Ask anyone “What’s the most important thing for a healthy relationship?”, and 9 times out of 10 you’ll hear ‘communication’ as the response. Respectfully, they’re wrong. Yes, communication is an important tool. But it’s not the most beneficial area to focus your relationship efforts. So what is? You guessed it – emotional intimacy. Because according to the data, emotional intimacy is the single most important factor for a fulfilling relationship.* More than sex, more than shared interests, and more than good communication. So what exactly is emotional intimacy? Why is it so important, and h ..read more

There’s one common scene in cinema and TV that never fails to make us cringe: You know that moment when the two main characters finally give in to their lust for each other…? Where he pushes her against a wall (or a desk, or the kitchen bench)… hitches up her skirt… and just… Sticks it right in ? Eugh. Even just writing that makes us recoil. Yet we see this same kind of wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am on our screens over and over again. Why? Because apparently it’s “passionate”. Now, don’t get us wrong – we’re all for passionate sex. We LOVE passionate sex. But in our not-so-humble opinion, Holly ..read more

Picture this: you and your partner are an unstoppable team. You trust and support each other unconditionally. You feel safe, secure, and totally loved up. And you know that whatever comes your way, the two of you will conquer it, together. That’s the magic of an emotionally-connected relationship. But here’s the catch – it doesn’t happen by chance. Even in our own marriage, there are times when we’re distracted and don’t feel as close as we’d like to. But we’re careful not to neglect our relationship for too long: Left unchecked, a relationship with no emotional connection is at high risk of ..read more

After only 18 months of dating, we realized we were in a Dead Bedroom. To say this came as a shock would be an understatement. How TF did this happen? Our relationship was way too new… We loved each other way too much… And yet the evidence was undeniable. All the glaring, tell-tale signs that our once-passionate sex life had shriveled up and died: Reece trying to initiate, only to get rejected and shut down. Jodie feeling pressured and guilty for never being in the mood. And for the first time in our relationship, the endless blaming and hurtful arguments about sex. Like most sexless couple ..read more

Depending on what your childhood was like, you may not have seen the best examples of a healthy marriage growing up. Yet despite the bad experiences – or perhaps because of them – here you are, wanting to create a more loving, more fulfilling marriage. You don’t just want an average marriage though. You want something exceptional. But what are the most important things in a marriage? What kinds of marriage goals should you and your partner have? How can you be a more conscious partner, and how do you build a successful marriage? Creating a conscious marriage can help. What is a Conscious Mar ..read more

When left unchecked, resentment in marriage is fatal. It destroys the love and leaves you feeling bitter and angry towards your partner. But the surprising thing about resentment is that when approached correctly, it can actually be an unexpected gift. In fact, knowing how to overcome resentment in our marriage has helped us to address important relationship issues and create an even stronger marriage – and a better sex life. In this blog you’ll learn exactly how to deal with resentment in your marriage, including: What causes resentment in a marriage, and the toxic signs to watch out for ..read more

No matter how long you’ve been married, you can always strengthen and improve your relationship. You just need the right tools. In this post, you won’t find the same old generic marriage tips for husbands that you’ve heard before. Instead, you’ll get cutting-edge marriage advice based on: the latest evidence-based scientific studies the hard lessons learned from my own marriage the insights and wisdom gained from helping other husbands improve their marriage over the past 7 years . So if you want to know how to improve your marriage, how you can be a better man to your wife, and be ..read more

At its most basic, a relationship check in is a structured time for couples to assess the health of their relationship. When done right, this foundational relationship practice allows you to address underlying issues, capitalize on what’s working, and plan for your future together. Relationship check ins are also known as a marriage meeting, a couples check-in, a relationship check up, a “state of the union” meeting, or as we sometimes call them, a relationship review. But whatever you call it, the aim is the same: To help your relationship be the best that it can be, and to make sure you ..read more

A marriage with no emotional intimacy is one of the most common (and painful) marital complaints reported by couples: It keeps you up at night, worrying about what’s wrong with your relationship and whether your marriage can last. It leaves you feeling frustrated, disconnected, and alone. But no matter how emotionally disconnected you might feel right now, the good news is that you can rebuild connection in your relationship. And take it even deeper than you’ve ever experienced before. In this blog, you’re going to learn: What exactly a lack of emotional intimacy is Why relationships lose ..read more

Emotional intimacy is one of the most beautiful, fulfilling things the human experience has to offer. It’s one of our core fundamental needs, and it’s a key reason we seek out and enter into relationships: To experience loving and being loved To share and connect through our inner worlds To be known, and to know another deeply Yet despite its importance to us, exactly how to build emotional intimacy is often confusing, frustrating, and overwhelming. But building emotional intimacy is a skill. And just like any other skill, it’s one that can be developed. In this blog, you’re going to lear ..read more