You perfectly recognize the moods and feelings of others and cannot rest until everyone around you is feeling well. You offer help, time, and attention to others, and at the same time feel lonely yourself. You struggle to say „no” and set boundaries for people. When you do that, you feel guilty. Your life is subordinated to the problems, needs, ambitions, and decisions of others. The wishes of others are an order for you. Even the unspoken ones. Your self-esteem depends on the approval and opinions of other people. You feel overburdened with responsibility for others. You are an empath. You ea ..read more

Your feelings & emotions work like the immune system in your body: they give you an immediate signal of what is currently going on in your psyche and in your life. Therefore, if you stay in touch with your feelings, you’ll always be protected and confident in what you need to do. Examples: anger shows you that you need to set boundaries. Sadness that you’re just losing someone/ sth precious and you need time to mourn it and to say goodbye to it. Joy is about being in balance and harmony with yourself and the world But… there is more than that. Besides the mature feelings that protect you ..read more

THE IMMATURE LOVER: • defines him- or herself by relationships, • wants to be liked and loved by everybody, • cannot stand being alone, • very emotional, sometimes unstable, even dramatic, • needs a romance or flirt to constantly feel attractive, • compromises his or her integrity in order to belong to someone or sth, • very much concerned and dependent on his or her physical appearance, • love for a person or a passion is like an obsession or an addiction, • can even destroy him- or herself, • their self-esteem is conditioned by love and appreciation of others, • their biggest fear is to be l ..read more

„We get along in daily life”. „This will pass when the stress is over”. „She/he is a good person”. „It’ll solve itself somehow.” „This job pays my bills …” What’s the difference between Truth and rationalization? The truth comes in an instant: I don’t love her/him. I cannot stand it anymore. I’m addicted. I do love her/him. She/he won’t change. It’s time to go … One flash. Fast. Neutral. No drama. No doubt. Insight forever. Feeling in the body. The truth is not about: What’s convenient. What will others say. What the payoff is. If you have time for it. If you’re ready… The truth is about: What ..read more

How do you discern between not knowing which is an excuse to avoid action and not knowing that is necessary to wait and be patient. There is not knowing that serves as postponing a change, pushing away the responsibility, and covering the truth in yourself and the situation. This kind of not knowing will only disempower you. And there is not knowing as not judging other people, not being attached to the outcome of your efforts, and releasing control. This kind of not knowing requires deep trust but will guide you to bigger adventures and bigger wins. Which one do you choose? How to discern bet ..read more

…would you choose the role of the Good Girl or the Good Boyas your way of life? ​ Focusing on fulfilling the expectations of others so that they like and appreciate you, so you can feel important and not disappointing anyone, at the same time giving up your own feelings, needs and goals? ​ If you were making a conscious decision about your future life, would you choose the role of the Victim for yourself? ​ Feeling helplessness, lack of capacity, possibilities and tools to get off the ground and take positive action, and in this way giving responsibility for your life to others? ​ Have you eve ..read more

A waterfall is powerful because all its water flows in one direction. You are like a waterfall when your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions are consistent. When you live in harmony with yourself and your values. Whatever goal you set for yourself then, you generate tremendous energy in that direction and are unstoppable. On the contrary, a river with many arms disperses its power in many directions and flows slowly. You are like a river when you think one thing, feel another and say and do something completely different. So you live in an internal conflict. Your goals seem incompatible wit ..read more

There is no one person who doesn’t feel anger. The only question is: do they express their anger or not? Anger belongs to the 7 basic emotions, apart from joy, sadness, fear, surprise, disgust, and contempt, which have been recognized in every culture and time of history. These emotions have always served our physical survival. All of us get angry. On the other hand, there are many people who don’t actually feel it. They don’t consciously feel their anger. However, if we look at their bodies and their behavior, we will find symptoms and evidence of this emotion. We live in a culture that forb ..read more

The Immature Victim: • is about feeling hurt, loss and humiliation, • but never letting go of past suffering, • doesn’t want any solution, • just to tell their story, • and be listened to, justified and validated, • feels powerless, hopeless and incapable, • therefore, gives up the responsibility of their lives to others, • needs to blame someone or something, • looks for justice or revenge, • feels entitled for special treatment and privileges, • has unprocessed anger, resentment and rage. The Mature Victim: • helps recognizing and processing hurt, loss and humiliation, • by expressing and re ..read more

…would you choose the role of the Good Girl or the Good Boyas your way of life? ​ Focusing on fulfilling the expectations of others so that they like and appreciate you, so you can feel important and not disappointing anyone, at the same time giving up your own feelings, needs and goals? ​ If you were making a conscious decision about your future life, would you choose the role of the Victim for yourself? ​ Feeling helplessness, lack of capacity, possibilities and tools to get off the ground and take positive action, and in this way giving responsibility for your life to others? ​ Have you eve ..read more