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What’s your vision for your future? Do you even know? Do you know your vision? Because, if you don’t know what you want the movie of your life to look like, how will you get there? When I am thinking about my happy place, here’s what I see in the little cloud above my head: I am in California, where one of my sons lives, with a little house and a little pool out back. My children and grandchildren are there visiting me for the holidays. I am working there in the winter as a comedy writer. It’s summer looking out over a lake with all the kids, grandchildren and friends sitting on the deck out ..read more

Over the next couple of months, I’d like to talk with you about how you see your future, what your dreams look like. OK, it’s hard to know what the future will look like on the other side of the pandemic, but we all have dreams, right? We all have ideas as to what our lives will look like in five, ten, and fifteen years, but does your mission match your vision? Are your daily actions moving you closer to what you want? With so much time to focus on me (way too much time) during the lockdown, something about the way the puzzle of my life was fitting together wasn’t working for me. You know tha ..read more

It’s been a while since I posted anything here and I have to apologize to you. You, my followers, know that I write from the heart, and I just didn’t have it in me. Don’t know why, really, but every time I sat down at the computer, nothing came out. I was empty. Maybe it has to do with this stinkin’ year of 2020. I’m sure I’m not alone when I think about how hard it’s been as a single woman, alone at home, with almost no contact with friends and family during the lockdown. It made me re-assess everything from where I live to how I want to live moving forward and where I want to be (I even put ..read more

It’s hard for me to believe that I’ve been single for five years. In some ways, it seems like just yesterday that I moved out of my marital home, and in others, I can’t even remember what my old, married life was like. So what’s it like after five years single? It’s taken me that much time to come to the realization that my life is my own. I don’t have to make decisions with anyone else in mind now. It’s my turn. I’m sure I could have figured that out about four years ago, but I’m a slow learner. I’ve been trying to get a grip on where I want to go and what I want to do for my remaining years ..read more

This is a repost of an article I wrote for Sixty and Me. Remember, it was before Coronavirus so adjust your thinking accordingly. BY PAULA HARER  •  MARCH 11, 2019  •  MINDSET Having been in a bad marriage for more than 30 years, I thought I was the biggest loser on the planet. I felt I was certainly not attractive and unappealing. I was overweight. I was not good at making money, but I was good at spending them. I wasn’t sexy at all and had zero sex appeal. Guess what I have learned about myself in the last three years since I left  ..read more

Is it better to be single during Coronavirus? Yes! A hundred times yes! Here are a few reasons why. Take showering, for example. Why would I? When was the next time I would see or be around anyone? Five days. Well, there’s plenty of time to bathe within five days. No rush. Who’s going to know? No one can smell me on Zoom! And my dog didn’t seem to mind. What was for dinner? Who cares? Here are several of the meals I had during Coronavirus time: Ice Cream. Peanut butter and celery. Crackers. Cereal. Cheese. Crescent rolls with jam. Buttered pasta. Banana Bread. Carrots. Each one of those made ..read more

Hey Girlie, it’s been a rough few months and weeks, hasn’t it? If you haven’t been touched personally by illness or unrest, you’re lucky. I’m lucky. And, I don’t know one woman who hasn’t used the time to re-evaluate a portion of her life. Money is an issue. Health is an issue. Safety is an issue. Everything is serious. So, I want you to take a breath and do you this week. What do I mean by that? Anything! Do something for yourself this week. And, I don’t mean cut back on sugar. I mean do something this week that is frivolous and fun and only for you. That can be as small as buying a new masc ..read more

As a single woman, you might be in the mood for a date or two, now that you’ve been at home forever. Are you wondering how you can manage dating and social distancing at the same time. I am. I’m ready to be a little more social and have a little less distancing! How can I do that and stay safe? During my time at home, I missed social interaction, mostly with my close friends and with my children, of course. But, I also missed the opportunity to meet someone who I might like to go out to dinner with or even a movie. Ha! Movies! Remember those? Here are some suggestions for dating during social ..read more

What change did you make after being locked down for three months? For me, I learned that I need to use the good stuff for myself and not just for others. There is a fragrance that I love and have worn for several years. It’s expensive. So, when I became single and felt like I needed to be a little more frugal, I decided to wear it just for special occasions. I have a less expensive fragrance that I wear daily. Very cost-conscious of me, don’t you think? I volunteer at a women’s prison and the women love the smell of that expensive stuff: they comment on it every single time I walk in. So I s ..read more