When it comes to sustaining a thriving, healthy marriage, I believe that grand gestures are overrated. In a world of choreographed, flash-mob proposals and Pinterest-perfect breakfasts-in-bed, it’s easy to get caught up in the grand gestures of love, but I think it’s the little things that truly keep the home fires burning. My wife and I recently celebrated another wedding anniversary, and in reflecting to each other how we both felt deeply loved by one another, some of the things she said caught me by surprise. Either because I didn’t know that those things were on her radar or because I didn ..read more

Have you ever wondered if you can go from hating blowjobs to loving them? Not just tolerating. Not getting through. But truthfully getting to a place where you adore giving them? Ever since my wife Demetra and I released our video course, Queen of Blowjobs, my email inbox has been flooded with amazing stories of women who have transformed their relationships with blowjobs. With their permission and blessing, I decided to share the stories of a few women who have written in. Perhaps you’ll find this inspiring. Perhaps you will see yourself in some of these women’s stories. More than anything, I ..read more

At face value, blowjobs might seem like they’re all the same. Erect penis, meet mouth. But once you graduate from the adolescent groping that happens in the backseat of your car, you might realize that there is a whole other realm of blowjob mastery to be had. You can incorporate dirty talk into your blowjobs. You can switch up the blowjob positions for a different kind of stimulation (both physical and visual). And now, you can play around with the different types of blowjobs, to really complete the package. Regardless of whether you’ve been dating for weeks or married for decades, there are ..read more

On a weekly basis, for the last 15 or so years, I have had someone ask me some version of: “Can you just introduce me to a healthy partner / Can you start a matchmaking service so that I can meet the people that follow your work?” Literally, every week. Here’s the thing… We’ve all heard the concept of ‘Give a man a fish and he’ll eat for a day… teach a man to fish and he’ll eat for a lifetime.’ If I were to hand a perfect partner on a silver platter to someone who had yet to be able to attract such a partner from their own efforts, one of two things would most likely happen. 1. They wouldn’t ..read more

Looking for loving words to say during sex? Enter: loving dirty talk! Some of my long-term readers might be surprised to learn that several of my highest-ranked articles of all time are all around the theme of dirty talk. Dirty talk for beginners, dirty talk that men love to hear, how to dirty talk via text… I’ve got it all covered! When I look back through these older articles of mine, I notice how the majority of the dirty talk phrases are more appropriate for early dating/newer relationships, as opposed to marriage or longer-term/more established relationships. So today, I thought I would w ..read more

Do you want to give your man the best blowjob of his life, and make him sexually obsessed with you? Enter: blowjob dirty talk! A long-time client of mine recently emailed me the following question: “My husband loves it when I dirty talk during blowjobs. I know that this is one of his favorite things, and yet I can only ever think of a small handful of things to say. His birthday is coming up and I want to surprise him with some new phrases! I am not particularly shy, I guess I’m just not that creative and don’t know what else to say beyond the most basic, standard things. So… any advice on bl ..read more

Think you’re ready for a relationship with a conscious man? The truth might surprise you. If you have been single for years, and yet you have the desire to be in a committed relationship with a man who meets you on all levels, there could be some unconscious blocks that are keeping you from attracting him. Before you set out your ‘Welcome’ mat, consider these eight reasons why your current self might not be attracting the deep, meaningful connection you seek. Why You Won’t Attract A Conscious Man 1. You don’t believe that they exist The most foundational reason that women don’t attract a cons ..read more

I’ve written before about cognitive biases, and today, I’m going to speak to a different one and help you use it to improve your marriage (or any romantic relationship you’re in). Us humans have what is commonly referred to as a ‘negativity bias.’ Which is a fancy way of saying that we’re better at thinking of worst-case-scenarios than we are at thinking up positive solutions to our problems. What does this have to do with improving your marriage? Well, if you ask someone, ’Can you think of nine significant ways to improve your marriage, starting today?’ they might be able to do it ..read more

On January 26th, 2013, I officially launched this business of mine. Whether you’re a self-employed business owner and looking to shortcut some of my hard-earned wisdom, or just a reader of my work who is curious about peeking behind the curtain of a different aspect of my process, there will be something for you in this article. You may have heard the statistic that 20% of businesses fail in their first year, and 50% fail in their first five years. Personally, I don’t give much attention to statistics like these, because I think they’re next to useless. Who wants to compare themselves to the b ..read more

There are a handful of concepts that are so popular… so everywhere… that every time I see them, I just want to shoot myself in the fucking face. Both the frequency of how often I hear about them and the degree to which people believe in them without question really grinds my gears. So, welcome to my confessional… Where I admit to the seven popular concepts that I treat with the same skepticism as a diet promising you that you can eat infinite Twinkies and still lose weight. And I’ll name it in advance… If some of these sacred cows I’m about to slay are some of your most beloved beliefs that yo ..read more