Kink, vanilla, fetish, BDSM – they’re all terms we’ve heard and thought about when we’re faced with the idea of “kink.” But maybe those words fascinate you? And maybe you or you and your partner are thinking about trying out kink? If so, this is the right place for you to be right now! Kink and BDSM Defined Kink is anything sexual or pleasurable that differs from society’s basic expectation of intercourse in a romantic relationship. Sometimes, this can be referred to as “vanilla sex” but everyone’s perspective can differ. BDSM: Bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism. Use Your Words During Kink ..read more

For a lot of people, especially women, there is or has been some guilt or shame around masturbation and sexual pleasure. There are a lot of root causes for these feelings, but some of the main ones can include lack of sexual education or conversation, discomfort with one’s own body, religiously or culturally-based sexual oppression, or internal relationship guilt from a partner. Feelings of shame and guilt are quite common when it comes to self-pleasuring activities especially.  Sometimes we just need to change the way we think about things to make progress. When we are finally able to p ..read more

Male masturbation, toys, stigma. Women have had a diverse market of magic wands, vibrators, dildos, clit suckers, and everything in between and beyond. For men, their options have been slightly more limited and come with much more judgment, though we have started making strides! Take the Fleshlight for example. How many times have you seen or heard someone commenting on a man having or using a Fleshlight? Up until recently, the majority of adult toy companies have been run by men, but that’s changing. With that, the male masturbation stigma is also changing, but it’s still a work in progress ..read more

Being Intentional Relationships don’t become amazing or stay amazing without work and intentionality. Once the new relationship energy fades, it's important to purposefully make time for things that were originally second nature. Relationships are dynamic and subject to change, so it’s important to stay attentive to each other in the midst of all of the changes life throws at you. So when life throws too much at you, what can you do to create time and space for each other when it feels impossible? 1. Schedule a regular date night and take turns planning it. There’s nothing more meaningful tha ..read more

Sexting. It’s virtual, hot, and convenient. Some people may sext because they’re in a long-distance relationship, some people may sext as foreplay for later in the day, and some people may sext because they want to get someone off or get themselves off. Sexting opens a world of possibilities, so let’s check them out. Sexual Creativity Sexting is an easy way for couples to explore their fantasies without physically partaking in them. As long as you’re sexting with someone who respects you and whom you trust, there’s room to see if those fantasies have a place in the real world. Sexting provide ..read more

If you’ve never tried using a pillow to elevate your sex game, this is your sign to try! Adding a pillow under your hips, back, leg, or side can be a game changer if you know what we mean. So let’s get to it, how can we spice up intimacy with our pillows? Heightened Missionary Lay on your back with 1-2 pillows underneath the bottom of your back so that your hips are angled upward and your legs fall to the side. This angle is really good for hitting your G-spot or prostate! Secure Spoon For the Secure Spoon, lay on your sides just like you would when you cuddle. Once you’re settled, grab a pil ..read more

Where Is Your Mind? It’s not always intentional, sometimes our minds drift or we get distracted by our surroundings easily. Maybe it’s not a pleasant conversation and instead of focusing on what your partner is saying and how they’re feeling, you’re working on your response in your head. Thus making the conversation about your feelings and needs instead of theirs or both of yours. Zoning out and missing important conversational details can lead to feelings of inattentiveness or even escalate to a stressful situation.  So how do we avoid this? Active listening is the practice of being int ..read more

There is so much more to physical intimacy than sex. Do you ever find yourself cuddling, kissing, or touching, and then it leads to sex and you feel a little let down? You’re craving non-sexual touch and intimacy. Sexual intercourse is just one way of many we express love, desire, and closeness with someone. Let’s look at some other ways we can cultivate intimacy with our partner. Leaving and Reuniting Throughout The Day In the mornings before you get up to start the day, spend just a few minutes cuddling and being close, talking, or both. Making each other a priority first thing in the morni ..read more

Mutual masturbation is when two or more people self-pleasure side by side or near each other. Those involved can be acting completely independently of each other or interacting and assisting each other. It can benefit us and our partners in so many ways! Mutual Masturbation allows us to learn about our turn-ons, create more time for foreplay, watch our partner in action, and intensify pleasure for each other in the long run.  What Does It Look Like?  Mutual Masturbation can look however you want it to! Just like all other types of intimacy, it’s up to those involved to communicate a ..read more

Feel weird about masturbating? You might not if you knew all of the physical and mental health benefits it could bring you! If you’re looking for some extra motivation, you’ve come to the right place. Let’s dive in! Masturbating Can Reduce Pain and Stress When we orgasm, endorphins are released which can help with pain. Orgasms also produce dopamine which helps us feel happier and calmer. Many women enjoy sex and masturbating while menstruating as it helps alleviate menstrual pain. Finding Others Who Share Your Experience There are a few things you can try to help stave off feelings of loneli ..read more