If I had a dollar for every time someone reached out to me to say, “Kris, thank you for what you teach, I only wish I heard this 30 years ago,” I’d be a very rich woman! Every time I hear it, I think the same thing: “Me too, my friend, me too.” If I knew then what I know now, I could have saved myself years of unequal, frustrating, sad, and downright toxic relationships by simply walking away from toxic people, leaving me wondering, ‘What’s wrong with me? My hope is to save you the years of pain and confusion that I endured by urging you to walk away from toxic people. Maybe you’re loo ..read more

Let’s play a little game of naming the trait. I tell you a trait and you guess whether it’s troubled or toxic. Ready? Manipulative. Secretive. Bad boundaries. Poor communication. If you said toxic, you’d be right. If you said troubled, you’d also be right. Are you surprised? Toxic traits can be difficult to navigate especially when they share such similarities with it’s troubled sister. But there is a difference between difficult and destructive, troubled and toxic. So, let’s break down some of the key distinctions so you can discern the difference. This insight will be crucial in ..read more

Today, I want to share with you 10 Clues that indicate you’ve been abused by a narcissist. Every ounce of my heart wants to help you navigate difficult relationships and conquer codependency biblically. So, let’s dive right in! Here are the 10 Clear Signs You’ve been Abused By a Narcissist Clue #1: Hypervigilance Hypervigilance is when you’re over-sensitive to potential threats and criticism. You develop this through the narcissist’s unpredictable behavior which has you living in a state of constant alertness. Is there someone you feel constantly on guard with? Are you always trying to avoid ..read more

  Being in a marriage with a narcissist can leave you feeling like you’ve got only two choices: resign yourself to a life of misery, or divorce a narcissist. Before you make a decision that will change your life forever, I want to talk to you about three categories to consider before you decide to divorce a narcissistic spouse.  With a multitude of twisted scriptures, it can be difficult to determine the most biblical action for your situation. So by the end of our time together, I hope that you will have greater peace in understanding God’s will for your situation and that you will ..read more

  Are you tired of falling victim to the emotional and psychological manipulation tactics of a narcissist? Do you worry that long-term exposure to this devil-sent individual will negatively impact your faith? Narcissists are self-centered, egotistical, fragile individuals who only care about meeting their own needs—often at your expense. They are excellent at playing mind games to gain the upper hand and get what they want in relationships. They don’t see you as an individual with feelings. They see you as a pawn for their purpose and they don’t care how their behavior impacts you.  ..read more

Why is it that some Christians are able to move on from toxic relationships while others stay stuck in their hurt feelings? Maybe you’ve suffered so long, you don’t even know what happiness feels like anymore. Before you go thinking that God’s forgotten you (or worse, getting angry at Him), I want to break down for you three very powerful reasons why this hurt feelings may be lingering more than you’d like, AND the prayer that could change EVERYTHING. To do that I need to remind you what happens when you touch a hot iron. You may cringe at the thought because you know how much it hurts. But h ..read more

What if I told you that everything you thought about forgiveness was wrong? That in seven short minutes, I will help you understand why these people still set you off and you get triggered–even years after you’ve walked away and forgiven them. I’m going to answer the question that’s been haunting you once and for all—“Have I truly forgiven?”—and overcome the biggest forgiveness myth holding back Christians today.  It all comes down to bookmarks.  I want you to think of your life as a book, and each significant trauma or experience as a different chapter. When someone hurts you, it ..read more

You’ve done your research. And you now believe beyond a shadow of a doubt that you’re dealing with a narcissist. You know it. They know it. They know you know. Now what? Today, I want to dive deep into the pathetically predictable pattern you can expect to see when a narcissist is exposed by God. This pattern will prove to you once and for all that it’s not all in your head AND give you the clarity needed to answer the question: do I stay or do I go? To start, we need to clarify once and for all that it doesn’t matter who the potential narcissist may be—parent, pastor, partner, sibling ..read more

So you’ve finally put your foot down. Maybe you’ve kicked the narcissist to the curb or cut ties with toxic family members. After much prayer and soul searching, you’re ready to move on. But before you can cue the confetti, you get the message, “I’ve changed.” Could this be the turnaround you’ve been praying for? Or just another tool in their manipulation toolbox? That confusion is why I want to talk to you today about the three powerful clues that will show you that this person has actually changed, as well as the ONE thing that guarantees they haven’t. I think of relationships with toxic p ..read more

  Moms are supposed to be supportive and nurturing, but what happens when the very woman who should be your number one fan is your greatest adversary? Recognizing the signs of a narcissistic mother becomes crucial in such situations, as it sheds light on behaviors that may be detrimental to the healthy parent-child relationship. If you’re like most people, you slip into a confusing, guilt-ridden mess. That’s why in today’s episode, you’re going to learn 10 signs that your mother is a narcissist. These are the signs that every single one of my students has experienced but just couldn’t ma ..read more