WORRY February 2019   Worry … Worry … Worry … Worry … Worry Merriam Webster defines worry as a persistent or nagging mental distress or agitation. A second definition is to harass by tearing, biting, or snapping, especially at the throat. Origin: Old English wyrgan ‘strangle’, of West Germanic origin. In Middle English the original sense of the verb gave rise to the meaning ‘seize by the throat and tear’, later figuratively ‘harass’, whence ‘cause anxiety to’ (early 19th century, the date also of the noun). I think the second definition really nails it because that is what wor ..read more

  January 2019 Sometimes we need a vacation and so this month I am resting not in some tropical place but close to all the things I love to do. So, hope you will connect with the blog in February!   The post Vacation ~ Custom Counselling first appeared on Custom Counselling ..read more

Holiday Wish December 2018   This is the time of year that can have conflicting viewpoints for people. Some look forward to this time of year; others do not. Some celebrate Christmas; others celebrate a winter holiday. Some look forward to a good time with family and friends; others will dread the time together. Some will be among loved ones; others will be alone or miss having a loved one there.   However you will be spending this time of year, this is my wish for you: be a present to yourself. This means “be present with” yourself. Connect with your body Stretch out on your bed an ..read more

DISAPPOINTMENT November 2018  Disappointment ~ it can happen to anyone at any time; no one is immune. From early childhood and on through life all of us will experience disappointment at some point. The Merriam-Webster definition of disappointment is “unhappiness from the failure of something hoped for or expected to happen.” The disappointment might be caused by an action or inaction of someone else or from your own inability to achieve something. Disappointment can be about something minor that is soon forgotten or it can be something major that impacts significantly. What might seem li ..read more

  COMPLIMENTS (October 2018) Last month we looked at criticism; for October we will look at the aspects of compliments. Although it seems unusual that a person would have trouble receiving a compliment, it does present difficulty for some people. And on the other hand, people can have a problem with giving a compliment to someone. So let’s look at some principles for both receiving and giving it. What is a compliment? It is showing one’s appreciation and high regard for something or someone, an endorsement or approval. It can stir within us the desire to let that person know that we liked ..read more

HANDLING CRITICISM (September 2018)    Last month we looked at conflict in relationships. This month we will consider aspects of how to handle criticism, both in giving and receiving it. People often think of criticism as being cruel when given and being hard to receive … and it can be, if not given and taken in the correct spirit. When we look at some of the definitions or synonyms for criticism, we can see that it can be viewed both in a negative and positive way. Dictionary: CRITICISM (1) a discriminating judgment, an evaluation; (2) A severe or unfavourable judgment (3) The princ ..read more

HANDLING CRITICISM (September 2018)    Last month we looked at conflict in relationships. This month we will consider aspects of how to handle criticism, both in giving and receiving it. People often think of criticism as being cruel when given and being hard to receive … and it can be, if not given and taken in the correct spirit. When we look at some of the definitions or synonyms for criticism, we can see that it can be viewed both in a negative and positive way. Dictionary: CRITICISM (1) a discriminating judgment, an evaluation; (2) A severe or unfavourable judgment (3) The princ ..read more

MANAGING CONFLICT (August 2018)    Relationships will always have conflict. It doesn’t matter what the relationship is (family, friends, job, etc), there will always be conflict at some point within that relationship. It doesn’t matter how connected you are or how much you have in common, there will always be conflict about something. Conflict happens when there are competing ideas and/or personal interests which can lead to misunderstandings or arguments between people. Conflict is a part of life. Not all conflict is negative if handled well. It can lead to better communication betw ..read more

MANAGING CONFLICT (August 2018)    Relationships will always have conflict. It doesn’t matter what the relationship is (family, friends, job, etc), there will always be conflict at some point within that relationship. It doesn’t matter how connected you are or how much you have in common, there will always be conflict about something. Conflict happens when there are competing ideas and/or personal interests which can lead to misunderstandings or arguments between people. Conflict is a part of life. Not all conflict is negative if handled well. It can lead to better communication betw ..read more

FRIENDSHIP (JULY 2018)    Wanted: a friend. Person desires someone to share time and activities. Any size, any age, any race acceptable. For more information phone 2-374-363-7447   (a-fri-end-ship)   This isn’t exactly the kind of advertisement you’d see written in a newspaper, magazine, or hanging on a local grocery bulletin board. But perhaps if you could see people’s hearts you’d find it written there. In today’s society, people are lonely; people are hurting; people are crying out for someone to love them. People are looking for a friend. What is a friend ..read more