A decade down the drain. Feels like it was all for nothing. I have been loyal to a fault since day one and would never consider engaging in any activity that could even be remotely considered cheating. Bent over backwards to be the best partner and parent I could be each and every single day. The signs of infidelity started around the 2 year mark. They continued on periodically from there. I have now lost count of how many times this has happened. At first I confronted the situation head on, but was met with gaslighting and denial. Never an acknowledgement, nor an apology, nor any attempts to ..read more

I'm in need of an outside perspective here. Little bit of background about us, we are both early 30's, no kids, married 5 years, together 8. Last summer I found out my wife posted on reddit asking for advice, and said post was 2 years old. Instead of trying to explain it, I'll just paste the content on here. She had deleted it but the detective in me found a way to retrieve it. I apologize if this is a long read. Does he lust for me or not? HELP "Hi, I am kinda needing some advice regarding a man who I work with. Just a bit of background, we do not work at the same company - he has an office ..read more

Hi everyone I hate to be here and am sad all of you are here as well. I have a bit of confusion and wanted some advice, maybe I just need to vent and be told I’m losing my mind who knows. Going to try to make it short & to the point. Here we go. My husband & I have been together 14 yrs. He has family he use to live with, and a cousin that he isn’t blood related to but grew up together as cousins. My husband has always talked about this “cousin” specifically pretty often throughout our relationship. I never met her as we live in different states but always heard of her. About 4 yrs ago ..read more

I called and reported to HR that the two of them have been sleeping together for quite some time. Normally I would never seek any sort of revenge but I was feeling petty. I'm not sure if anything will happen as I have no proof I can show but he is the assistant manager there and she is his subordinate. I'm sure the most they will do is transfer one of them. Since I broke up with him 1.5 weeks ago, he has left me countless blocked voicemails, apologizing and telling me that I am the love of his life and that he made the worst mistake and is in the worst situation he has ever been in and says t ..read more

Some days you feel like you’ve got it together, you’re fine and life is coming together and other days are spent crying for 6 hours, forgetting to eat, and tearing yourself down. What have been some of the most influential aspects during the healing process that have led you to feel like yourself again? Aspects that have been valuable to you in a sense of: Rebuilding self esteem, finding worth/value/purpose, recognizing yourself in the mirror, the ability to trust yourself and your decisions, regaining a sense of reality. The specifics, maybe a book that really helped you achieve this, a part ..read more

Any thoughts on how to make it feel equalized if a reconciliation were to happen? I think I can get over the fact that it happened, even though right now it still churns my stomach. But I think I'll lose some respect for myself, as well as feel fairly cheated by the whole situation, if I leave it unbalanced between us. As a 31m I obviously have far fewer options than she does and it would be far more difficult for me to be with anyone/"catch up" while we're separated (especially due to an injury making me a bit extra of a hermit atm), plus I am extremely picky and don't really want to sleep w ..read more

Is it a disease? If so didn’t it start as lust, deceptions, selfishness, disrespect? Do you stay if it’s truly an illness Or do you pick your self respect submitted by /u/Training-Street-2756 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

There have been a few questions that have been bothering me to the point that I have knots in my stomach.. For example: Can we discuss what led to the continuation of your communication with him, despite feeling guilty about it? How do you reconcile considering him a good friend, given that he exploited your emotional vulnerability during the affair? I'm struggling with how you seem to shift responsibility just because he apologized. Can we talk about how that makes me feel, especially considering the situation? Is there a way for us to address the possibility of a few more messages e ..read more

I just wanted to come on here and shout into the void... It's been about 2.5 months since DDay and boyyy are there ups and downs. I started therapy right away, but honestly, she doesn't ask me a lot of questions or try to delve deeper into my past relationship with my WP. I feel like I've gotten more out of a self-help journal than my sessions with her (From Heartbreak to Wholeness by Kristine Carlson, highly recommend. It's not about cheating but heartbreak in general). I'm not sure if I want to continue with her, but it is nice to talk to someone. I've been no contact with him for 2 weeks n ..read more

Just like most couples that meet in school, we started out with a 2-3 year long honeymoon phase, where everything was just right and we were both happy. We have been living together since year one. At one point, however, I started losing the spark and my focus shifted towards her flaws instead of the good things. She became less and less of a priority and more of a roommate with benefits. She thrives of affection and compliments and I failed to provide enough of that. I've also slowly been losing physical affection and found myself unwilling to initiate intimacy with her. I still enjoy spendi ..read more