This question is from one of our amazing community members. They asked “I would like to know the strengths and weaknesses of the ENFJ and INFJ pairing. My other half is an ENFJ and I’m an INFJ. We don’t seem to be on the same page with some things. Do you think it’s caused by the difference between being an extrovert and an introvert? Thanks for this awesome question. Let’s get straight into it! Because you don’t have specific examples of what the differences are I can’t I can’t give you a specific answer. But what I will say about the ENFJ and INFJ pairing is that you have the same cognitive ..read more

Today's question is from Aundrea, thank you for your amazing question. So, your question was: "When partners are described as ‘growing apart’ (just a term I’ve heard used elsewhere)—what could that be contributed to? I recognized some examples from my own life, such as: the ‘power struggle’ dynamics, as well as the ‘shared values’ importance. I will need to read about the ‘spiral dynamics’ to understand that concept more. I’m sure every partnership is different because of the many variables, but I am wondering how personal growth, conflicts, and changes in values (or even a different interpre ..read more

Hey everyone, Merja and Amelia here. Welcome to Real Conversations with INFJs and INFPS. This is Season 1, Episode 5. Amelia Harshfield: Today is an interview with Merja here, and we’re going to shoot some rapid-fire questions at her and we hope it will help you get to know Merja a little bit better. So, are you ready Merja? Merja Sumiloff: Let’s do it! A: So, personal snapshot-wise, what are you doing that is working for you right now? M: Ok. I’m reprioritising my life. So, really looking at what are the main things in my life and then reprioritising that, and actually putting the time into ..read more

This is an except from the Youtube video series "Real Conversations with INFJs and INFPs" Season 1, Episode 5. Merja Sumiloff is interviewed by Amelia Harshfield. Amelia Harshfield: Merja here is an INFJ and is the author and facilitator of the Integration Mentor Program. She is an MBTI Certified Practitioner and Personality Profiler, founder of Sumiloff Academy of Integration, and the INFX Project. she’s also written 2 best selling courses: the 4 People Within®️ which is an extension on Jungian work, and the INFX Unveiled, INFX Deep Dive, and INFX Mastermind, which all show INFJs and INFPs h ..read more

This is an except from the Youtube video from the series "Real Conversations with INFJs and INFPs" Season 1, Episode 5. Merja Sumiloff is interviewed by Amelia Harshfield. Amelia Harshfield: Merja here is an INFJ and is the author of and facilitator of the Integration Mentor Program. She is a certified MBTI practitioner and personality profiler, founder of the Sumiloff Academy of Human Integration, and the INFX project. She’s also written 2 best selling courses: The 4 People Within ®️, which is an extension of Jungian work, and The INFX Unveiled, INFX Deep Dive, and INFX Mastermind , which al ..read more

Today's question is a little bit different and it’s from Amanda, thank you so much for this question. It’s great to have these left-field questions from time to time. So, your question is: “What's it like to run an impact driven business?” This question is amazing because you’ve noticed something that most people don’t notice, which is that this business is driven by impact. This question shows an understanding that if we want to create concentrated impact in the world, on whatever level, it doesn't just happen by accident. Yes, sometimes people can get lucky and they can come up with a reall ..read more

Today’s question is from Veronica. She’s an introvert and she’s feeling like she’s being criticized for being too introverted by some of her more extroverted friends. She asks: “In your experience, how much is an unhealthy amount of introspection for an introvert?” This is a fantastic question because we introverts are often criticized for opting for fireside reading instead of going to the pub and all that good stuff! So thank you, Veronica, for asking this question. It is a pleasure to answer this. The very first thing I want to say is that introverts and extroverts need different amounts o ..read more

Today's question is from Annie, and the question is: "Am I an INFJ or an INFP? I'm confused about my type. When I do free online tests, I most often get INFJ, INFP and even an ENFP. I'm definitely NOT an extrovert. As an MBTI professional, please can you shed light on how I can know my type, and why I keep getting different results with the online tests." Firstly, thank you Annie for this question, it’s a great question. It’s a question that a lot of people struggle with out there. Those of us who are into personality tools, like Myers-Briggs or Enneagram, can sometimes feel confused if we’re ..read more

Today’s question is from somebody who wants to stay anonymous. A couple of weeks ago we asked a question in our groups about the personal development industry. One of our valued members reached out after conversation ensued around that topic and they asked me to clarify something. The person asked to stay anonymous, and of course we are happy to facilitate this because most of our work is around confidentiality, and people doing what’s right for them. That’s all good! This is what they said: Merja, I have been a client of yours for a couple of years now. My life has gone from an uncontrollabl ..read more

Merja: Hey everyone, it’s Merja here. Today I’m with Lisa Payne who is the managing partner of the Sumiloff Academy of Human Integration. She’s also a senior Integration Mentor specialising in Enneagram profiling. She’s been described by her clients as an Emotional Archaeologist. Lisa, welcome to this episode. It’s good to be here with you! You have some questions for me today so let’s do it! Lisa: It’s lovely to be with you here today Merja. I do have a few questions for you! You and I have finished work- and when I say “you and I”, I mean mainly you- on creating and revising the 4 People Wi ..read more