"Unbelievable." (ie: There's no way that's true.) That's how he felt when he heard the transformation stories. He was in a place of desperation.  Being in the marriage felt like a chore.    But that glimmer of hope that kept him listening to the transformation stories made him wonder if he should take the leap of faith and schedule the free Clarity Call ( delightyourmarriage.com/cc )  Well, he did.  His wife didn't know.   We don’t make these stories up. Maybe your marriage could be next. We invite you to schedule a free, no obligation call at delightyourmarriage ..read more

There are so many people I wish I could help when I meet them at the playground, park, at a party... so here it is.    Marriage can be tough. VERY tough. And there is a dearth of helpful insight nowadays.  My content is focused towards people who follow the teachings of Jesus. But I really want to give you help because, from one perspective, we may not even be able to ask the hard philosophical questions about "is there a God?" or "what is Truth?" if we're bogged down with so much emotional pain in our marriage.   So, I tried my best in this episode to give you a roadmap at ..read more

Their marital intimacy never seemed to be right. Early on, they struggled with infertility and then a heartbreaking miscarriage. God did give them a baby (praise God!), and then that was another layer of challenge. But she couldn't seem to get intimacy "right." And she knew he wasn't satisfied. And that was a big dig to her confidence. Consistently. Which impacted their relationship. She decided to take the brave step and schedule the Clarity Call (with wonderful Dana). But even just on that call, she felt so heard and cared for. And had a twinkle of hope.   Now... She sees sex as pure an ..read more

My goal today is to inspire a curious heart.  Could God have really designed men and women differently? Could your differences truly be HIS design? Could it be that "in His own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female he created them.” Gen 1:27   Could your husband's member be God-designed?   Could it be that sex is God-designed? Could there be a reason God's boundaries around this gift are all over the Bible?  Could loving your husband well (loving your husband the way he receives love) bring God glory?   Love & Blessings, Belah   PS -- Thi ..read more

So, I think God gives us opportunities to change all the time. Change the way we think, the way we are, the way we understand the world.    And it makes me sad when so many of us choose to assume this is as good as it gets and we're not going to be able to do anything to make it better. Nothing in the world has ever improved with that kind of thinking. Ever.   To me, that's a very negative mindset called "wallowing."   I think it's childish, in fact. (I say that with conviction because I've been there far too often myself!) I think God wants us to take our power back and st ..read more

Hi, dear sisters.   My husband felt inspired to share some thoughts with you.    Actually, I was trying to communicate something to wives that I just kept re-recording and re-recording and I just couldn't get it right.    So I brought in the big guns. Yes... my husband is here to communicate what I couldn't.    I invite you to see how to CATCH what may be most important for you to hear.    May God work in your heart as you listen so that you will remember what He wants you to hear through this.   Love,  Belah   PS - If you are ready t ..read more

You may be on a journey to get a better marriage...  But do you know where you are right now?    The trouble is when people with a 9/10 marriage give advice to someone with a 2/10 marriage...  It doesn't make sense. AND a left turn at the WRONG TIME could lead to disaster. That is why we developed the Marital Health Assessment, a tool you can use to determine if you're on track in your marriage.    Or if you need a left turn now or to stay straight for another 37 exits :)   I invite you to take this free Marital Health Assessment to determine where you are no ..read more

Roy was married 25 years with 5 kids. And they had a good marriage. They love the Lord and seek to serve Him with all. Intimacy was tough though. And every time he brought it up, she would get defensive, or feel like she wasn't good enough, or like he'll never be satisfied. Anyone else feel that way?  He had heard about Masculinity Reclaimed for a couple of years and finally decided it was time.  He kept hitting a wall.    And if you're in that place, I want you to know... It's legitimate that issues around intimacy hurt. They hurt deeply.    But Roy got to a plac ..read more

Is what you're doing in your marriage right now working for you?    Do you feel hopeless?   Are you lonely in your marriage?    If you believed that your actions alone could make a difference, if you knew the tools to use to make a difference in your marriage, would you be willing to use them?   Tom's story is inspiring and is not unique to graduates of Delight Your Marriage programs.   Praise God, the tools given to married individuals through our programs have moved so many marriages into places of hope, joy, and a much greater degree of the abundant life t ..read more

Is there dignity in humility?  Is there dignity in humiliation?  Initially, you might think not.    But then we have to take a moment to consider the cross. An excruciating death, reserved not for Roman citizens, but for rebels and slaves...  because it was SO  SO humiliating.   And yet, the God of glory, the One who DESERVES all glory and honor...  HUMILIATED Himself not only to come as a baby, giving up His power, constraining himself to human form, and giving up his rights in an infinite number of ways...   to then suffer the humiliation, the pai ..read more