Weekend open thread – March 2-3, 2024
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20h ago
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager. This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: Swanna in Love, by Jennifer Belle. A teenage girl, dragged with her little brother by their mother to an artist colony where kids aren’t welcome, becomes involved with a much older man. The subject matter is disturbing, but the writing is so good and perfectly captures the weird/heady/terrifying mix of naivete and bravado tha ..read more
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Open thread – March 1-2, 2024
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1d ago
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager. It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on any work-related questions that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to take your questions to other readers. * If you submitted a question to me recently, please do not repost it here, as it may be in my queue to answer. You may also like: we got quizzed on our new boss's horses, family, and vineyard should we put o ..read more
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Is it OK to flirt at networking events, coworker spies on me, and more
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2d ago
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager. It’s four answers to four questions. Here we go… 1. Is it OK to flirt at networking events? The other night I was talking with a friend from grad school. We work in the same field, but not in the same part of the country so our work doesn’t directly overlap anymore. He said he just went to a conference, and at an evening networking event he met a woman around his age and was talking to her. He said that he doesn’t meet women his age much (he’s in his mid 30s) and so he felt like he had to flirt with her, given the chance. I ..read more
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How to ask for a disability accommodation for a job interview
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2d ago
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager. A reader writes: I hoped you could answer a question –– ideally with a disability/employment lawyer or other specialist –– about disclosing disabilities at the interview stage. Your site is emphatic that disabilities should not be disclosed until an offer is received, due to the possibility for (unconscious) discrimination. This makes sense, but it leaves out folks who have invisible disabilities which may need to be addressed for the interview to go well –– among other disabilities, these may include autism and ADHD, which ..read more
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Update: recovering professionally after an internet hate campaign
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2d ago
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager. Remember the letter-writer trying to recover professionally after an internet hate campaign against her? Earlier updates are here, and here’s the latest. So much has happened since then (I can’t believe it’s been eight years!) both in the industry and professionally. After I left my former company, I took some time working for other companies and writing for myself. I moved around a bit, tried my hand in some different industries, wrote a (yet unpublished) novel. Just before Covid hit, some friends of mine contacted me. The ..read more
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It’s Leap Day! let’s discuss ridiculous workplace policies
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2d ago
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager. It’s Leap Day and so in honor of the Leap Year employee who finally gets her birthday off this year, we must talk about bizarre, nonsensical policies your employers have had. Did they ban humor? Refuse to let you say “how are you?”  to customers? Tell you that you couldn’t wear your wedding ring because it wasn’t gold or silver? Only let employees born on Leap Day have their birthday off once every four years? Please share any particularly ridiculous policies you’ve encountered at work in the comments. You may also like ..read more
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Do I have to drive my employee’s employee, AI attending meetings, and more
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3d ago
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager. It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Do I have to drive my employee’s employee? I have an employee (there is a middle manager between us, so I am his grandboss) who doesn’t have a car. He was told when he got hired he needed a car for this job and he said he would get one. So far, he has Ubered to get to where he needs to be. I don’t care how he gets to and from work/other events he needs to attend for his job as long as he is reliably on time (this has not been an issue so far). However, he often asks for ri ..read more
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Can I teach a very disorganized employee to be more independent?
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3d ago
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager. A reader writes: I have a question about helping my employee get organized. She has two pivotal job duties which are closely tied but not directly linked — I could technically have two people doing each piece separately, but the volume as a small business doesn’t warrant that number of employees. Think the relationship between taking orders and billing/collecting for orders, but not producing the product. Lenore is great at taking the orders — we almost never have an issue with making sure we got the order and it’s complete ..read more
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Update: can I offer to pay a coworker’s vet bill?
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3d ago
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager. Remember the letter-writer wondering if they could offer to pay a coworker’s vet bill (#2 at the link)? Here’s the update. I reached out to my coworker the evening that the letter was published. I texted him and made the offer to cover the testing for a diagnosis, up to a certain amount of money, and that if he was uncomfortable with it, he was free to ignore the text completely. He responded back and was very grateful for the offer! He said that he had just been telling his partner that he wished someone would offer to hel ..read more
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Should I tell my boss my coworker is working a second job during her hours for us?
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3d ago
This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager. A reader writes: I wanted to get your thoughts on something that has bugged me for a while. My coworker has a second job as a photographer and does photoshoots during work hours when we are required to be in the office (only three days a week, mind you). I am aware that Covid created a new way of making money with side hustles and taking on a second remote job, but we are required to be in the office three days a week, and she will show up for a few hours one day, and then we won’t see her for two weeks. To add to that, she ..read more
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