When your marriage is going through a rocky time, and you have tried to navigate it on your own and there is no appreciable progress, maybe it’s time to consider getting professional help. However, there are so many marriage therapists in New York City. How do you navigate this and pick the right therapist for you? How do you even know what kind of a therapist is right for you? Therapy also is quite expensive unless you are lucky to find someone who takes your insurance who is also good. Here is some advice on how to choose a Marriage Counselor in NYC: Ask Friends Some couples will ask their f ..read more

It is definitely a major adjustment when your last child moves out. It is difficult to transition from taking care of someone for many years and then, all of a sudden, they are not there. The home may feel empty and lonely. If you are unsure if you are suffering from empty nest syndrome, take a moment to learn more about this phenomenon here. In the last decade, more and more people have figured out how to make this transition easier. It matters to some extent if you have a partner and if the relationship is a viable one. Not having to worry about a child at home can be very liberating and can ..read more

Empty nest syndrome is not a clinical diagnosis. It is a phenomenon in which parents experience feelings of sadness, emptiness, loss when their last child leaves home. While we all know that this is a good thing and is inevitable and would be a sign of a problem if it does not happen, we still usually do not feel good when it happens. We all know that our goal as parents is to make our children independent, autonomous adults, the experience of letting go can be very painful. It is hard not to have children in your home who need care and attention. Sometimes, there is a sense of having no purpo ..read more

We all live in a reality of work being more and more demanding of our time. It is not uncommon for many of the professionals I see in my practice to work 12 plus hours a day and then being on call the rest of the time.  Many of my couples complain about their partner having to take calls and work on vacations. There are some professions that are worse than others in this respect.  There are no easy solutions for this. Many workplaces simply will not tolerate any push back from employees on this issue. I think the most important issue is to take a wide view of this and decide what is important ..read more

A question on so many of our minds is how can we cope with stress better than we are doing now?  Unfortunately, stress is part of everyone’s life, especially living in New York City. The stimuli, the expenses, and the stress of city living, to name a few, can magnify issues. Additionally, some people are simply more prone to feeling stress than others.  This is all built into being an adult and having responsibility. There are multiple worries we all experience almost daily, especially as we become adults. Our lives have many moving parts. There often are financial worries, job stress, relatio ..read more

Surprisingly, I am asked this question quite often. I am puzzled by it every time. Why should it matter if you are not married or not planning on getting married soon? Many couples choose not to get married ever, or are not ready to marry at the moment. Often this is BECAUSE there are issues of concern that are obstacles to moving forward. If these are not addressed and hopefully resolved, the marriage simply may not happen and, may be should not happen. Some couples, simply do not ever plan to marry but are still concerned about their relationship and want it to be as good as possible. From m ..read more

The field of psychotherapy has advanced a great deal in the past  20 years. Since Freudian time, therapy was commonly referred to as “talk therapy”. Over the years, however, many different forms of therapy have evolved including psychoanalysis and psychodynamic therapy, and later, cognitive behavioral therapy and supportive therapy. Most of these therapies consisted of a patient doing the talking and therapist mostly listening whiles interjecting every so often, and in the case of psychoanalysis – making interpretations. In other therapies like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), the therapist ..read more

Today, there are a number of different trauma therapies available to patients, as well as trauma therapists to administer this therapy. This is important because trauma is one of the most common reasons people seek therapy. In the trauma field, there are two types of trauma that exist – “Big T trauma” and “Little T Trauma”. Big T Trauma most commonly refers to a traumatic event or events in which a person’s physical survival is threatened. These events are usually life and death situations, or ones where there is an extreme physical or psychological abuse involved. Some common examples of Big ..read more

Most people who come to receive individual therapy feel they need help with issues like depression, anxiety, compulsive issues, avoidance or performance issues, when in fact, many of their issues boil down to relationship issues. Feeling alone, unsupported or frightened in the world is a common breeding ground for many psychological conditions and illnesses. This is not to say that those who are in good, solid romantic relationships or friendships do not need counseling, but that the issues grow and transform much faster when one person feels not alone and unsupported. Part of the reason there ..read more

Many patients falsely believe that they only need EMDR after enduring a major, catastrophic event in their life. Such events could be a terrible car accident, death of a loved one, violent attack or sexual assault. However, this is not the case.  In regards to EMDR treatment, there is a concept known as “Big T Trauma” and “ Small T Trauma”. The examples listed above are considered Big T Traumas and are common types of reasons someone may require EMDR treatment. Small T traumas may include a break-up, getting fired from a job, difficult relationship, a major interpersonal conflict or disappoint ..read more