I had a catch up session with a dear friend a while ago and we spoke about many things. One topic that stood out was on being involved in church ministry or doing life as single ladies and how it can be challenging as well as a blessing. But if it is the Lord’s will for a man to come along,  it would happen in the Lord’s timing. In the interim, how should we feel about ourselves? Do you feel like  royalty every day? Do you look at yourself in the mirror and see a beautiful princess created by the Almighty God? If your answers are no, then you may consider to align your perspectives ..read more

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This year, the Modern Ruth Project will feature occasional interviews with specialists and professionals who are experienced in each month’s topic. This month, I had a delightful and insightful conversation with international Christian dating coach, Jessica Santosa.  Jessica Santosa (www.jessica-santosa.com) MRP: How did you get into relationship/dating coaching? Jessica: After 5 years [of being] single and unconvinced that sitting in my bedroom, praying and waiting for men in my church to ask me out wasn’t working, in 2014, I secretly enlisted a secular dating coach that utterly t ..read more

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Dear MRP, Last month, I was introduced to this guy by a friend of mine. We hit off (or so I thought) and began talking every other day. But then, a week ago, he pulled back and hasn’t been in contact, despite my attempts. I’m not sure what I did but it left me feeling kind of hurt and confused. It was only a short ‘conversationship’ and logically, I know I should just let it go but it still bothers me. How do I get over this? —Hurt & Confused Dear Hurt & Confused, I’m sorry you’re going through this. False starts and fizzled burgeoning relationships are never fun. They end for variety ..read more

I enjoy observing children while interacting with their parents. I observed that the girls would tend to be more clingy and chatty. The girls also have the natural propensity in admiring outfits, bags, accessories and make-up, etc. The various times I interacted with these little girls, their inquisitiveness delights me. It is no surprise that the girls would try to emulate what they have observed in dressing up like the adult and seek approval from friends and family around them to tell them that they look beautiful. The girls constantly seek for approval while the boys w ..read more

So the whispers were true. The fifth grade boys had allegedly ranked all the girls and listed each girl’s score on a sheet of composition paper. As is the way of 10-year-olds, secrets are never kept and soon, the list’s existence became the talk of the playground.  I giggled about it with my friends but I never let on about my deep concern. Was I pretty enough to be on the list? What was my score? One afternoon, I found myself next to the spokesboy of this ranking committee. He hunched over the list while giving me side eyes of mischief and glee. It was then I decided that it was now or n ..read more

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I walked past her at least 5 times. I was trying to catch a glimpse of each limb, each fingernail, each eyelash, each….wait….is that cellulite? I knew it! She has cellulite on her eyelids. I only have cellulite on my thighs like a normal woman. Why would he choose her over me? My cellulite is prettier and a lot less awkwardly placed. Sounds ridiculous, right? But before you judge me, remember how familiar it sounds. The last time you were rejected, passed over, made to feel like an option when you used to be a priority. We’ve all done it before. We somehow catch a glimpse of the new girl that ..read more