Is Your Church Safe?
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by Natalie Hoffman
4d ago
Ryan Geoge grew up with a father who abused him, a church that hurt him, and a heart that needed healing. Even after learning he wasn’t the only one being abused at the hands of his father, Ryan still found healing he desperately needed, and he’s on a mission to help others heal, tell their story, and live life to the fullest.   Together, Ryan and I talk about Ryan’s story growing up in Independent Fundamental Baptist churches  How Ryan found out about more of his father’s victims outside of their family Why Ryan’s book was written to shine a light on problematic theological issues ..read more
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The One About Bill
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by Natalie Hoffman
1w ago
BILL! My friend, Bill, wrote a little comment on my site that I wanted to share with you all. It wasn’t a nice comment, but honestly, that’s what makes this episode fun! Let’s take a look at what our little gaslighting friend said and examine more closely where he got it wrong. Read the show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: My newest book, All the Scary Little Gods, is a spiritual memoir about healing from religious trauma and toxic programming.  Are you wondering what is happening inside your own painful and confusing marriage? I wrote another book just for yo ..read more
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How to Reframe and Recover From an Abusive Sermon
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by Natalie Hoffman
2w ago
Once upon a time, I dared to write a letter to the pastor of a church I was attending at the time (after having been excommunicated from another church for telling the truth about my life, requesting help, and then acquiring a divorce to protect myself). In my letter, I wrote that his sermon that morning did not take into account abuse survivors' experiences—survivors who were probably sitting in the pews that morning confused and scared about what he was preaching at them. I wanted him to hear his own words from a different perspective—a survivor’s perspective. Surely this letter wouldn’t fal ..read more
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A Story that Perfectly Describes Emotional Abuse
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by Natalie Hoffman
3w ago
Today's podcast episode features an original Audible chapter from my new book, All the Scary Little Gods. It's an analogy I wrote several years ago when I was trying my darndest to explain my situation to people who couldn't wrap their brains around it. In the years since that time, I've heard from countless Christian women how much it helped them understand what they were going through.  Today you can listen to this story as it was recorded for the Audible version of All the Scary Little Gods. I hope it helps you find clarity and hope. And maybe even a few laughs along the way. Read the ..read more
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Holy Ghosted: Spiritual Anxiety and Religious Trauma
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by Natalie Hoffman
1M ago
Have you ever been ghosted by someone? They disappeared from your life, seemingly into thin air? Have you ever been worried that God might ghost you, especially if you don’t dot your “i”s” and cross your “t’s?” Spiritual anxiety is common among Christians, and Tiffany Yecke Brooks wants to break that down with you inside her newest book, Holy Ghosted: Spiritual Anxiety, Religious Trauma, and the Language of Abuse.  In this episode, Tiffany answers questions such as: “What is the definition of spiritual anxiety?”  “How do I overcome spiritual anxiety?”  “What are some different ..read more
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Reframing Nasty Things People Say to Victims
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by Natalie Hoffman
1M ago
“Why do you keep bringing up the past?” “You can't have boundaries with me. You're my wife.” “You're too sensitive.” “I said I was sorry. You need to accept that. Let's choose to have a good day now.” “You think you're so perfect.” Do these phrases sound familiar? They certainly sound familiar to me. I want to show you some ways you can combat these words your abuser throws at you, even if you’re just combating them in your own mind. You don’t even have to say anything out loud (because we all know what happens when we try to reason with an abuser/fool). You can just say these phrases I’m ..read more
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Janet’s Excommunication Story
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by Natalie Hoffman
2M ago
Have you ever been told you are incorrigible? Or how about contumacious, which means stubbornly and willfully disobedient to authority? Janet’s church promised to help and protect her, but when she decided to set a boundary to protect herself by divorcing her abuser, they turned on her with this vicious name-calling.  Sort of like her abuser, come to think of it.  In this final episode of our excommunication series, Janet outlines her story of waking up to abuse, seeking help from her church, and receiving a proverbial beating in return. Let’s unmask these particular wolves in Jane ..read more
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Excommunication Series: Valerie's Story
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by Natalie Hoffman
2M ago
In part two of our excommunication series, I interview Valerie, a former member of a Reformed Baptist church that excommunicated her for divorcing her unfaithful and emotionally abusive husband. After years of receiving “help” from her church as she endured betrayal after betrayal from her husband, she said enough was enough. But even as she divorced her husband and then tried to leave the church peacefully, they wouldn’t allow it. They had to have the last word. Listen to Valerie’s story today.  Read the show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thi ..read more
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Is Teaching Boundaries Victim Blaming?
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by Natalie Hoffman
2M ago
Is teaching survivors how to have boundaries the equivalent of victim blaming? I’ve seen this topic come up again and again, and I thought it was time I stated what I believe about it. The bottom line is that I believe that boundaries is an essential tool in a survivor’s toolbox. I also believe abuse is never, ever the survivor’s fault. Those two beliefs can go hand in hand nicely, and I’m going to show you how. Join me as I explain my stance, why it’s important, and what McDonald’s burgers and fries have to do with the whole sordid affair. Read the show notes and/or ask Natalie a question he ..read more
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Now Available: All the Scary Little Gods
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by Natalie Hoffman
3M ago
I gratefully and joyfully, with so much love, offer my brand new book, All the Scary Little Gods, to you! WHO THIS BOOK IS FOR: Anyone who has suffered from anxiety in their relationship with God Perfectionists Fear filled folks Angry survivors Exhausted women who are just “done” Confused Christians Searchers and seekers Grievers The Guilty The Shamed Anyone who just only ever wanted to be loved. (Especially you, precious one.) You can now get All the Scary Little Gods on Amazon in the following formats: Kindle, paperback, or Audible ($19.99).  Read the show notes and/or ask Natalie a ..read more
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