Here we are; 7 months into the pandemic. In the UK, we are in lockdown in multiple regions and despite the resistance of the politicians it seems inevitable that further restrictions will be required. The initial feelings towards the pandemic of fear, dread and camaraderie have faded.  To me it seems that what’s replaced it are feelings of resignation, boredom and resistance. Though this time we know a little better what to expect and therefore the fear is not so acute, there is a new bleakness about the situation. Queuing outside of supermarkets in the rain, freezing for outside meet ups ..read more

Well bloody hell. Here I am; forty years old. As it happens, I feel like I have laid the foundation for a happy and fulfilled life. I am the most content I have ever been. Of course there are still challenges, wouldn’t it be boring if there weren’t? But I have a structure; a core set of values that underpin everything I do - a three legged stool, if you will. It is as follows; Presence. Eckhart Tolle says that 95% of our suffering happens in the past or the future. Think about all the time that you have spent agonising about how you could have done things differently, or future tripping - im ..read more

Western politics has entered a new era where populist leaders who lack the expertise for their role rule. In the US and UK the pandemic response has been abysmal, leading to many thousands, if not tens of thousands of avoidable deaths. In the midst of all this these leaders seem intent on stirring up a culture war stoking the fires of division rather than seeking to unify their respective countries. While employing these distraction tactics they continue to take actions to grab more power and implement policy for the benefit of their wealthy influencers at the expense of the most vulnerable in ..read more

Knowing who we are is the home that we return to when the world shifts around us.  I have roles; telecoms sales person and coach. Sister, aunt, daughter. Friend. Lover. These roles are not who I am.  I am; brave, strong, sensitive and sure. I’m a leader. I’m kind and clear. Generous. I am an animal of the earth. A piece of the universe.  Who are you?  If you need help defining your values, book a free clarity call on my home page ..read more

Acceptance of a relationship ending can be one of the hardest emotional situations for we humans to navigate, that’s for sure. Pop culture relationship intelligence would have us believe that in order to move on from a relationship fully, we need our former partner to provide us with some form of ‘closure’ or that we need to provide it to them. I want to challenge this in this article and to let you know that the only person that you need for closure, is you and that it is not a gift that you can give to someone else. After breaking off my first engagement, a few months had passed and I got ba ..read more

I am writing this article as someone who no longer gets lonely. I thought that I might, during the pandemic lock down, as I live alone and am single, but so far and entering my 5th week of working from home, I am not. To write this article, I’ve taken myself back to the times that I have felt lonely, to understand what I do now that I didn’t do then so that I can pass that on to you. The loneliest times in my life have been the times where I have felt misunderstood. In particular, throughout my 20s and within certain relationships. My 20s were spent spending money that I didn’t have, heavy dri ..read more

Hello to all of you cohabitees! I hope that you are all coping as well as can be expected in these pandemic times. Last week I wrote about isolation for those of us who are single and living alone. This article is about the challenges that we face when living in close proximity to others with little opportunity to escape. Here are my tips on how to make it through. Routine The majority of us are finding that our lives are severely disrupted by this pandemic but it is really important to create new routines to keep us stable and sane. Try to ensure that you are still getting out of bed early on ..read more

This article is for singles and people living alone. I will write a separate one for cohabitees next week. I’ve now been working from home for over two weeks and as I live alone, the isolation is real. Under current UK government guidelines, I’m not officially allowed to see anyone as they’re advising against interaction between households. I’ve talked before about being single and feeling lucky because I don’t get lonely. My weekends now are not too dissimilar from how they used to be. But there are some things that I feel differently about and these are those and what I’m doing to overcome t ..read more

Well; things are not the same as they were last week, are they? With many millions of us being told to stay at home, here’s some suggestions about how to cope with our new way of life. Create a new routine. Routine is really important for us humans. Routine grounds and anchors us. The likelihood is that your routine has been tossed out of the window by government guidance; home working, school and gym closures etc. Create a new routine and stick to it. Have a timetable for you and your children and divide the day up into work, exercise, rest activities and learning. Get out of bed at the same ..read more

Well these are unprecedented times indeed. Listening to and reading the news can be incredibly worrying and people are responding to fear in some fairly inexplicable ways, like stockpiling toilet paper for example. Here I’ve laid out some recommendations of how we get through this. Prepare, but don’t panic. It’s normal to want to protect yourself from uncertainty and it’s perfectly OK to do some food shopping and include some more non-perishable items, but when people start panic-buying it tends to snowball and that’s when the most vulnerable among us suffer. Think of others as well as yoursel ..read more