Context: I’m 21 M living in Melb, Australia. Event: I’m created a boiler room party event on FB with 50 invites, however with 2 days til the event, only 2 ppl said ‘going’ and 8 said ‘can’t go’. I have invited people from multiple friendship groups: from work, uni, high school friends and holiday trips. This party is held at home in April, which is during uni semester. Question: Ive seen my mates host parties where they are able to bring 20-100 people, but it seems like no one is excited. I hate treated as a ‘background character’ or NPC. What are some good tips with this? submitted by /u/To ..read more

I have made a few acquaintances from frequenting the same gym but I mostly keep to myself. There's been times when Ive wanted to make more possible friends there but it always feels too awkward for example. I have no issue going up to someone and talking to them about anything but its the following interactions I find to be awkward. Like next time I'm there and see them do I say hi to them? Every single time now?? Do we go back to ignoring each other as we did before. Or head nod of acknowledgement now. Only stop to talk once in a while? I know it seems like overthinking but I genuinely dont ..read more

Hi everyone, For the last 2-4 years I feel like I don’t have any friends, I do hangout with my cousins sometimes but it’s weird because they are usually way older or younger than me, I don’t have any real friends of my own. In high school I was well known for playing football/basketball and baseball along with captaining football and baseball but I never felt like I had a real best friend who I could talk to I was always just floating around different friend groups. I had two messy relationships in high school which didn’t go great and now I’m just scared to talk to anyone. I’m currently in m ..read more

35(m) literally every female I’ve ever gotten a rapport built with, we’ve ended up going beyond just being friends and it killed the friendship forever. 8 so far. The 9th one I ended up marrying, and I’m extremely happy with my marriage. But since my marriage I’ve been ultra conscious when interacting with females because of my history. Like I kinda put a figurative wall around myself while conversing with women, and there’s never a connection, never. Now I miss having a close female friend I can share and discuss with, cos I genuinely believe they get something different and vital to a conve ..read more

90% of the time i start a convo with the "how have you been", "what have you been up to", "hows this" etc. But once i get caught up on everything i have no clue what to talk about. Its worst when i dont know the person because once i find out where they're from, what they do, ect. i dont know what to talk about & start overthinking & just go silent lol Anything helps thanks! submitted by /u/daniel20089 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

I’m 22M and I recently reconnected with a friend group after a long time. When playing games with them, I realized that I didn’t like the way they act. Playing the game like a bunch of kids (yelling, just trying to be loud, screaming tiktok/vine phrases, mocking anyone like me, but also a couple of other folks who show the slightest intent of being serious). They also kind of act like this irl too at a lesser degree. I’m wondering it’s a problem on their end or mine (because I grew up too fast or if I’m being too serious) Now I’ll probably have a discussion with them directly in a bit, but I ..read more

I feel like this has translated into my social life because when I’m out in public I don’t feel comfortable enough to approach new people and make new connections unless I drink. Breaking the ice is the hard part, I can keep up a convo oddly enough. submitted by /u/bluepawn1 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

I (19F) am in a small and collaborative college major, where maybe 60% of my assignments are group work. Because of that, everyone in my major knows eachother, and everyone has formed these tight knit circles- excluding me. Past the overly-social freshman year, I've been so blatantly avoided that I've had to work on group projects alone, and it's just making everything so difficult. (Note: This is strictly a major-related social problem. People outside my major treat me well, and my few close friends are the only people keeping me going) ------------ Where to start. I guess, like everyone on ..read more

I dont get it. Literally for the last 6-8 years all I've ever wanted is to have a good group of friends (6 - 10 people or so) that I can consistently hangout with and do fun things with like host parties, plan trips, meet up with on holidays, etc. But I'm literally going into my fourth year of uni and have never had it yet. I have a trio (me and two other people) but a I want to expand the cricle and add more people to it but I don't know how without really forcing it or looking so desperate. submitted by /u/adad239_ [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

What should you say when someone tells you something bad has happened to them? My friend told me something really bad happened to an old co worker of ours, I wasn't sure what to say so I just told her to let him know I'm thinking about him. What are some other options? submitted by /u/Night-Window [visit reddit] [comments ..read more