In Mila’s first year, I went a little overboard with showing off the photos of my munchkin. The grannies got diaries full of custom photos, everyone got calender’s featuring baby Mila, we put up framed photos in our dining room and bathroom. Everywhere we looked there was our smiling girl which was so lovely. However since having Evalee I have had my hands full – having a baby and a toddler along with a full time job meant the only ‘spare time’ I had was used for sleeping, eating and the occasional Netflix binge. So poor Evalee had lots of photos but none prominently displayed around the house ..read more

Weekends with toddlers can be rough. They start off full of cuddles and morning cartoons but by mid-morning we all need to get out of the house. So this past Sunday we loaded the girls into the car and took a drive out to Sugar Rush Park in Ballito. It’s been on my list of things to do for months now as I try find kid friendly places in Durban that don’t cost a fortune. However I didn’t really know what to expect as their website seemed to talk about so many different activities I couldn’t fathom how they could all be in the same place! Haha It was a 30min drive or so from Durban North on the ..read more

The last two months have been intense to say the least. We have been faced with a global health crisis with Covid-19. We have had to put our lives on hold, gather our families closer, adapt and evolve. I am the first to admit I am lucky in a lot of ways – both my husband and I have our full salaries as we are working from home. I am blessed to have my husband and amazing daughter to cuddle and chat to and keep me entertained. However those blessings do not take away from the fact that this has also been one of the toughest times of my life. I did a previous post about ‘The right to have a ment ..read more

In South Africa we are well into our lockdown to fight the corona virus. It has been a scary time with a lot of panic, denial and confusion as to what we need to do and whether it will all be enough. Firstly I want to be clear that surviving this scary time is the priority here. Keeping yourself and your family alive and healthy is the focus – so if your child has too much screen time, your house is a mess and you aren’t eating as healthy as you should be, that is ok. As a mom of a very busy toddler of 19 months old, I was worrying about how to keep her occupied and stimulated while working fu ..read more

I have been in therapy lately for my anxiety disorder. I must admit I haven’t had the best run with therapists till now – I usually go for a couple sessions and then stop going and end up back on medication. A big part of the reason I didn’t feel therapy worked was that most therapists kept asking for the thing that made me anxious. Was it a trauma I experienced? Was I not shown enough love as a child? Did someone hurt me? While I get that for many people there might be an event or experience that triggered their mental illness, this wasn’t the case for me. I had a happy childhood, surrounded ..read more

I sneak into your room, After you have drifted off to sleep. Most nights I just stare at you, Put my hand on your chest, Feel the lift of your breath. Tonight I lifted you up, And held you against my chest. Breathed in your smell, Knowing these moments, so rare, Are fleeting and need to be cherished. When you are awake, You are a force to be reckoned with. My fierce, laughing adventurer. However when you are asleep My heart cries out to hold you. I know I must let you rest, I try not to wake your slumber. I sneak into your room, After you have drifted off to sleep, And soak in the wonder of yo ..read more

I saw this book on Takealot a few months back and thought it looked interesting but a little expensive at about R300. However by the time Christmas came along I had an occasion to buy it for, and it was very clear even at 14 months old that our daughter is going to be a strong willed rebel hehe so I thought it was worth it to try the book out. Good night Stories for Rebel Girls is a hard cover book that includes 100 tales of extraordinary women. Each tale has one page of writing – about 250 words – and the opposite page has a beautiful illustration of the woman and a quote. The books authors E ..read more

Tik Tok is the cool new platform that young teens are mad about. It’s all about short videos, lip syncing, dancing, pranks and goofing off. Since I work in digital media, I played with the app about a year ago or so and honestly didn’t know what was going on or how I could relate to it, and promptly deleted it. Little did I know that as a new mom I could enjoy Tik Tok too and it could give me so much of what I have been looking for in a social platform. Here are some reasons I am loving Tik Tok as a mom: 1. It is really intuitive and immersive. The video and music is the hero – it takes up you ..read more

You were my greatest undoing. As the doctor pulled you from my belly, My soul was split open, And out you came. Part of me, But fully you. Ready to take on the world. You tore me apart and put me back together again, In a different way. That made me better, stronger, never quite the same again. The post #Poetry – My Greatest Undoing appeared first on Me Becoming Mom ..read more

You were my greatest undoing. As the doctor pulled you from my belly, My soul was split open, And out you came. Part of me, But fully you. Ready to take on the world. You tore me apart and put me back together again, In a different way. That made me better, stronger, never quite the same again. The post #Poetry – My Greatest Undoing appeared first on Me Becoming Mom ..read more