This piece is written by Hayley Quinn - a top UK Dating Coach in London Break-ups are disorientating: especially when they catch you blindsided. You can find yourself confused, broken hearted and trying to make sense of where you are now. I’m not going to lie, it is tough going! As a dating coach, I often get asked how do you get over a break-up? The best answer to this is simply that you change and grow as a person, into a new version of yourself, who just can’t have the same feelings and attachments that the old version of you did. If this feels a million miles from where you are today: try ..read more

My younger brother messaged me today saying he got his first “hater” commenting on his music on Soundcloud. His music is experimental and dark screamo-rap. Not exactly my cup of tea, but it’s certainly creative and different! I told him, not everyone will appreciate his music. But he doesn’t need to please everyone, especially perhaps the mainstream, classical or pop-rock listeners. He just needs to focus on his tribe – which is people who like rap as well as weird and experimental music. Marmite and subjectivity Like Marmite - some people love it, others hate it. It’s a matter of personal pre ..read more

As a socially responsible coach, I am hereby pledging 10% of my coaching revenue to COVID-19 related charity support until 1st September 2020. Why I'm making this pledge Like many other coaches, I got into this industry to help others - not to just make a profit. I like helping others and solving problems. My work feels really meaningful and rewarding. The scarcity (fear) part of me says, “We should hoard every single penny and make sure that we have enough money!” The abundant baller (faith) part of me says, “There will be enough to go around. So let’s relax and help others.” Yes, business is ..read more

Why I hired a life coach in the first place “If nothing changes, nothing changes” 12-Step Recovery Slogan Well, naturally, as a life coach myself, I believe in life coaching. And like most human beings, I have my own challenges, limitations, problems as well as goals, aspirations and dreams. I’ve hired three life coaches to date - all are excellent, highly trained and all three happen to be German for some reason. They’re are also great people who I respect. My emotional intelligence improved My coach introduced me to the Enneagram which shone a massive spotlight on my character. This was pr ..read more

Please note: this article should not be interpreted as medical advice. Seek professional or medical help immediately if you are experiencing a mental health crisis. The curse of anxiety and depression “Symptoms of depression and feelings of insecurity, inferiority and fear of failure are the hallmarks of our late modern achievement society” Byung-Chul Han Anxiety and depression are horrible things to have. But what if simply by adjusting our focus could help reduce or even cure anxiety or depression? As someone who has suffered with both anxiety and depression, if you experience either, my h ..read more

Most attractive qualities study I conducted an online survey on 250+ women and 60+ men about the most (and least) attractive intrinsic qualities, where I had participants select from over 12 instrinsic qualities. In addition, I asked about how important looks and status are. Why I did this study I wanted to know exactly what women found attractive in men on an intrinsic level; how is that some men, who are not that physically attractive, can get women who are very attractive? Evidently, there’s some magic going on - and I intend to reverse-engineer that magic. The results are surprising I won ..read more

7 Steps to finding your dream career I hesitated writing this post, but then I remembered a phrase I read: “give away your best material for free”. Not just from a marketing and SEO point of view, but from an altruistic point of view. I will not be alive forever; my coaching skills I cannot take with me to the afterlife (as far as I know), so I may as well divulge some of my secrets. Here are 5 steps to finding your dream career: 1. Write down your mission Ask yourself: What’s one thing you really want to change in the world? What does the world really need more or less of? What’s something y ..read more

Meditation - over-prescribed? Something I have noticed recently in the West: meditation is prescribed for everything from mental health to career direction to cancer. While meditation has shown to have positive effects, such as lower blood pressure, lower stress, and is no doubt a useful tool and spiritual practice, it does have its limitations - and even some risks. Let’s explore these below: Meditation can be very difficult For myself included, meditation can be challenging - it certainly has that quality of wanting to make you jump out of your skin. Many people I know find it very hard to s ..read more

Anger is destructive In Alcoholics Anonymous’ “Big Book”, it is claimed that the number one offender for relapse is resentment. I concur: anger can turn the best of men and women into self-sabotaging and destructive beasts. I for one, used to have issues myself. Here’s a few steps on how to manage anger. Step 1: Acknowledge the anger Admitting you are feeling angry is the first step. It’s best to admit that you have been triggered so you can take appropriate and defensive action to protect yourself and others. Step 2: Safely defuse the anger When children have tantrums, they will cry and rage ..read more

Burnout - a disease of the 21st Century. Often it’s something we don’t equate with something good, but rather, as something quite the opposite. If you’re going through burnout, my heart goes out to you. I know how painful it is to go from feeling like you’re an unstoppable machine to being barely able to function. But fear not - this could be the best that’s ever happened to you! Here’s why: 1. It’s an opportunity to stop and re-evaluate your life In the midst of busyness, we can be so busy working IN our lives that we don’t stop enough to work ON our lives. As such, we can unintentionally go ..read more