If you’ve never tried using a pillow to elevate your sex game, this is your sign to try! Adding a pillow under your hips, back, leg, or side can be a game changer if you know what we mean. So let’s get to it, how can we spice up intimacy with our pillows? Heightened Missionary Lay on your back with 1-2 pillows underneath the bottom of your back so that your hips are angled upward and your legs fall to the side. This angle is really good for hitting your G-spot or prostate! Secure Spoon For the Secure Spoon, lay on your sides just like you would when you cuddle. Once you’re settled, grab a pil ..read more

Where Is Your Mind? It’s not always intentional, sometimes our minds drift or we get distracted by our surroundings easily. Maybe it’s not a pleasant conversation and instead of focusing on what your partner is saying and how they’re feeling, you’re working on your response in your head. Thus making the conversation about your feelings and needs instead of theirs or both of yours. Zoning out and missing important conversational details can lead to feelings of inattentiveness or even escalate to a stressful situation.  So how do we avoid this? Active listening is the practice of being int ..read more

There is so much more to physical intimacy than sex. Do you ever find yourself cuddling, kissing, or touching, and then it leads to sex and you feel a little let down? You’re craving non-sexual touch and intimacy. Sexual intercourse is just one way of many we express love, desire, and closeness with someone. Let’s look at some other ways we can cultivate intimacy with our partner. Leaving and Reuniting Throughout The Day In the mornings before you get up to start the day, spend just a few minutes cuddling and being close, talking, or both. Making each other a priority first thing in the morni ..read more

Mutual masturbation is when two or more people self-pleasure side by side or near each other. Those involved can be acting completely independently of each other or interacting and assisting each other. It can benefit us and our partners in so many ways! Mutual Masturbation allows us to learn about our turn-ons, create more time for foreplay, watch our partner in action, and intensify pleasure for each other in the long run.  What Does It Look Like?  Mutual Masturbation can look however you want it to! Just like all other types of intimacy, it’s up to those involved to communicate a ..read more

Feel weird about masturbating? You might not if you knew all of the physical and mental health benefits it could bring you! If you’re looking for some extra motivation, you’ve come to the right place. Let’s dive in! Masturbating Can Reduce Pain and Stress When we orgasm, endorphins are released which can help with pain. Orgasms also produce dopamine which helps us feel happier and calmer. Many women enjoy sex and masturbating while menstruating as it helps alleviate menstrual pain. Finding Others Who Share Your Experience There are a few things you can try to help stave off feelings of loneli ..read more

Self-soothing allows us to step back and identify what we need at the moment to regulate our mind and body when we are experiencing overwhelm. Self-soothing can help us take control of a situation in which we feel out of control. Let’s dive into some ways we can approach self-soothing. Learn Your Triggers We all have different types of triggers. When we know our triggers, we are better able to anticipate them and respond to them when we become triggered. Creating a relationship with our triggers allows us to develop awareness and coping mechanisms to deal with them.  Physically Relax You ..read more

There are a lot of misconceptions that we tell ourselves about the control we have over our thoughts. We sometimes get caught up in the idea that we don’t have control over our thoughts. Or worse, we start to shame ourselves for the thoughts that naturally come into our heads unprovoked. These thoughts, left unregulated, have the potential to drum up emotions and weigh on our mental health and relationships.  When emotions bubble up, our partners take notice, and it can seep into how we communicate and act toward them. This isn’t necessarily because there is something wrong with the rela ..read more

Life is so complex; it’s amazing our brains have the ability to collect, store and analyze information in the ways they do, let alone processing the endless possible perspectives that exist in the world. When we think about the reality of a situation, especially those affecting our relationships, it’s vitally important to remember that our understanding and experience is unique to us.  Even our partners, who share our homes and most meals, live a different life than we do. This is why we sometimes butt heads with our spouses, because we find it incredible that someone living so close to ..read more

When we think about setting our sights on the new year, we often think about our personal, individualized goals. We want to lose weight, spend more time on our hobbies or with family, or achieve something new for the first time. These are fantastic New Year's resolutions that can act as a springboard for thinking about other areas of your life, like your relationship or marriage. It's important to remember that our relationships benefit from focused attention and intentional action. Just like we can lose weight with diet and exercise in 2022, we can also work toward strengthening our relation ..read more

Today is the last day of Transgender Awareness Week, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be thinking about how our words and actions can impact a trans person. Whether someone is  cisgendered, transgendered or somewhere in between, trans awareness extends beyond this week and should be a daily practice to ensure others feel safe in their own skin at home, at work, and wherever they may go. For many transgendered people, it can be difficult to navigate the negativity and awkward conversations that come with transitioning. For many cisgendered people, it can be difficult to understand what i ..read more