The anticipation of a high conflict divorce trial can be intense and anxiety-inducing. It’s important to learn techniques to stay grounded and calm before and during the trail. Centering yourself with grounding techniques in the midst of the narcissist’s chaos is essential in maintaining your physical health, mental stability, and emotional strength ..read more

In the past, I’ve given a tremendous amount of grace to people who are still in the thick of things and not able to get involved in advocacy efforts. But things have reached a crisis level, and we truly need everyone. Even if you can only do one thing this week, please do it. In family court advocacy, every action counts. Here are four urgent calls to action. Whether you're a survivor, an advocate, or someone who simply cares about protecting children, there's a place for you in this fight ..read more

Narcissistic individuals have no qualms about lying under oath. Perjury means nothing to them because their reality is whatever serves their agenda in the moment. They will distort, manipulate, and fabricate without hesitation—all while looking the judge in the eye. If you’ve ever sat in a courtroom and listened to the narcissist spin their web of lies, you know how infuriating and helpless it can feel. The injustice of it all is enough to make your blood boil. But reacting emotionally won’t help your case—it will only give them ammunition to use against you ..read more

Across Georgia—and the nation—children are being court-ordered into dangerous, unregulated, and unproven programs under the false guise of “family reunification.” These programs have no basis in science, no government oversight, and no place in our justice system—yet they’re booming into a multi-million-dollar industry fueled by litigation, coercion, and court orders. Georgia’s House Bill 253, also known as Ethan’s Law, could finally change that ..read more

Reunification therapy, when imposed under coercive circumstances, is not a neutral intervention—it is a dangerous legal weapon that can strip protective parents of their rights and force children into harmful situations. Parents must be fully informed of the risks before consenting, and courts must be held accountable for the unchecked power they grant to reunification therapists ..read more

Not the most fun, but definitely an important step - picking your clothing for your divorce or child custody battle court appearances.  Of all the things to be stressing about - staying alive, keeping your children alive, getting documentation to your attorney, and surviving the narcissist’s relentless attacks - here’s a quick guide to choosing your wardrobe for in-person court appearances when facing a narcissist ..read more

Finding, retaining, and working with a family law attorney is one of the most difficult and frustrating aspects of a high conflict divorce and/or custody battle.  And once you’ve secured your attorney, it can feel like everything is crashing down if you begin to realize that they’re not all their Yelp reviews cracked them up to be. Here are some of the most egregious red flags that every survivor should be aware of: Remember that your attorney works for you ..read more

Dear Governor Polis, As a national advocate for family court reform, I have spent years bearing witness to the systemic failures within our nation’s family court system. The injustices I have encountered are deeply troubling, but what I am seeing unfold in Colorado’s 7th Judicial District is particularly egregious. As the Governor of Colorado, you hold a unique responsibility in this matter. Because judges in Colorado are appointed, the integrity of the judiciary ultimately rests in your hands. I implore you to act swiftly and decisively in the case of Christine McGinley, whose son remains in ..read more

Learn how reliance on a higher power can help you feel more grounded on the battlefield. This post isn’t about religion, but it IS about spirituality. Whether it’s faith in a God, the Universe, the power of humanity, or simply the peace of being in nature, many survivors find a higher level of personal peace and grounding when they invest time and emotional energy in their spirituality ..read more

What began as a mother’s desperate fight to shield her child from domestic abuse, backed by court findings of neglect and repeated head and facial injuries, spiraled into a harrowing nightmare. The very institutions designed to protect children instead turned a blind eye, becoming complicit in the ongoing abuse. Christine’s case was thoroughly investigated by ProPublica in 'Both Parents Agree: The Child is Being Harmed. Which One Will the Court Believe?’ which  exposed the harrowing reality within Colorado’s 7th Judicial District. It stands as a damning indictment of a ..read more