Went no contact a month ago and I just miss her? why does she have to be so bad for me? I feel so alone, Mother’s Day is coming up this Sunday and as much as I want to unblock her and wish her a happy Mother’s Day, I just can’t. My boyfriend reminds me how bad my mom is for me, that it might be good for a week or a few months but she’ll go right back to treating me like shit. My heart aches for a mom. God please help me submitted by /u/happysadesk [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

hey everyone ? I have had my first therapy session with a trauma therapist who also offers Emdr. The therapies I've done so far have all been pretty shitty and traumatized me in some way, so I just have no idea how to assess the following: she asked me why emdr and I told her that I have an nmom and I have read that emdr is supposed to help. She then just said how she should imagine an nmom. Then gave her a few examples and she said she understood that I thought she was a narcissist. But when we finished my biography, she said several times: "That must have been really difficult for your moth ..read more

I just want to thank this subreddit for teaching me about grey rocking. Anytime she wants to argue she gets so upset that I’m, confused/lost/on another planet/not engaging, that she just gives up and hangs up on me. It’s been a godsend. A blessing. I hope she doesn’t catch on soon. Thank you all. submitted by /u/happyhippi8 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Ever since I was little, I've always liked video games so much that most of my free time was spent gaming but I was a very emotional kid who'd cry pretty easily when I was frustrated or even when a sad moment happened in a cartoon So one day, when I was in the first grade and alone with the teacher, I made the mistake of crying to her about a game that I couldn't finish because I was stuck on a level This teacher happened to be one of my mom's cousins and also attended the same church as her, so of course she told her And mommie dearest was so disgusted that her literal 6 year old (who still ..read more

My family is quite large now with my brother and sisters kids, around 13 people. I am the lowest in the hierarchy, it's like I am a different caste to everyone else. They are allowed to treat me how they want. I am the joke, the punching bag, the one they are ashamed of. My brother was living overseas and things got a little better the past few years but I was worried they would go back to how they were before when he returned and they did. His wife was initially pretty nice when they got back and I thought she had changed but now she has started talking down to me again and treating me like ..read more

They act as if I'm some poor, raggedy orphan who begged to go work on their land like a serf and is not showing proper appreciation because I would've died on the street without them. On bad days, they act as if I'm some hobo who illegally set up camp in one of their bedrooms and is attempting to siphon their money. submitted by /u/Xiashara [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

For so long, I would follow whatever my parents would say. I use to be people-pleaser when I was kid, so I never questioned my parents. Now, I feel so far behind in my 30s. I wish was more assertive when I was younger. Maybe I could of been able to pursue the things I actually wanted in spite of my parents. People in my age group seem to have established careers. The decisions I made college mainly based on what my parents wanted and not upsetting them. Seeing other people my age traveling, going out, dating and doing fun activities makes me depressed. Living my parents feels like a form of s ..read more

I keep seeing the term but don't know what it is. submitted by /u/sbkoufos [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

I hope the title makes sense. When I was younger, my parents were constantly yelling at me - about big and small things. I was late to things a lot as a child, and I'm not saying I was never to blame for that, but often, it was because one or both of my parents were yelling at me to hurry up. When I get yelled at, I automatically slow down - it's like I experience a mental block. One day, I politely expressed to my mother that yelling makes me ineffective. She started laughing. Like "haha" laughing, as if I said something funny. She turned to my father and said, "Did you hear what she said? S ..read more

NSister is 30F, I am 34M. We experience two different sets of the same parents, who are both N or N-adjacent. I've spent a lot of time in therapy. My sister has not. I've tried to use the lessons I've learned to acknowledge my own faults and become closer to her. We have not achieved closeness. NSister has been awful about her wedding since I had mine -- it was fun, and it was intimate and casual. We had family-only, so there was no official wedding party. The fact that we had no official wedding party has been brought up exhaustively, especially when justifying her decisions not to include m ..read more