We have all experienced emotional dysfunction at some point in our lives. And we all respond differently to the internal conflicts trauma creates. It’s not surprising that we become affected – stress is inescapable. It may be a big event that tips us off balance. Childhood trauma can send us on a path of self-destruction unless we find resolve and forgiveness. It might just be a series of misfortune that can cause us to resent the journey we’re walking. Either way, suffering from the effects of suppressed resentment and anger drags us into a life of emotional intoxication. People like me, who ..read more

I remember having toothache in my early twenties. I hadn’t been to a dentist for years: I didn’t even know where to start getting in to see one but got desperate. I lost sleep for days and tried everything to kill the pain. At one point, I caused myself damage with a screw driver and a hammer, trying to extract the tooth myself  And I will never forget the sheer releif I felt once I finally got to a dentist and got the nasty little bastard removed. I couldn’t have imagined that intense nerve pain never ending, and what it would have done to me mentally had I not got it resolved.  I s ..read more

Like it or not, when we become parents, we become role models. It doesn’t matter what our life looked like before – we have to change for the better. Being a father to four daughters brings a wealth of responsibility. For one, I am the man they will judge all other men by. That’s a heavy weight: no matter how you dress it up. My principles matter. My character is just as important. How I hold myself as a man will affect them for the rest of their lives. I understand that I am not perfect. My past is questionable, to say the least. I have been a spiteful drunk, mentally ill, and so self-absorbe ..read more

As parents, we have to teach our children how to behave. We have to discipline them out of the hitting stages of the terrible two’s. They have to learn how to not react out of anger when upset. How to get their emotions under control so they can play well with other children and practice patience. It’s all a part of development into healthy habits. So the question is, how are you doing in this area? Are you short fused with your kids and people around you? Are you a reactionary person who is causing discord in your relationships? Are you argumentative when you don’t get your own way? Are your ..read more

I talk to a lot of men who admit they experience depression directly after birth. Once the baby has come home, the reality of the situation hits. And it hits hard. I’m not a fan of the term ‘post natal depression in men’ it’s a mislabelling. Men do not experience the physical and emotional trauma women go through to bring a child into the world. Saying men experience the same is to suggest their post baby depression is somehow directly linked to the child. This incorrect diagnosis has ramifications. Because when men see their baby as the sole cause of their depression. It’s an open door for re ..read more

Each morning, i get up and meditate. It’s  become a vital practice for myself and my family. When I began almost a decade ago It fast became apparent that I had discovered an incredible power that would not only free me from the shackles of my past, but direct my life towards improvement and spiritual wellness. As a dad, it has brought me to a place where I am no longer affected by emotions to the point that they overwhelm me. It’s not a bad deal for a man with a history of serious mental health problems and a personality disorder. I don’t bite into anger with my children. I may raise my ..read more

Hi all Today is the last day you will be able to download my literary offering to the world free of charge. It’s my gift to you. This is my personal journey into fatherhood. From overcoming mental illness and alcoholism to dealing with the pregnancy and birth of my incredible daughters. I wanted this book to benefit all men and women who may be struggling with the adjustment of new parenthood. It’s not a parenting manual. But I believe there is something to offer within these pages. Plus, it’s a damn good read, I’m told. Enjoy ..read more

From today until Tuesday the 29th of March, I am giving my book away for free to download. This is my journey into fatherhood. And as you’d expect from me, it wasn’t a straightforward road. Enjoy, and please share ..read more

A mental health post. 2min read. It’s a condition they say can never be cured. But it is possible for symptoms to go into remission. And that for many of us is the path back to life. If you are aware of the traumatic causes of BPD, you’ll understand what an internally painful disorder it is to live with. Characterised by intense, unstable emotions, self harming behaviours, destructive, dangerous addictions, intense personal relationships, and suicide ideation. It isn’t a disorder that can be fixed overnight. For many, they suffer the symptoms for a lifetime. To give you an idea of the seriousn ..read more

‘If there is one guarantee in this life, it’s that problems don’t go away.’ We can avoid them, suppress them, bury our heads, and hope they dissappear. We can keep charging through life in the hope they just disintegrate behind us like dust in the wind. But the weight just keeps adding on. Eventually , we break! At age 16, a year after leaving home, my hair began falling out. Not just strands but whole patches. The crown of my head dropped out in a matter of weeks. I had a perfect bald circle on the top of my head. It was embarrassing, to say the least. The Dr diagnosed it as alopecia. A physi ..read more