My abusers openly supported the institution of torture, including state sponsored torture. It was weird. They would openly defend a lot of crazy stuff and stay silent about it, which is horrifying to me. So, anyone who supports anything even remotely close to that, even just casually like is friends with other people who do, is someone I designate as being a shitty person. submitted by /u/synth_nerd0085 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Examples I can give are: One occasion my ex gave me £20 to get a haircut to which I said thanks, when I used that money for my haircut she said "Oh, I thought you'd use your own money? I thought you wouldn't use it?" And then argued with me, even though I just did as she asked? Another occasion is she asked me to put her credit away in a very specific location, so when she asked me where it was, I told her exactly where it was and she argued and said "Why's it there? GO and put it wjere it should be!" And don't get me started on the passive aggressiveness every day... Anyone else had th ..read more

Im curious to know if anyone else has been through something like this. I have heard a lot of stories about narcissists being addicted to sex or porn or masturbating, but haven’t been able to find people with a similar experience to mine. When we first started dating my narc told me he did not masturbate or watch porn at all and when I told him I did, he told me that it made him uncomfortable and that he didn’t want me to do it. I was so young and he was my first boyfriend so I didn’t know that this was a completely unfair request. He used guilt and shame to make me feel bad about it and sinc ..read more

Recently I've been asking myself why I (even subconsciously) put myself in that masochistic place, knowing that there are people out there who would immediately notice something's off and would not be interested in having anything to do with the narc, knowing that I could find myself someone who would treat me like a queen. Asking myself why I lack so much self love. Then I realised that beyond all the manipulation that there was from his part, I was taught to love fucked up behavior at home. I was taught by my narcissist mother that one moment she can be ranting about how she wants to beat m ..read more

I reached a really low point of just blaming myself, feeling worthless etc etc. And I started crying. I'm not much of a crier unless I just hit a really low point. But afterwards, I had a moment of clarity and realized I wasn't treated fairly. Feel like it's just a process. One minute, you feel empowered and the next, you're balling your eyes out. If this is what it takes to feel clarity, bring on the tears! submitted by /u/Minute-Post1747 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Was he/she a narc? If yes, what did you think you overlooked? If not, how did you allow yourself to trust again? submitted by /u/ot_t17 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

I saw someone else post a poem that they asked chat gpt to make. I thought I'd do one too for survivors. ChatGPT In the depths of despair, she found her light, A survivor of the darkest night. Through lies and deceit, she forged her way, In the ashes of pain, she rose to stay. Cheated, abandoned, torn apart, By the venom of a twisted heart. Physically bruised, emotionally scarred, Yet from the ashes, she dared to shard. Mentally battered, spiritually torn, Yet from the darkness, resilience born. In the grip of abuse, she found her voice, No longer silenced, no longer a choice. Financially bur ..read more

When you would not comply with their plans, decisions, ideas? Or when you don't immediately do what they tell you to do? Mine used to take a small pause, followed by this 'rational', quiet, annoyingly calm and collected voice where he treats me like a small child. I am such an unreasonable kid for setting boundaries and thinking for myself. I should just turn my brain off permanently and accept him as my lord. Resistance is futile! I am simply too insert a derogatory and condescending term here to make my own decisions and live my own life the way I lived without them. Fuck you, you vile and ..read more

How do you explain to people about narcissism? How do I tell people, that's what I've been dealing with. Some family think he is mean and doesn't care but no one understands how I've been through narcissistic abuse.... Also I'm afraid people will think why the hell did you stay. Is narcissistic abuse part of the "cycle of abuse" - that keeps people coming back. submitted by /u/Wagga1989 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

I’m not entirely sure but I think I’m moving in the right direction. Before last week I’d always be depressed, crying, thinking everything was my fault and that I was the crazy one. I’d actually miss my narc and wonder why they discarded me, why if we were having such a beautiful connection. But last week I went on a trip to Ireland and this trip helped me open my eyes. It helped me see how beautiful my life is and that not everything is my fault. That I’m a wonderful person, etc. I don’t feel the way I did before the trip. I no longer miss the narc the way I used to. I don’t cry for the narc ..read more