Need Stress Relief? Declutter Your Home. I had read about how decluttering can decrease chaos not only physically but emotionally. I just moved to a new location, and in the process of the move and downsizing, I found that my new place is not organized yet, and this disorder made me feel stressed. I decided to remedy the situation. My dining room day 1... So why does clutter make us stressed, and a clean environment makes us more peaceful?  Let's find out. Why clutter can be stressful... Clutter can make you feel overwhelmed. Clutter can lead to fatigue and even depression. Clutter ..read more

Describe Your Greatest Phobia If you don't have a phobia describe your biggest fear. What is my greatest phobia, you ask? I looked up the definition of phobia to make sure I answered the question correctly.  A phobia is "an extreme or irrational fear of or aversion to something." With the definition of phobia firm in my mind, I would say that I have had two phobias in my lifetime. The two things that have scared me the most are bees (not honey bees, I am talking wasps, hornets, and yellow jackets) and public speaking.  I no longer have what I would have described as a phobia of b ..read more

Joy is relative. I may find joy in something that does not bring you joy, and you may find joy in something that does not bring me joy. That being said, we can find some type of joy in all phases of our lives.  During the most difficult and joyless time of my life, when my husband of 37 years walked out, I thought I would never find joy again. During this time, when I would have easily given up, I was determined, even in my weakened state, to strive to find some level of joy. It was hard work, but I fought to bring the joy I once had back into my life, and you can, too. So, what is joy ..read more

 Dating After Divorce-The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly Romance Scams Dating again after a divorce is an adventure.  It can be wonderful, but it can quickly become the opposite.  There are some people out there ready to take advantage of someone seeking to find a romantic relationship.  Let's take a brief look at what a Romance scam is and a few potential warning signs to look for. First off, what is a Romance Scam? According to Avast, a Romance Scam is... "A romance scam (or online dating scam) is when a fraudster  tricks someone into a fake romantic relationship." A ..read more

  Every few weeks or so, I check to see what is happening in Divorce News. I search "divorce" in Google and put a time frame on the search of that current week/month to give me an overview of what is happening in divorce news. The trending news is typically celebrity news. Yes, in the news, it is the celebrities that get all the attention. I am not looking for articles that are celebrity-focused. I am searching for articles that can help regular people look for answers as they navigate the difficult road of divorce. If you are looking for celebrity divorce news, here are a couple in the n ..read more

 Memories "Something remembered from the past, a recollection." I remember reading a book titled, "Before I Go to Sleep" by S. J. Watson.  As I am reading, I am always looking for quotes that touch an emotional chord in me.  The storyline of the book is centered around a woman who has lost her memory. She regains bits and pieces of her memory throughout her day, and then she falls asleep at night and loses it all again.   The quote I underlined and that touched me the most was this  "A ripple across the surface of the lake of memory."   There have been signif ..read more

As we keep going in this series, "What The Heck Is? I thought we would take a look at a term that keeps popping up... What the Heck it a "No Fault Divorce"?   Here is a definition from Findlaw... No-fault divorce. A petitioner does not have to prove the other spouse did anything wrong when ending their marriage. A divorce is filed because of “irreconcilable differences", or the marriage is said to be “irretrievably broken." This is the most common type of divorce. The way I understand it is that the No-Fault Divorce allows you to divorce for no reason at all.  Luckily, in my st ..read more

Beware The Narcissist! When going through a divorce, many people realize for the first time, maybe in decades, that they were married to a narcissist.  Sadly, most are not taught in school, or anywhere for that matter, what a narcissist is, so when confronted with narcissistic behavior, we may not be aware of the signs or potential abuse involved in a relationship with a narcissist.  With that in mind, I will be doing a series on "Beware The Narcissist" to help us become more familiar with the typical behavior of a narcissist.  Even if we are lucky enough to have not been in a n ..read more

I was asked the other day... If you could go back in time to the day your ex asked you to marry him, what would you do?  My Answer...RUN!!!! I guess we all know what we would do in retrospect, and we can't go back in time to correct what happened in our past.  If he were to ask me that same question today, I would run even faster because I know the kind of life I had in the past.  That brings us to an important question...What are the pros and cons of taking your ex back after a breakup?  If you were treated badly, the question is, do people change? True change does no ..read more

 Let's try to forget about the pain we may be experiencing while going through a divorce.  Let's instead look for the good and try to find some joy.   I remember so clearly the beginning of my divorce experience.  I remember my ex leaving without warning.  I remember the pain.  I remember the confusion.  I remember lying in bed in the fetal position. I remember crying so much that it became my daily norm.  I also remember trying to find beauty in the pain.  I remember forcing myself to see my life as an adventure when all I wanted to do was disappe ..read more