Exactly one month ago, a girl text me to tell me my narc of 8 months had recently dated her and was dating another girl and had been for the past few years. At the time, he and I had been arguing (per usual) about how he seemed to hate me. He was cold, indifferent…could not care less about me. In hindsight, I don’t know if he was discarding me or getting ready to punish me by going silent. Still don’t know. I find it interesting that he has blocked me on everything (he is allegedly not on social media) like I am the one who lied, cheated, and manipulated him. Not that I want to converse with ..read more

Is there some method or test ? submitted by /u/rods2112 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

So the other night I finally had enough of all of it. I told her I want a divorce. Her knee jerk reaction of course was to start blaming me for the failed reconciliation attempt after her affair years ago. She just got angry at me as I was sobbing. Since then nothing. It's like it didn't even happen. She just walks around planning her mother's day trip to Vegas lol. The waves of realization that come through during this process about what my role in her life has really been is fucking brutal. submitted by /u/orik639 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Things are really over.. ended not well at all. Not getting all of my stuff back and I'm blocked on a lot of things now. It sucks and I'm missing them so much.. again with the blaming. Trying to just keep in mind all of the negative. He made 4x my salary and when we were long distance never helped me to get there, I spent $100s on flights, gas. And then I'd go and have to do 50/50, if he was nice maybe 60/40. Plus clean the place, walk the dog, do his laundry.. if I ever complained about money he would get mad at me. Told me I should be Airbnbing my apartment and that it's not his fault that ..read more

Can someone give insight to why narcissists think they are superior and can medal in the affairs of others and even control and sabotage them or physically abuse them but it’s all justified to them because they are better then everyone. When their behavior and lives shows they ain’t nothing special. submitted by /u/Greedy_Dish4891 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

My relationship only lasted about 6 months but i feel like it had such a deep impact on me I still think about it a year later and honestly feel kinda dumb that I do still let it effect me. My therapist says not to let the duration bother me but it still does submitted by /u/ijster [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

In November I found out I was pregnant and was happy. My narc (or I think he was anyway?!) said he has changed his mind and didn't want children anymore. He had so many fears about his career, his family. I own a place but he lives with family. I've a decent job and am in my 30s so I offered to do it alone. I went to counselling and therapist warned me men can 'future fake' to get you to follow through with the pregnancy. He sold me stories of our wonderful, blissful future together. I booked the appointment and I don't even know why I did but I wanted him to be happy with me. The morning of ..read more

They hate your career success, your personal growth, happiness and financial stability. They don’t want too see their victims have resources if they had It there way they’d put you in a ditch on the street. They what you to sacrifice yourself for them and mange their emotions and problems and envy towards you for them. They think they own you. They are creepy fkn losers. submitted by /u/Greedy_Dish4891 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Does it get better? After 12 months of the same cycle that all of us have endured here I said enough and ended the relationship, only to see myself crawling back to her and see how she guilt tripped me, gave me breadcrumbs and never admitted any fault. Im almost a month away of No contact but im losing myself, Im too sad and I don’t see how life is gonna get better. One of the things that hurt the most is how she gave her last relationship thousands of chances, lasting 5 years, a relationship where EVERY kind of abuse happened including infidelity… and with me, where none of that happened she ..read more

Maybe I'm looking too much into things but she told me she prefers talking over texting because too much can be misinterpreted or misunderstood. I have to actually agree and she's not "bad" per say with texting. I just strongly feel like I'm a MUCH better communicator with texting and being honest with her than I am in person (and bringing up very uncomfortable topics to her). I have even told her as such that I feel I can't really talk to people authentically because my brain is somewhat miswired to talking to people face to face. I honestly feel much more disarmed when she's with me in pers ..read more