In my coach training, I was told to acknowledge whatever came out of the mouth of the client as that person’s subjective truth. And then work with that. No matter how strange it sounded. So when my very first practice client presented me with the metaphor that all her aspirations and interests were like an army with no general and that every one of the soldiers was trying to make her go in their direction, I just went along with the metaphor. As a result of her inner experience described in the metaphor, she didn’t know which direction she wanted to go in and had no idea what to do with her ca ..read more

I think that helping our children learn is critical, so much of my time is spent thinking about learning and how to accelerate harmonious and relevant learning in our children. In this article, I’ll share with you an example of how my wife, Rikke, and I help our children learn, – and in the end, I’ll share what you can do to help your child learn faster too. This is the example I often use when parents come to me to figure out how to help their child learn or unlearn certain skills. Anxiety around food My oldest daughter (now 6yo) is very sensitive, and one day a couple of years ago she came h ..read more

In this second video on my YouTube channel, I continue to talk about transforming ADHD problems from the inside out. This time I got the question: “Now I’ll get out of the door in time to be somewhere, but how do I make sure that I get out the door with everything I need having packed my bags, my keys in my pocket, my phone and whatever I need for that day?” I answer the question in this video: The transcript below is unedited, so if anything is unclear, you might need to see my hand gestures and facial expressions! ? Hey there! Anders from TransformingADHD.com here. I wanted to just give you ..read more

Just recently I started a Youtube Channel called (no surprise!) Transforming ADHD. This was my first video. If you don’t see the video, click here. The transcript below is unedited, so if anything is unclear, you might need to see my hand gestures and facial expressions! Hi, guys! Anders Ronnau from TransformingADHD.com here. If you have trouble or if your child has trouble with time, time-issues, being in a certain place in the right time and so on in this video, I’m gonna give you insights into what’s going on in your mind, in your cognition and I’ll give you an example of how you can not ..read more

Anger tantrums are disturbing. Not only in the situation, but to the health and safety of the entire family and the stuff you own. It makes you as parents avoid specific situations where you know that the child will flare up, and It makes you walk on eggshells to avoid situations that may or may not ignite the fire. This gives us a variety of problems. Most prominently: The child is not learning to handle his anger, so he continues to express anger/frustration/sadness in an inappropriate way. The child is subconsciously aware that he is “wrong” in expressing anger this way because of the feed ..read more

The client was a woman was in her mid-twenties with the ADHD diagnosis. Her studies were not going well. She was failing courses, not attending classes, not handing in homework, etc. And while she really wanted to do all these things, it was like she couldn’t do it. She was bright, intelligent and loved her studies. She complained about her insecurities, fear and self hate. We tried to power up her motivation, so she could do the right things at her school. But it was obvious that there was something else in the way. While working, I had noticed a pattern in the way she moved. Every time she s ..read more

When I lived in Boulder, Colorado, I was introduced to a way of thinking that have resonated into our way of parenting in our family. The saying is: “If you don’t like the weather in Colorado, just wait 15 minutes. Also if you do like the weather in Colorado, just wait 15 minutes.” When we later got our now 6 year old daughter, we read about the cycles of development that she would go through as an infant, and these were surprisingly precise. We started joking that “If you don’t like the way the baby sleeps, just wait 15 days. And if you do like the way the baby sleeps, just wait 15 days.” Tha ..read more

Do you know that feeling when the thoughts are just spinning – around and around, and it feels like there’s nothing you can do about it? Perhaps you also know the feeling of not control over your thoughts, but that thoughts are really controlling you. Or maybe you heard your child or your partner talk about it? In this article I’ll walk you through a mental training exercise that makes it possible for you to control your thoughts. And hopefully that’ll help you realize that there’s an enormous potential for transformation in your mind and in your child’s mind. After the exercise, I explain a b ..read more

The Boy With Anger Inside One of my very first clients with the ADHD diagnosis back in 2007 was an 8-year-old boy. When he and his mother came to see me for ADHD Coaching, he could only focus for 20-second stints. He was threatening in his communication and behavior at home. And he told me about how he threatened other children in the schoolyard when they were after him. It took me three sessions to gain his trust enough that I could work with him. In that fourth session, he stayed overtime to finish a drawing that expressed something inside of him that he really needed to show me. He had draw ..read more

Behave! Not so easy… Humans are incredibly complex emotional and cognitive beings. We can have an urge to do something and then not do it. We can want to focus on something and then move that focus onto something else. We can know what is good for us to eat and want to buy it, and still buy something that’s bad for us and eat that instead. Often when we talk about things like this – the inner struggle – we use terms like: “I really wanted to do it, but part of me was afraid to do it!” “I sat down to focus, but my mind just kept wandering!” “I went to the store to pick up greens for the smoo ..read more