Guilt adds very little to our lives and takes away so much. The only “use” that guilt can serve is the motivation to change, and even that is debatable. The motivation to do anything boils down to two primal desires: a) avoid pain b) gain pleasure. If guilt can motivate you to do anything, it is because you did something that felt bad and you don’t want to experience that pain again. For the sake of this post and an attempt to be objective, I’ll say the only positive “use” guilt serves would be motivation to change. However, holding on to guilt makes people feel lousy about themselves. It can ..read more

Stuck in a rut? Don’t fret! It happens to the best of us sooner or later. There are just times in life when we feel completely out of control and struggle to get our arms around it. I liken it to the feeling of being on a “hamster wheel” …running as fast as I can but seemingly not getting anywhere. There are so many reasons we get stuck. This year alone, I have experienced 3 major losses in my family and there is no way to “think” myself out of this funk. Some days are better than others but that underlying feeling of a 50-pound bag of sand on my shoulders will not go away! I wrote this artic ..read more

Negative thoughts can become self-fulfilling prophecies: what we think about most often manifests into reality. If you start off thinking you will fail, on some unconscious level, you have told yourself it can’t happen. As a result, you probably won’t give it your all, or you’ll make decisions that aren’t the best, but they are consistent with your negative thinking. mess up a task, the chances are that you will: you may not try hard enough to succeed, you won't attract support from other people, and you may not perceive any results as good enough. When it comes down to it, positive, optimist ..read more

So many people ask me how coaching can be better than face=to face. Ultimately, it is what makes the client most comfortable that determines if online coaching is an option. Here are some of the benefits: Online coaching eliminates geographical boundaries. It is much more flexible because as long as both parties have access to a telephone, coaching can take place anywhere. Challenges There can be benefit for both the client and the coach in a face-to-face session. They are able to read each others body language and nuances that only happen in person are not lost. For a more in-depth overview ..read more

I’ve been doing a lot of reading, (ok, my books are audio, so I’ve been doing a lot of “listening”) about NLP and I’m fascinated. NLP is an acronym that stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. It is grounded in the theory that people unconsciously involve most of the 5 senses (seeing pictures, hearing sounds, remembering feelings, smells, and tastes). By using NLP techniques, we can literally change the way we perceive things and therefore change the way we feel and ultimately act. Some examples of things · Overcome limiting beliefs that keep us from living authentically and reaching our goa ..read more

Millions of Americans suffer from clinical depression and/or anxiety. Sometimes the origin of these can be traced, but others it can seem like a mystery. In those cases, I believe that re-examining ones childhood can shed some light into the core cause of the dis-ease. One of the most common issues I hear from the addictions recovery community I am involved with is some type of childhood dysfunction or trauma. Not everyone, but a clear majority. The pain can be psychological, emotional and/or physical. It could be one single event or something that happened repetitively over years. Not everyon ..read more

Guilt adds very little to our lives and takes away so much. The only “use” that guilt can serve is the motivation to change, and even that is debatable. The ..read more

Stuck in a rut? Don’t fret! It happens to the best of us sooner or later. There are just times in life when we feel completely out of control and struggle to ..read more

Negative thoughts can become self-fulfilling prophecies: what we think about most often manifests into reality. If you start off thinking you will fail, on s ..read more

This is an article posted on Lifecoachlibrary.com. Talking to 3 coaches is wise and lifecoachlibrary.com makes it simple ..read more