“Speak Your Kind” is a 14 day marital communication challenge. The purpose of this challenge is to renew marital intimacy and to bring peace and warmth into the atmosphere of your home. Throughout the years, I have been asked to give a short marriage advise statement from a counseling perspective. My response is, “Live intentionally, speak with grace, patience, and kindness, show love and affection in the way that your spouse feels loved, live sacrificially and above all put God first.” In marriage counseling, I see that 99.9% of all relational success and failure depend upon communication. Th ..read more

Have you ever thought about marriage counseling? Fill out the assessment below and see how your marriage holds up! Simple Marriage Agreement Assessment Read the following statements below and mark "agree" or "disagree" with each. 1. I like to pray for and over my spouse. I enjoy worshiping and serving together at our church. We share a biblical worldview. 2. I feel uncomfortable praying aloud together or over my spouse. Church, God and most religious activities do not play a significant role in our life. 3. I am emotionally open and I feel free to share my hopes and dreams as well as my fears ..read more

Can 15-seconds a day impact your marriage? The purpose of the “15-second Hug Challenge” is to increase spiritual, emotional and physical intimacy between couples. What do you think is the leading cause for divorce? Most would say poor communication, endless fighting, financial irresponsibility, infidelity, or addiction. Many people say "I'm just not in love with you anymore." What does that even me? After counseling thousands of couples, it’s clear that these are mere symptoms of a surprisingly much larger issue. The unexpected culprit is our lack of intentionality. We have a tendency to get ..read more

COMMUNICATON Clean, clear, and positive communication is the goal for a successful marriage. Our words carry weight and are powerful. What we say will either build up and encourage or our words will cause pain, belittle, and tear apart. There is no room in any relationship for negative and destructive communication. 15 - 30 Minutes of intentional listening and sharing daily. Pick a designated time of the day for sharing (every night at 8pm). This is an intentional daily routine. Sit facing one another and hold hands. Take turns sharing. It doesn’t matter who starts. This should be a fun time ..read more

In marriage counseling, I find that most couples are working very hard to show one another love. Typically, we show love and affection in the same way that we need it. Showing affection your way can leave your spouse feeling unloved and disconnected. This continual disconnection leads to a lack of spiritual, emotional and physical intimacy which may lead to affairs, addictions and divorce. All we really want is to be loved and accepted. The key is to love your spouse the way they need to be loved and to be loved in the way you need to be loved. The “five love languages” is a great start, but t ..read more

Intentionally connecting The goal of marriage and family counseling is to renew connectivity through intentionality. Typically, life happens and in one way or another we find ourselves completely disconnected from the people we are supposed to be connected to the most, our spouse and/or our children. Every family is different and therefore every disconnected causality is unique. Ultimately, we need to be reconnected and to ensure continued daily connectivity. Intentional with God. Offer the first of your day to God. As Christ renews his mercies every morning, renew your commitment to serving h ..read more

“Speak Your Kind” is a 14 day marital communication challenge. The purpose of this challenge is to renew marital intimacy and to bring peace and warmth into the atmosphere of your home. Throughout the years, I have been asked to give a short marriage advise statement from a counseling perspective. My response is, “Live intentionally, speak with grace, patience, and kindness, show love and affection in the way that your spouse feels loved, live sacrificially and above all put God first.” In marriage counseling, I see that 99.9% of all relational success and failure depend upon communication. Th ..read more

Have you ever thought about marriage counseling? Fill out the assessment below and see how your marriage holds up! Simple Marriage Agreement Assessment Read the following statements below and mark "agree" or "disagree" with each. 1. I like to pray for and over my spouse. I enjoy worshiping and serving together at our church. We share a biblical worldview. 2. I feel uncomfortable praying aloud together or over my spouse. Church, God and most religious activities do not play a significant role in our life. 3. I am emotionally open and I feel free to share my hopes and dreams as well as my fears ..read more

Can 15-seconds a day impact your marriage? The purpose of the “15-second Hug Challenge” is to increase spiritual, emotional and physical intimacy between couples. What do you think is the leading cause for divorce? Most would say poor communication, endless fighting, financial irresponsibility, infidelity, or addiction. Many people say "I'm just not in love with you anymore." What does that even me? After counseling thousands of couples, it’s clear that these are mere symptoms of a surprisingly much larger issue. The unexpected culprit is our lack of intentionality. We have a tendency to get ..read more

COMMUNICATON Clean, clear, and positive communication is the goal for a successful marriage. Our words carry weight and are powerful. What we say will either build up and encourage or our words will cause pain, belittle, and tear apart. There is no room in any relationship for negative and destructive communication. 15 - 30 Minutes of intentional listening and sharing daily. Pick a designated time of the day for sharing (every night at 8pm). This is an intentional daily routine. Sit facing one another and hold hands. Take turns sharing. It doesn’t matter who starts. This should be a fun time ..read more