Hi all myself (f31) and my partner (m35) are looking to adopt. We do not know much about the process at all so any information on where to start would be helpful. I have been dealing with infertility for 8 years now, and was previously married from 2017-2021. The marriage ended due to the stress of inferility (5 rounds of failed treatment) and the fact my partner was very ill and we had a huge amount of pressure. We are still civil and are divorced. My current partner and I have been together for 2 years. We live in the home I own and he is a chef. I am currently an admin assistant for my loc ..read more

Hi all- I am doctoral student at Nova Southeastern University and I am currently looking for research participants for my dissertation study. My research is looking to explore the influence of the adoptive parent-adoptee dyad on the adult adoptee's romantic relationship in adulthood. I am currently looking for adult adoptees (aged 18 years or older) who are in romantic relationships, and who are open to taking a brief 10–15-minute survey. If you or someone you know is interested in participating in this research please feel free to visit the survey at the following link: https://forms.office ..read more

We are early in the process and I’ll be honest we don’t really know where to start. Do you have to pick either a VAA or LA to go with or can you be registered with both? I know that the LA seems to be local whereas a VAA is U.K. wide but I don’t really know what the other differences are. The amount of information online is both overwhelming but also a bit confusing so any information from people who are in it would be great. submitted by /u/Herps15 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

I am a student at Penn State University and I am working on a project that aims to explore adoptees' perspectives on abortion. I am reaching out to invite adoptees to respond to a prompt, sharing their feelings on abortion. Your response can take any form you feel comfortable with— for example, a paragraph, a poem, a drawing, or a video. Prompts and directions to submit them are linked in a Google Doc attached below: https://docs.google.com/document/d/13LrpUzQKzoUhwyV4ezaaZpMPaWKEk4l58t8-3dq99TY/edit?usp=sharing As an adoptee myself, this is a topic I am often confronted with. There is often ..read more

We've been going through this process for close to a year now. No diversity seems to really be allowed. We felt scrutinised on every hint of diversity we represent. We moved here to avoid discrimination in our country. We went through hell in our life and still managed to get ourselves back on track. We have a child who is great, good jobs, been through therapy, we are healthy, active, we don't let our child watch too much telly, anything we'd assume a good parent should do, we try to do too. Yet from day 1 of this process, we felt our SW had a hidden agenda. She did not like the fact we have ..read more

Adoption has been on my heart since before we had our first birth child. We are thinking about the future of our family. I read many stories of people who have one birth child and adopt a second child, but almost never any more than that. We have three birth children and might have a fourth. Would we be struck off from adopting (either officially or unofficially) for basically having too many children already? I understand that adopted children need a lot of time and care and it would not be like having another birth child. I would be especially interested in adopting a sibling group because ..read more

After being approved to adopt we have explored a few matches and with one match we took it quite far but decided not to go ahead. There were some parts of the process the sw's didnt explain well and in places we felt unsupported. The whole process has left me not knowing what to do next. I just don't know if I want to continue and wondered if anyone has any experiences of withdrawing from the process at this point and if returning at a later date without going through approval again was an option? submitted by /u/Educational_Ad_9896 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Hi, My husband (30M) and I (31F) are hoping to adopt in the future, once we sell our home and move to a larger one. We have no bio children and do not plan to have any. I understand that the process involves a lot of questions and reflection on childhood experiences. I had a fairly difficult childhood in that my mother was significantly mentally ill particularly when I was a baby/toddler and was not able to be physically or emotionally present in the way I needed. My father at that stage didn't want to be my parent and although I had contact with him I didn't know he was my father until I was ..read more

I (18F) and my partner (19F) are both full time students, one with a part time job. I am soon hoping to apply for pip on account of my illnesses which would create another income for us. My brother is 12 and our mother is not suitable. How can I go about this process? Would it even be possible? Thank you. submitted by /u/sebastianisnotacat [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Hi all. My husband and I are about to adopt and older child but we currently live on rent. We are worried that if our landlord wants to sell it will be yet another move for our little one and will disrupt their sense of permanence. Has anyone had a similar experience? I’ve had a few cases of people within my network (not with adopted children) that have had to leave their homes as landlords are selling and it’s really concerning. submitted by /u/Exciting_Reference_4 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more