resonated deeply.
While I didn't grow up as Latina, I did grow up as a shy Jewish girl, who encountered remarks like, "You could stand to lose a few pounds" and "Nice Jewish girls are seen and not heard." Those messages and the many others, though different from America's experience, shared a common thread— mold into someone else's expectations of acceptable.
For years, I succumbed to ..read more
What's Within U
9M ago
Radical acceptance. The first time I heard that term, I furrowed my forehead and quickly went to good ol’ Google to find out more.
Reading through all the different definitions, I deduced that radical acceptance is accepting reality for what it is. (Not to be confused with settling, of course.)
It’s about responding to the things we can’t #change in a way that mitigates suffering and lowers #stress and #anger levels. In short, it’s about accepting the things we can’t change and making a more #empowering#choice of how to move on from those things.
For example, say I’m waiting online to get tic ..read more
What's Within U
9M ago
I used to think we were all about thinking first and feeling second. Boy, was I wrong! Over the past four decades, I’ve been diving into ways to kick those negative thoughts to the curb, and guess what?
It turns out that it's not just the thoughts that matter but the feelings they bring along for the ride. Those feelings are like the secret sauce that makes our thoughts super convincing.
Now, here's the fun part! I figured I'd share some awesome tricks to get your brain pumping out those happy chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, endorphins, and oxytocin. These chemicals are like little superh ..read more
What's Within U
1y ago
Has anyone ever said to you, “It’s none of your business what other people think of you”?
If not, consider yourself blessed.
It sounds great in theory, not to give two shits about what other people think, but here’s the truth; we do care and we do make it our business.
"When we stop caring what people think we lose our capacity for connection. When we become defined by what people think we lose our capacity to be vulnerable." - Brené Brown
We actually walk a fine line between caring to connect and when that caring begins to define us. (Define = controlling what we do and who we are so we fit ..read more