Whenever two or more people are interacting, there’s a power flow between them – we just don’t know what’s happening.  While water is to fish, power is to people. It is the medium we swim in. But it’s usually invisible to us. We don’t really see it when someone powers up on you or you’re made to feel small when someone’s talking. What is Power?  Power is your fundamental right to think, feel, speak, and act on your own. It’s your right to your voice and your choice. Power is an expression of ourselves. It’s an expression of who we are and an expression of our thoughts, our feelings ..read more

Whenever two or more people are interacting, there’s a power flow between them – we just don’t know what’s happening.  While water is to fish, power is to people. It is the medium we swim in. But it’s usually invisible to us. We don’t really see it when someone powers up on you or you’re made to feel small when someone’s talking. Whether it’s in a parent-child relationship, in a work environment, or even between friends, there is a power flow that exists between two people. What’s important is how we manage the flow of power between us – because sometimes, the flow of power gets messed u ..read more

In many relationships, there seems to be that inflection point where you decide to go forward together, or you decide to go forward separately. But can you come back from years of unhappiness?  Especially, when couples are getting to the empty nester stage, they are asking the question of whether they can come back from this long phase of unhappiness that they’ve had together. It’s complex because there are a lot of things – kids, future grandkids, the house, money, friends, family members – that hold them together.  But those things are not enough to generate happiness. They have to ..read more

Most of us are fairly good at working through minor problems, which are common in every relationship. But when we have those major conflicts, we often don’t have the right kind of tools to communicate our way through them.  What a lot of couples end up doing is stockpiling their problems instead of resolving them. And so, when future conflicts arise, what comes out are reruns from those stockpiled problems – eventually leading to resentment and some emotional drifting.  Here are five steps to help you work through major problems: 1. Focus on the person, not the problem Where we mess ..read more

In many relationships, there seems to be that inflection point where you decide to go forward together, or you decide to go forward separately. But can you come back from years of unhappiness?  Especially, when couples are getting to the empty nester stage, they are asking the question of whether they can come back from this long phase of unhappiness that they’ve had together. It’s complex because there are a lot of things – kids, future grandkids, the house, money, friends, family members – that hold them together.  But those things are not enough to generate happiness. They have t ..read more

Most of us are fairly good at working through minor problems, which are common in every relationship. But when we have those major conflicts, we often don’t have the right kind of tools to communicate our way through them.  What a lot of couples end up doing is stockpiling their problems instead of resolving them. And so, when future conflicts arise, what comes out are reruns from those stockpiled problems. If couples are not good at being able to resolve these things, then they just have more arguments stockpiled. They don’t know how to work through things and start to avoid certain top ..read more

What if you found out that your partner was having an affair?  Can you still rebuild a marriage? How do you navigate getting through or getting past an affair? There are some people that just cannot recover from that level of betrayal. It’s just too much for them that they feel it’s best to dissolve the relationship and move on from it.  There are also couples who, while they may want to end the relationship, have many constraining factors that keep them in, whether it be their kids or a house and so many other factors.  The Impact of an Affair on the Marriage Loss of security ..read more

There are a lot of variables that contribute to why people enter an affair, and one of the most common reasons is that couples are not investing in the marriage.  However, if you’re at this point of your life where you feel miserable in your marriage, or for whatever reason, you no longer think your marriage is working, having an affair should at least be the last thing in your mind, or perhaps, never at all.  Here are five things to consider before you even think of having an affair: The adventure is not worth the risk. People who end up in affairs can end up complicating things b ..read more

What if you found out that your partner was having an affair? Can you still rebuild the marriage? How do you navigate getting through or getting past an affair? There are some people that just cannot recover from that level of betrayal. It’s just too much for them that they feel it’s best to dissolve the relationship and move on from it. There are also couples who, while they may want to end the relationship, have many constraining factors that keep them in, whether it be their kids or a house and so many other factors.  If you find yourself in this position and you’re confused about sta ..read more

Letting go – whether of a loved one you’ve lost or of your resentment towards someone – is an act of self-care. When you hold on to the hurt or resentment, it’s actually harming you more than it’s harming the other person. The process of letting go is just that – it’s a process. It’s a practice that you have to come back to over and over again. Sometimes when we’re holding on, all we can feel is our own pain and hurt. And we really have a hard time looking at the other person from a different lens.  But when you get to a place of letting go, you can start looking at the person with less s ..read more