In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we have the return of Simon (March 15th, 2021 survivor story episode). Simon grew up with an emotionally stunted narcissistic father, and we delve into some stories about the construct that his father built surrounding his trauma and how Simon is the intergenerational trauma collateral damage. Plus, we discuss his mother’s complicity and how the effects of that gaslighting still hinder him.  *** We had some sound issues in this episode, so please forgive us. *** To listen to Simon’s original recording, click here. If you want to be a guest on our ..read more

Maya thought she met the man of her dreams. Everything about him seemed perfect. However, Maya would soon find out that the man of her dreams was actually an escalating emotional abuser. Maya shares the lessons she learned about red flags, the alarming signs of abuse, control dynamics, constant criticisms, and the corrosive impact of societal expectations.  It’s a story of coercive control, putdowns, escalations, achieving, moving goal posts, entitlement, creating chaos, post separation abuse, long distance relationships, zero accountability, court, sexual coercion, truth telling, t ..read more

Tahiry was in a long-distance relationship with a spiritual leader, but it wasn’t until they moved in with each other that Tahiry started learning about his controlling and abusive behavior. As Tahiry did her best to cope with the abuse, she uncovered that her partner was also a sexual predator, using her as cover as he assaulted women in the spiritual community. It’s a story of facades, being used, spiritual abuse, blame shifting, putdowns, sexual assault, addiction, hierarchies, predatory behavior, ptsd, and guilt by association. *** CONTENT WARNING – This episode discusses physical abuse a ..read more

In this survivor story, Romana discusses the emotional and physical abuse she endured at the hands of her mother, the dissociation it created, and how everything effected her future abusive relationships. Of the many abusive relationships Romana endured, the most abusive one was with her first ex-husband, who became her lifelong stalker.  It’s a story of intergenerational trauma, emotional abuse, subjectivity, boundaries, support, attachment trauma, manipulation, coercive control, triangulation, physical abuse, sexual assault, suicide, stalking, and healing. *** CONTENT WARNING – This ep ..read more

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses the role of feelings/body sensation language and how it can help an abuse survivor translate their story more effectively to themselves and to others. Brandon delves into the importance of visual language through metaphors and analogies, helping create a fuller picture of what your emotions will look and feel like. The more visual you can get, the more impact your feelings and body sensation language can be, and for an abuse survivor to leave abuse, get support, and heal. To listen to our Slot Machine/Trauma Bond Analogy epis ..read more

Naomi was just out of a failed marriage, living on her mother’s couch, when a wolf in sheep’s clothing swooped in to save her. He helped Naomi move out, got her a job, and lavished her with expensive gifts. However, once they got an apartment of their own, Naomi’s abuser began to show signs of coercive control.  It’s a story of shame, guilt, financial abuse, gaslighting, putdowns, sexual coercion, sexual assault, jealousy, coercive control, intimidation, isolation, rage, feeling trapped, minimization, fawning, threats, and the support of your friends. *** CONTENT WARNING – This episode d ..read more

Brandon welcomes back our previous guest, Sharon, to share her insightful journey toward self-discovery and healing from narcissistic abuse. This eye-opening conversation aims to shed light on the importance of recognizing our programming created by intergenerational trauma and abusive relationships, leading to conscious efforts to break the cycles of abuse. We also discuss how our survival mechanisms can sometimes betray us, especially when they are exploited by abusers. And drawing from personal experiences, we delve into the process of learning to trust again and the importance of protecti ..read more

Kate met her abuser at a musical jam, and they hit it off instantly. The relationship progressed quickly, with Kate finding herself at her abuser’s home five days a week. From there, Kate’s abuser hijacked her time, manipulating her into self-isolation, and once that was accomplished, he began to destabilize her in any way he could. It’s a story of time control, minimization, denial, blame, guilt, animal abuse, child abuse, child sexual abuse, people pleasing, intimidation, support, destabilization, addiction, rage, boundaries, and trauma binds. *** CONTENT WARNING – This episode discusses Ch ..read more

Join us on this eye-opening discussion on Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A as we dissect the fabric of lies that often underpin abusive relationships. In the first part of our conversation, we uncover the three major untruths that abusers project onto their victims: victims are responsible for the abuser’s happiness, victims are responsible for the abuser’s anger, and victims are responsible for fixing the relationship. We explore how these manipulative falsehoods can lead to self-abandonment, self-doubt, and the false illusion of happiness.  In the latter half of our episode, we shift focu ..read more

Cam grew up under the intense scrutiny of a high-control religion. From the relentless bullying at school to the physical abuse he experienced at home, Cam couldn’t take it anymore and eventually ran away. Cam opens up about his indoctrination into the Jehovah’s Witness religion, how it led him into an abusive relationship, and how the toxic dynamics prevented him from leaving his marriage. It’s a story of people pleasing, being good enough, gaslighting, financial abuse, indoctrination, spiritual abuse, PTSD, divorce, putdowns. physical abuse, suicidal ideation, self harm, anger, rage, loneli ..read more