Making friends can feel hard, and finding community can feel even harder…. Today on the podcast, I talk to Stephanie who recently moved to a new place and is looking for ways to connect with others and form community. We often talk about the benefits of community, but we don’t always discuss how to practically create that type of environment. If this is something you have been wanting to do, take a listen to this on air session because it will challenge you and help you take some next steps in community. Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras ..read more

We don’t often consider the toll that full time ministry takes on pastors and leaders in the church. The role of leading people spiritually also comes at a cost — and often times that cost can be great! Today on the podcast I process this with Pastor Matt Brown, and specifically what to do when Ministry life is really hard. In our on-air counseling session, we talk about what it feels like to have your life and family under a microscope, to feel judged by bystanders, and to be rejected by people you love… as well as how to respond in healthy ways to these really hard life moments. If you or s ..read more

By Bri Franklin, M.A., LMHC As adults, some think it’s important to leave the past in the past but, consider the fact that just because we grow up to be adults does not mean that we have left the residual pain from our past behind. While some might hear the term “inner child” and think it’s unfounded psychological jargon, it is undoubtedly one of the most important concepts in understanding our present selves. The inner child refers to what occurs when the unmet or unresolved physical, social, psychological, or social needs we had as children are passed over into ..read more

Heartbreak after heartbreak… you might know what it feels like to have your heart broken into a million pieces. You might know what it feels like to have your heart broken by someone you thought you would be with forever. How do you come out the other side of heartbreak? How do you believe that God has good things in store for your life and for your relationships when all you feel is pain, rejection, and insecurity? What can you do to get through heartbreak and come out the other side hoping and believing for love? Today, I have an on-air counseling session with Jeanine Amapola Ward… as we pr ..read more

Are you struggling with decisions in your dating life? Today on the podcast, I talk with Carolina, and help her navigate some questions she has regarding dating and dating relationships. She specifically wants to know how you make decisions based on your faith and what God wants for your dating life, versus making decisions based on your emotions and how you feel… and is there a difference between those two things? Is it anxiety, or is it God? Is it infatuation, or the Holy Spirit? We process through all of this and dig a little deeper today on the Podcast!! if you are making decisions in you ..read more

How do you handle rejection? Worse yet, how do you handle rejection from people you hoped to be able to trust? How do you recover from feeling unwanted or unneeded? How do you keep it from becoming part of your beliefs and identity? This week on the podcast I have a powerful on-air session with Alexandra Hoover, and we start putting together the pieces of the puzzle of what caused her to have a vulnerability towards rejection. I help her identify where this came from, and how it might be impacting other parts of her life and ministry. It’s a powerful and emotional conversation, and I believe ..read more

What do you do when you feel like you don’t fit in? What do you do when you don’t even feel like you belong in your own family? How can you take that feeling that you don’t belong, and turn it into something good… Something healthy… Something purposeful and meaningful? This is exactly the subject we dive into today in this on-air counseling session with Brian Tome. He felt out of place in his own life— and for good reason. We talk about some of his hurts from the past, and how they impacted & informed his calling in the present. Let me just tell you, this man is a character… And it was a ..read more

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Today on the podcast, I have a couples counseling session with two of my favorite people… Dave and Ann Wilson! I met them when I was invited to be on their program, family life today, and I immediately fell in love with their authenticity. I knew they would be a perfect fit for couples counseling session to dig into some of the hard things from their past and how their past has impacted their marriage relationship over the years. Their relationship didn’t start healthy, in fact — it was rather dysfunctional— and they really had to learn the hard way. You are going to love this open, honest co ..read more

Are you good at sharing your needs with others? Most people aren’t. Today on the podcast, Erin from Texas called in to talk to me about the fact that she has a really hard time opening up with others and being vulnerable about what she really needs and how she feels. She’s seen patterns in her life of putting others first and staying silent about her own needs…until it’s become problematic. We unpack some of the relationships where she struggles the most, and then I ask her some questions to help her get to the root of WHY — so she can begin making changes! If you have a hard time sharing you ..read more