Newsflash: I have always known that something was wrong with me, but for the longest time, I did not know what it was. As I became older, I realized that it was an internal awkwardness, a sense of shame. To compensate for my soul dysfunction,… Continue Reading ... The post The Most Effective Way to Feel Better About Yourself appeared first on Life Over Coffee ..read more

There is confusion among some believers over Christ’s words about loving others as we love ourselves. The sticking point is about what loving ourselves means. Typically, it runs along the lines of, how do you love others as you love yourself as fallen people with… Continue Reading ... The post What Does It Mean to Love Others As You Love Yourself? appeared first on Life Over Coffee ..read more

Thinking more about yourself is not the path to freedom. The self-esteem agenda demands that we turn our thoughts onto ourselves, spending even more time thinking about ourselves. The Bible has a counterintuitive message: The more thoughts about God we have, the freer we will… Continue Reading ... The post Loving Me: The Hidden Agenda of Self-Esteem appeared first on Life Over Coffee ..read more

Trying to be perfect in an imperfect world to garner the favorable opinion of others is a delusion that will strain any relationship, not to mention how it will bind any soul to a lifetime pursuit of the un-fillable love cup. The temptation to be… Continue Reading ... The post How Do You Help a Person Who Is Stuck on Herself? appeared first on Life Over Coffee ..read more

Love is a verb, an action word. It moves, always going in one direction or the other. Love will not work if it is not moving toward something. You will find it sandwiched between a subject and an object, always expecting the subject to move… Continue Reading ... The post There Is a Reason You Should Love Yourself and Others appeared first on Life Over Coffee ..read more

One of the most challenging things a person will ever do is tell others the secrets of who they really are. I’m not suggesting we blab all our stuff to everyone, or even our deepest, darkest secrets that only God knows, but there is wisdom… Continue Reading ... The post I’m Imperfect, You’re Imperfect, Let’s Get Over Ourselves appeared first on Life Over Coffee ..read more

One of the most counterintuitive messages for anyone to accept is their inherent badness. Most people think poorly about themselves, but they will not accept that overcoming what’s wrong with them is affirming those negative thoughts. If you think poorly of yourself, you’re on the… Continue Reading ... The post Knowing You’re Bad Is the Beginning of Being Good appeared first on Life Over Coffee ..read more

Sometimes, you can’t stay at your local church. It’s sad, but it happens all the time. You have to leave; when it happens, it’s one of the more gut-wrenching seasons in any God-loving Christian’s life. You love the Lord and His people, but for biblical… Continue Reading ... The post How Do You Leave Your Church? appeared first on Life Over Coffee ..read more

If you isolate a portion of Scripture from the narrative of the Bible’s story, you can misunderstand its meaning, complicating your life and triggering our unregenerate friends. Isolating texts is why some Christians struggle with many of the Bible’s declarations. Being worthless is one of… Continue Reading ... The post The Mystery and Misunderstanding about Being Worthless appeared first on Life Over Coffee ..read more

“I have a question about church discipline or how you handle a lack of church discipline or involvement from the church when trying to help someone. Though I don’t have a current situation, it appears that church assistance should involve counsel, instruction, and, in some… Continue Reading ... The post When the Local Church Won’t Help You appeared first on Life Over Coffee ..read more