Ep 286: We all have behaviors that no longer serve us. You might even notice that certain things you do annoy you or give you a result that is not what you really want or intended. I believe that our entire life is built upon habit loops, and the behavioral loops repeat over and over and over again. Today, I will give you my breakdown of how to remedy any behavior and habit you seek to change for the betterment of your life. This will help you in every aspect of your life. The steps are as follows: 1. Locate the habit  2. Evaluate the habit 3. Dissect the habit 4. Reconstruct the habit 5 ..read more

Ep #285: Money can be a huge stressor. How much do you make? Where are you spending it? Can you save any, or are you living paycheck to paycheck? Do you have ample funds, yet you find yourself unable to set aside any for retirement, savings, vacations, or other things you want that would add to your life? I know about debt. I started this year with $30,000 in debt, and I swore to myself that I would not wake up even one dollar in debt on New Year's Day of 2025. I know from having hundreds of conversations with listeners that money and the stress that comes with thinking about it so often can b ..read more

Ep #284: Okay, this episode is totally Jesse-isms and pumping you up. From inspirational propaganda to my many voices to diatribes - if you love it when I get all Jesse and excite you, this episode is for you! I will also delve into the idea that easy decisions often lead to a challenging life, while tough choices can afford us our best future. I toss in the 'crab bucket' phenomenon, where individuals can be pulled down by their environment when attempting to change. We also contrast the temptation of immediate pleasures, like donuts and pizza, with the long-term health benefits of choosing br ..read more

Ep #283: This week, I traveled to Oklahoma for my dad's birthday and the solar eclipse, and then my car broke down, the boat battery died, and clouds filled the sky. What was to be a once-in-a-lifetime experience quickly could potentially turn into the week from hell, BUT we chose to experience ourselves at the moment, stay focused on what we could control, and stay positive that, at the very least, we are together and that is what this whole adventure was grounded in. By the end of the experience...well, you're going to have to listen in for how we chose to experience anxiety and stress and h ..read more

Ep #282: Judging oneself is the harshest criticism because it sounds like our voice, in our heads, telling us we can not achieve something we desire for ourselves. Teaching yourself to reject those self-critiques and take the next smallest step toward your "meant-to-be" is where the magic of addiction recovery lives. Saying yes or saying no is determined by your subjective perspective of the potential outcome. Will this lead me toward who I want to be, or might it lead me back to the me I am sick and tired of and have told myself this much thousands of times? You are in charge of your mind; th ..read more

Ep #280: Somedays, I am surprised I hold it all together. Today is not one of those days. Today, anxiety and inner judgment are running rampant, and rather than act like everything - I think it best to talk it through with y'all. It is okay not to be okay. We all have those days when sobriety isn't enough for today to be the best day. Know you are not alone. You are part of this gigantic Earth experiment we call human-ness. Breathe, reset your Vegas nerve, hug yourself, get on your feet, and move your body - whatever you do, please believe that even the toughest days are there to support your ..read more

Ep #279 - A role is a set of expectations, behaviors, and responsibilities assigned to an individual within a specific context, such as in a family, workplace, or social group. In the context of sobriety and recovery, adopting roles that promote healthy behaviors and offer supportive relationships can significantly enhance an individual's ability to maintain sobriety and navigate the recovery process effectively. In contrast, roles that perpetuate stress and anxiety or involve exposure to substance use can hinder progress and potentially lead to relapse. If you create an environment where vuln ..read more

Ep #278: How would you rate your emotional resolve and resiliency? Do you notice when life seems to get into a state of flow? Mastering your emotions, physical responses, thinking, and feeling is a never-ending journey and a beautiful aspect of life. In this episode, I'm gonna discuss self-mastery, mastering each moment, self-awareness around your flow state, and how you must stop being the reason you don't succeed because you're the first person to reject yourself - and START being the first one who believes in YOU!! We all have a boneyard of disappointments and rejections in our closets, and ..read more

Ep #277 - Have you ever convinced yourself that your way of seeing things is the only way? That's Perspective Bias waving its wand. Found yourself nodding along to information that confirms what you already believe? Ah, Confirmation Bias strikes again. Ever stick with the familiar just because it's, well, familiar? Exposure Bias has you in its grasp. And who hasn't reminisced about the "good old days," only to realize they were just old, not necessarily good? Thank you, Experience Bias. And let's not forget our dear friend, Association Bias, which makes you believe in connections that might be ..read more

Ep #276 - Automatic negative thoughts in early sobriety can spiral you down with anger, anxiety, resentment, and a myriad of other emotions aimed at your past self and potentially anyone you decide to blame for your lot in life. I get it. Traumatic things happen, you re-live them in your head, and they grow and grow into trauma that is rooted so deep into your psyche and persona it feels you will never pull them out. Let's get to the bottom of what kinds of automatic negative thoughts are blitzkrieging your emotions and prefrontal cortex so you can start, right now, today, changing the way you ..read more