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Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions provides mediation services as well as detailed divorce financial analysis and planning whether you are contemplating divorce, evaluating options, or planning for your future. Your source for all information related to divorce financial planning and mediation. Empowering and educating clients to make wise financial decisions.
Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions
5y ago
With three school-age children, I’ll be honest. I dread the beginning-of-the-school-year paperwork. There is so much new information coming at me and lots to remember – not to mention the mountain of forms I always spend the first few days of the school year filling out. If you are sharing parenting responsibilities with your Ex, it takes teamwork for a smooth transition into the new year. Here are some tips for success.
Have a plan for shared parenting during the school year
Work with your co-parent to create a transition plan from the summer schedule to the routine for the school year ..read more
Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions
5y ago
Talking to your children about divorce isn’t easy, especially when you are still processing your own feelings. Sometimes using books that are designed to guide the conversation can be helpful. Here is a list of age-appropriate children’s books about divorce. Click on the picture of the book to find it on Amazon.
Ages
3-5
It’s Not Your Fault Koko Bear
Koko is a preschool-aged bear whose parents are getting divorced. Koko is very upset. The book is designed to be read by parents to their children and help them talk about how they’re feeling. It reassures children that their parents stil ..read more
Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions
5y ago
Preparing for a divorce is a lot more than just picking up the phone and calling an attorney. There are the emotional aspects, financial, legal and, of course, there are the parenting issues. It means figuring out what life is going to look like when it’s all said and done and includes preparing your children for the transition. For the stay-at-home mom, there are additional concerns around income.
Emotional Preparation
When you realize that your marriage is over, it’s normal to feel a variety of emotions. Over time, you’ll experience all of the stages of grief. You’ll be grieving not on ..read more
Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions
5y ago
When I got divorced, I had three children between the ages of three and eight. I remember the stress. I was overwhelmed thinking about how I was going to help my kids get through the divorce and ultimately, how I would manage on my own.
It can be scary to think about how you’ll take care of your children after a divorce. There will be many changes on the horizon for everyone. You have to be confident that you can take care of them, even if you have to turn to friends and family members for emotional and financial support. It’s also important to remember that taking care of your own needs i ..read more
Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions
5y ago
Your
spouse cheated. He or she is leaving you for someone else. Perhaps you’ve
argued for years and just finally had enough. Regardless of the reason, for the
vast majority of cases, divorce is emotional. People are emotional. Deciding
how your life will be after a divorce is emotional.
Unfortunately, making sound decisions while emotions are running high doesn’t work. When we get emotional, we stop thinking rationally, which can lead us to do and say things that we will regret later. It’s easy to blow up an important part of the settlement agreement by letting anger and frustration get th ..read more
Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions
5y ago
There
are several reasons that parents come in for mediation after a divorce is over.
A big one is parenting expenses. The reality is if you get divorced when your
children are young, it’s hard to know what kind of extracurricular activities
they will become involved with over the years or even if they will develop
chronic health issues.
Strategies to Handle Parenting Expenses After Divorce
It’s really impossible to negotiate every possible scenario. However, it is crucial to discuss at least a baseline for how you’ll divide those parenting expenses after divorce and effectively communi ..read more
Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions
5y ago
I stayed in my house when I got divorced. At the time, the housing market had declined so much that we had negative equity in our home. Selling our house would have put us in a worse financial situation than keeping it and we had three young children. Keeping them in the house gave them some stability during a difficult time for our family.
That said, maintaining the house that I had with my ex has had its ups and downs. I’m glad we were able to stay put but the maintenance was a lot of work for me at first. I’ve since gotten remarried and now my kids are a little older so they can help mo ..read more
Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions
5y ago
When I was going through my own divorce, everything seemed overwhelming. Honestly, I wouldn’t have been able to imagine engaging with more than one professional during that time. I was worried about spending money because I knew the divorce itself would be expensive. Going from a two income household to one income was even scarier. I never would have considered hiring a divorce coach. I did not know what one was but I was also extremely reluctant to spend money. Since then, I have had the opportunity to interact with some pretty amazing divorce coaches so I wanted to share a little about what ..read more
Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions
5y ago
It is my absolute pleasure to welcome guest blogger, Melissa Davis. Melissa’s story is so inspiring for anyone who is working to heal after an affair.
I thought we had a good life
I was in my closet (my go-to place when things get hard for me), curled up in a ball, sobbing. Not just sobbing, it was this sound I didn’t know I could even make. I was wailing – I lost all control of my thoughts, emotions, and my physical body. One word raced through my mind, tormenting me, “Why?”
I had a good life. My oldest just turned three and I had just given birth to my second daughter. I loved bein ..read more
Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions
5y ago
That’s right. I said it. My key to co-parenting success with my ex is not “putting my children first” as so many professionals recommend.
My first year co-parenting
I remember the first year of co-parenting well. I would describe it as a complete failure and excruciating. My youngest son was three years old. Every time he had to go between my home and my ex’s, he would have a complete meltdown. I felt like my heart was being torn out of my chest.
My ex wanted to be the fun parent so he would sugar them up and let them stay up late. We have three kids. At the time, they were 3, 6 an ..read more