C PTSD – A Way Out
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A place to check in daily. My abuse occurred in childhood. Who knew this was not normal and everyone was not raised like this. This blog is designed for daily support of complex PTSD. Most PTSD blogs have great discussions, comparisons, stories of great perseverance but healing only happens with action not reading or discussing. Follow this blog and get daily support for complex PTSD.
C PTSD – A Way Out
8M ago
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Because one believes in oneself,
one doesn’t try to convince others.
Because one is content with oneself,
one doesn’t need others’ approval.
Because one accepts oneself,
the whole world accepts him or her.
– Lao Tzu
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My two cents: This must be where happiness resides.
Being content with oneself and accepting oneself is not easy for someone who experienced childhood abuse.
I have never felt content in my life, having a sense of being worthy is problematic, a challenge I face every day.
I used accomplishment, overachieving to feel worthy w ..read more
C PTSD – A Way Out
8M ago
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Avoidance is a judgment, a cognitive contemplation.
At times with PTSD, we invest more energy into our safety than our ambitions (desires).
Feeling safe can be the most important desire we covet.
Take a step back and bring awareness to your past behavior, around avoidance, safety, and desire.
Looking back, I have missed out on large swaths of life to this confusing disorder.
I think this is where PTSD damages our life the most.
Avoidance grows around our safety concerns.
We can have enormous regrets when we look back on our battles throughout our life.
Why ..read more
C PTSD – A Way Out
8M ago
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“Wow! Perfectly Said! I am so glad I am not the only one who feels like this. I also crave approval, acceptance, and love from my husband, family, and friends because my childhood was also void of positive emotions. As far as happiness, I am still searching for that in every form. I haven’t quite found that happiness Niche. You think the same way I do.
Happiness for us would be not having to live in constant fear or on edge or constantly living in fight or flight system. All I want is to live in peace and not be constantly afraid my husband is going to lea ..read more
C PTSD – A Way Out
8M ago
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“Rigorous analysis leads us to conclude that the self does not reside in any part of the body, nor is it some diffuse entity permeating the entire body.”
Matthew Ricard
This created self wants to chase pleasure, approval, a sense of importance, and power.
An Ego either wants to accomplish things to strengthen his/her status or decides to accept a place at the back of the bus.
A narcissist’s Ego grows so large that it seems to have no flaws. This Ego lacks awareness of it being out of control.
That is one end of the spectrum, the other is an Ego that feels l ..read more
C PTSD – A Way Out
8M ago
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I know better, chasing happiness is futile, so acceptance, self-worth, and peace of mind are my targets.
Do we unplug the negative core values first or try to imprint new values on top of the old?
Certain situations or people connect to our triggers.
Do we avoid these places and people or confront them?
I have done both on this journey.
Isolation limits the anxiety in the short term however the consequences are devastating in the long run.
For most of us, we avoid at different levels depending on the tools we have developed and the condition of our PTSD.
Whe ..read more
C PTSD – A Way Out
8M ago
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Awareness: Awareness precedes all else, without awareness the rest of the path is unknown. We have to see reality, the real world, and how we fit in. Attention is placed on how our mind functions, and how it interacts with our body mechanisms. We need to see ourselves without the bias of the “Ego’s” judgments. With 60,000 thoughts passing through our consciousness daily, awareness is key for perspective and proper navigation.
Acceptance: Optimum acceptance would have us accepting everything about us right here, right now. There is nothing we can attain, a ..read more
C PTSD – A Way Out
8M ago
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My first goal was to calm my fight or flight from firing from trauma.
When cortisol and adrenaline are flowing, when a feeling of intense, irrational fear explodes, simple and focused is needed.
Simplicity is a must.
When a trigger fires, any complex solution will fail, in my opinion.
Part of our cognitive function is hampered, we will not think our way out.
Meditation, simply focusing on the breath, worked best for me.
It has to be simple and bulletproof.
If we can stay present, focused on our breath, cortisol, and adrenaline will dissipate.
We focus and ob ..read more
C PTSD – A Way Out
8M ago
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At 72, after all the therapy, and a decade of intense healing work, life has improved, however, remnants of trauma remain present and powerful.
The intense anxiety of my fight or flight has subsided, and my ability to focus and breathe slowly has calmed my nervous system.
Now PTSD is more of a cognitive disorder, my intrusive thoughts, and dissociation cause me the most problems.
My tools: Meditation strengthens my focus and expands my awareness. It gives me the ability to observe thoughts from a distance, to let them flow in as I stay present.
PTSD wears m ..read more
C PTSD – A Way Out
8M ago
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The awareness to know, and then face your vulnerabilities with this process is the best I have ever read. The Words need to resignate inside and have an emotional connection.
Browneyegirl’s process:
“I create my own affirmations by looking inside of myself and thinking about what my fears, worries, and concerns are. Once I know what they are I create an affirmation to fill in that space, and eventually I am whole again in that area.
For example, about my fears regarding my abuser, I feel trapped, threatened, and hurt. I explored those feelings further as they ..read more
C PTSD – A Way Out
8M ago
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Affirmations, numerous therapies, voracious reading about PTSD, neuroscience, and war, plus a dedicated spiritual component of meditation, saved my life.
The first five years were intense, five hours for meditation and another three hours for reading and application of my tools.
My affirmations were recorded and played back during the day.
Taking action is vitally important, we change from victim to survivor or fighter.
Action is closer to healing, to living, sedentary closer to death.
There are periods of stagnation when improvement does not ..read more