Attracting a woman is kind of like shooting a bow and arrow: If you don’t pull the string back and push on the bow at the same time in the right amounts you will miss your target… I mean, there’s a reason why Cupid shoots an arrow to symbolize romantic love. =) And, before you start actively learning about this stuff, this idea can seem counterintuitive: You mean in addition to building a connection with a woman, we should (must) break that connection sometimes as well? Well, yes, because attraction and romantic love require an element of tension that isn’t necessarily there when we build othe ..read more

When it comes to attracting women, there’s one critical element that men tend to miss: TESTING. See, women tend to test men automatically while most men don’t know how to test women at all… In fact, it never even crosses their mind even though it leads to much more success and happiness with women: Testing women protects you from women who are there for the wrong reasons, stops you from wasting your valuable time and energy, and allows you to find the right woman for you FASTER (or a woman who is down to hook up faster if you’re not looking for a relationship at the moment). It also gives you ..read more

You may have already heard me say that a woman must be AVAILABLE in order for her to be the right woman for you… In other words, assuming she’s interested in you, she must also not have a boyfriend or husband and she must live relatively close to you if you want to start dating her with a long-term relationship in mind. Well, what if she just broke up with her boyfriend, she just got a divorce, or her ex passed away recently? You may have also heard me say that it usually takes about 2 months for every year you’re together with someone for your feelings to fully “reset” to the point where you ..read more

If you want to have a satisfying long-term relationship with a woman, she MUST have certain qualities. Even if you do everything right with her and even if your girlfriend or wife has high interest in you, if she doesn’t have these specific qualities then you’ll eventually have big problems in your relationship with her. Of course, we cover this in detail inside the Attract and Keep Her System, but here’s a brief summary of the qualities that a woman must have in order for you to be able to build a healthy, satisfying relationship with her… In order for a woman to be the right woman for you, s ..read more

I got an email from a student a while back about a woman becoming moody from something that happened and asking how to deal with it… And he also asked me if I thought it had anything to do with her romantic interest level in him. His message got me thinking about the moods females experience and how we should react to that as a male in general… So, in this article, I want to give you a solid foundational guide to dealing with a woman’s moods. A Woman’s Many Moods… First of all, as you probably already know, women tend to experience a lot more moods in general and experience a lot more mood cha ..read more

Ahhh, those “3 magic words” that “women love to hear…” But do they really though? Well, like most things when it comes to male/female dynamics, the answer is IT DEPENDS… So let me give you the foundational principle behind saying I love you right away (and then we can get into the details later): Saying “I love you” or expressing your feelings for a woman CANNOT (ever) make her like you or love you or like you or love you more. Ever… On the other hand, once a woman is ALREADY deeply in love with you, those 3 words can make her feel really good as long as you don’t say them too often. So, when ..read more

I got some great questions from a top student the other day… And, I think this discussion can help all of us, so I’m going to share our conversation with you in this article. Here’s what N.C. wrote in: “Hi Jim. Thank you so much for what you are sharing with me… At some point I get lost, and now I just discovered that I have a fear of mistakes to start… If you are saying DO NOT take a woman out for a “dinner and a movie” date on your first date (or your first 3 dates), can you give more details and better options? I understand the reasons for not taking her to a movie… No. 2: You are saying we ..read more

Imagine this for a second: You meet a woman who’s absolutely perfect for you and manage to use all of the correct dating tactics with her that make a man successful with women… So, for a minute, you’re able to attract her and raise her interest level. Then, after a short while, she figures out that you’re not really the kind of guy you’re pretending to be and she loses her interest in you and takes off. Ouch. Or, alternatively, let’s say you keep doing everything right with her and end up in a relationship with her for a long time… And then one day, a couple of years later, you suddenly realiz ..read more

Imagine for a second that you just got a promotion at work… And then you come home to your girlfriend or wife excited to tell her about it: “Hey, guess what?! I just got the promotion I’ve been wanting for so long!! I’m so happy!” Her response: “That’s great…but I mean…don’t you hate working there anyway? Sorry if I don’t get too excited for you…” DEFLATED. That’s how you might feel. And this short little story illustrates the opposite of the concept we’re going to cover in this article: A simple way to improve ALL of your relationships… It’s called “capitalization” and it’s one of the keys to ..read more

Did you know that a woman’s interest in you depends on your ability to build AND break rapport with her? In fact, you probably do this naturally with women you’re not that interested in…which is why you might notice that they become more interested in you. Now, most of the time, when we think about building a “connection” with a woman and being in a relationship with her, we’re thinking about how to build rapport with her. And while it’s important to be able to do that, most men can do it because we can all build friendships with other people… So what we need to do is learn how to break rappor ..read more