Your Family Isn’t Broken
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by Amy
1M ago
My parents divorced when I was 5. Throughout my life many people have shared with me that a whole variety of things about me, my potential, the challenges that I would face and how the world would see me are attributable to the fact that I come from a “broken family.”  Here’s the problem with that from my very personal perspective.  My family wasn’t broken. I didn’t feel like it was broken. I don’t remember a time when my parents were married. My parents divorce did not break my family. When people told me that my family was broken …those words hurt. They made me feel like something ..read more
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Group Coaching
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by Amy
3M ago
Let’s talk about group coaching.  First thing – I don’t currently offer a group coaching option for my work. I work with clients 1:1 and I also offer a self-directed course. Part of the reason for this article is to explain why I don’t currently offer a group coaching program.  What is Group Coaching? Group Coaching is when there is one coach for a large number of clients. These programs usually include a “community” with peer-to-peer support. They also often include public coaching where one person shares their struggles in front of the group for the “benefit” of others in the group ..read more
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Why do your stepkids hate you?
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by Amy
7M ago
One of the first articles I wrote on this blog is titled what to do if you think you might hate your stepkids. It was recently suggested to me that I write about this from the angle of why do stepkids seem to hate stepparents.  I want to offer this. Your stepkids probably don’t hate you. On the other hand, that’s not always true. Sometimes a stepkid will hate a stepparent. To be really honest, sometimes there are legitimate reasons for those emotions. I am an advocate for stepparents. I speak out daily to empower the voices of stepparents and reduce the stigma associated with the word.&nb ..read more
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Tips For Setting Boundaries as a Stepparent
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by Amy
9M ago
One of the top questions I hear from new stepparents and people considering becoming stepparents is about setting and enforcing boundaries.  I personally feel that boundaries are an excellent tool for most adults in any kind of family construct including blended families BUT I also personally think that they can be more complicated than people sometimes realize at first.  Let’s talk about boundaries for Stepmoms This is a blog post not a research paper in an academic journal. Every once in a while I get a comment on one of my posts here pointing out that the reader wished for more me ..read more
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I wrote a book for stepparents
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by Amy
9M ago
It’s true. I’m an author. Over the past 12 months, I put a lot of words together based on my experience as a stepmom to be read by other stepparents looking for support. Why write a book? Why did I decide to write a book? That’s an excellent question. The answer is that I think my experience and ideas about stepparenting are valuable and helpful to people who are trying to make a go of being a stepparent. You can read the book and decide for yourself if you agree. You can find the book on Amazon or download a pdf here. What’s Your book about, Amy? Great question. Thanks for asking. The book is ..read more
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What changes happen in a blended family when you add an “ours” baby?
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by Amy
1y ago
What is an ours baby?  This comes from the situation in a blended family where one or both adults may have children from previous relationships. There will be your kids, my kids and then together our kids. The ours baby shares both parents where the earlier siblings may only have one or the other biological parent.  Is that clear. It seems confusing when I write it out.  There is a lot of emphasis on when or if to add an ours baby to a family. I honestly think that’s the wrong focus.  The transition for me was from stepmom to stepmom and mom. My transition to mom included a ..read more
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Are you experiencing an appreciation deficit?
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by Amy
1y ago
Are you experiencing an appreciation deficit? These can pop up in several different situations. These can happen in a work environment and also at home with stepparents and parents. I’ve even seen this come up between siblings.  An appreciation deficit is when you have the perception that you are not getting the appreciation you should be getting. You could replace the word appreciation with gratitude and it works as well.  This is the experience of feeling like you do a lot of things for other people and you are not valued or appreciated for what you do. You might say things like ..read more
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Summer Vacation Stress for Stepparents
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by Amy
1y ago
If you have stepkids that are young enough to be in school then summer vacation may be a time that brings up some stress.  Vacations can be complicated in a blended family. Summer school breaks can be complicated and it can be challenging for stepparents to figure out where they fit, what are their obligations and responsibilities and what’s not. Why is school break over summer vacation stressful? I remember summer vacations as being a wonderful time of no homework and freedom as a kid. I went to summer camps, I hung out with my friends. It was great.  When the kids are not in school ..read more
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Should You Date or Marry Somebody Who Has Kids?
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by Amy
1y ago
My story as a stepmom begins with a decision to date a man who already had 2 children. Honestly, at the time I didn’t even notice that I was making a decision that would impact the rest of my life. I was going to happy hour after work with friends. That’s it. But also true is that this is the start of the story and this is a decision that I made that resulted in my experience as a stepmom.  I meet often meet my coaching clients at one of two points in their journey. Either they are trying to decide whether to commit to making a relationship more serious or they have already committed and ..read more
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Thoughts about Valentine’s Day for Stepmoms and Stepdads
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by Amy
1y ago
How do you feel about Valentines’ Day? I’m not a huge fan. If I’m being honest. That’s on brand for me because I’m not a huge fan of any of the days that declare this is the day to celebrate “this” person … and only this day. Gotta get the gift RIGHT or ELSE. Valentine’s Day can feel tricky in a blended family I honor that Valentine’s Day can be tricky in a blended family if it brings up thoughts of comparison between the new relationship and any prior relationships. I talked to a stepmom recently who’s husband’s earlier marriage was on February 14th. So Valentine’s Day is her husbands old ann ..read more
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