If you are reading this blog you probably have endured narcissistic abuse on some level with someone close, unfortunately. It’s messy isn’t it? It’s a lot isn’t it? At times it feels like it’s too overwhelming to endure, doesn’t it? It’s a lot of calculated shots aimed at you that end up being confusing, all ..read more

Are you around someone who always has to take credit for ideas? Are you close to someone who won’t listen to your thoughts. Are you annoyed by the person who always has to one up you? Well, there may be a reason. Narcissists always have to look superior to others. They always have to take ..read more

Narcissists are experts at giving false hope, false promises, and empty expectations. The reality is just the opposite, but they sure look and sound good don’t they? Do you have someone in your life who often says: “I’ll tell you later,” “more to come,” “I promise…”? Then if you look back and even forward there ..read more

I’ve been researching a lot of things lately and I came across this saying: “The only way out is through it.” It really resonated with me and how appropriate it is of a saying for survivors of domestic abuse. After many decades of life we realize that we go through trials. These trials have a purpose, usually to make us stronger and wiser. Where are you today? Trials in life are difficult. While we are in the middle of it, sometimes we don’t see the other side. We can’t see it because of the fog. Sometimes that fog is deception like from a narcissist. The desperation, the loss of our identity ..read more

  Have you ever wondered what different colors represent or mean? I’ve been hooked on purple lately, because the purple ribbon is a symbol for domestic violence awareness. Domestic violence awareness month is October and the World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD) is June 1st every year. It’s a time to come together and show support.   I’ve always loved the color purple. I searched the internet and found these facts about the color and I wanted to share a few: Sources: https://psychologily.com/color-purple-in-psychology/ and Quotena.com Purple was often associated with royalty, power ..read more

Though I love using analogies when shedding light on narcissism, I thought I would share some information to help those in need currently. Those that don’t know what to do, safely. Narcissists are dangerous, and if you leave you are most in danger over the first three weeks. Remember, narcissists need to control you, and you leaving takes that control away. Here is a website that provides information about domestic violence, whengeorgiasmiled.org. There’s an app for domestic violence prevention called the Aspire News App. It allows victims to call for help immediately. On the website there’s a ..read more

  Are you feeling beat up? You don’t have to have visible bruises to be “beat up.” Emotional abuse is real and just as damaging. I was asked one time if there were visible bruises and when I said no I knew just what this battle was going to be. A battle that was forever uphill.   As victims, we almost wish for black and blue marks just so we are believed. How silly is this? Imagine a world and more importantly the court systems that recognize emotional abuse as a severe crime against our rights. What’s the answer? The uphill battle of he said she said is tortuous, long, and draining. We aren ..read more

  We all have expectations about life, people, and circumstances. We have a “norm” that we point our moral compass to. We usually don’t even think about it unless something happens out of the “norm” and it catches our attention. Even then we still might not sit and ponder the events like we should in order to get to the truth. The tugging of how it should be keeps us in a toxic relationship for too long and keeps us from digging deeper into what reality is and what we deserve.    Making excuses for a narcissist is very common. I did it. ”Oh he is sick today. It will get better. He is just hav ..read more

  Entering a relationship with a narcissist is like entering a tunnel. There’s an excitement at the beginning because it’s a new journey. A journey that you assume will be safe, fun, new, and adventurous. Well, it’s a journey for sure. There is some excitement and lots of surprises along the way, but it’s not what you think. Not at all.   A lot of us don’t realize what we are getting ourselves into when we start a relationship with a narcissist. Most of us don’t even know the true meaning of the word, let alone know what’s in store for us. As we enter into the relationship further, the bright ..read more

  I’m so grateful to be alive today, to share with you once again from my heart. This is my zone of service to all of you who are interested in narcissism and who are survivors of their abuse. It’s a deep connection we have and one that needs to continue and be shared with others.   Narcissists are calculated individuals. They plan their attack on their victims with never-ending energy that exhibits no boundaries. The damage goes in every direction and the clean up can take a long time unless you are empowered with knowledge. This is where I come in. :-)   Narcissists are good at setting you ..read more