One Week Into a New Placement
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by Jamie C.
1w ago
If you were one week into a new placement, I would remind you: - This. Is. Not. Your. New. Normal. Most of it will get better, some of it will get worse, but I promise you—you will fall into normal (albeit a new one) again. - The tension in your neck will, in fact, melt away. You won’t feel like there’s a stranger living in your home for long, and you’ll start to feel like yourself again. - Choose connection over correction. Pick your battles, and then whittle them down further & pick even fewer. - Hunker down. Stay in, cancel anything you can, don’t march on with life as usual. Protec ..read more
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How Did We Become a 7 Kid Family?
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by Jamie C.
2w ago
How did we become a 7 kid family?? ? This time last year we had 5 kids and my cup was full-to-the-tippy-top-spilling-over. I never planned on 7 kids…I never planned on 5 kids…I never planned on any kids! I didn’t want to be a mom. I wanted to live in the city and work in an art museum and be “important.” But thank God that He writes better stories than we could ever dream up. He takes a selfish woman with small, here-and-now kinds of hopes and entrusts her with the important, impossible mission of creating a healing home for kids. He takes a couple committed to building their one boy, one ..read more
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There is No One As Brave as a Kid in Foster Care
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by Jamie C.
2w ago
“I think you’re really brave.” “But then why am I about to cry?” “Brave people cry all the time! I think people are the MOST brave when they feel scared and sad and keep going!” We talk about their challenges, their behaviors, their traumas, their needs. I think we should talk more about their bravery. The extent of the loss, the sorrow, the uncertainty, the unfamiliarity—it’s unthinkable for such a little life and delicate heart to have to carry. But we can enter it all with them, and there is a God who already has. There is no one as brave as a kid in foster care ..read more
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Don't Accept the Lie of Monday
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by Jamie C.
1M ago
Mama, don't accept the lie of Monday. This morning, God's mercies are waiting for you, fresh and brand new. Today, you are surrounded by souls that you have the privilege to affect and shape in a lasting, eternal way. Your mundane, "meaningless" tasks have great meaning and worth if they're done in love for others and for Jesus. There are good works that God planned for you to accomplish—before the beginning of time—for this very Monday. If you're feeling weak, "can't even," don't know if you can muster up the strength, then celebrate your little heart out, because—through Him—in your weakne ..read more
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Getting Off the Roller Coaster is a Roller Coaster
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by Jamie C.
2M ago
The other day we met the adoption worker and shared our intent to adopt baby boy. She left, and I started to grapple with the fact that saying “yes” to forever with him means the state says “no” to us being foster parents any longer. Six forever kids and they slam your door shut. What will it mean to close our home? I think of the 10 years. I think of the 30 kids. It’s confusing and disorienting and just plain hard. We’re getting off the roller coaster. Within a few minutes, I get a desperate hysterical call from one of my former kids’ moms. “You’re all I have,” she says. “Please say yes ..read more
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It's About How We Understand the Gospel
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by Jamie C.
2M ago
As foster parents, the way we think about and pray for our kid’s biological families is crucial. But it’s about so much more than the kind of foster parents we are. It is about how we understand the gospel. If we believe our kids' parents are beyond hope, cannot be healed, are undeserving of forgiveness, too far past the reach of grace, it begs the question: Are we truly understanding and experiencing the fullness of the gospel ourselves? Our kids’ parents are exactly as deserving of grace as we are—that is to say: not at all. We were just as hopeless and stuck, just as undeserving of forgiven ..read more
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There is an Epidemic
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by Jamie C.
2M ago
I believe there is an epidemic of foster parents—Christian foster parents—praying against the healing and restoration of first families. I hear foster parents confide all the time that they are praying they will get to “rescue” children from their “addict” parents, praying they won’t ever have to say goodbye, praying that court will go “in their favor.” I confess, there was a time I was this foster parent myself—times I’m tempted to feel this way still. As we fight for the protection of the children in our care, may we never stop praying for their parents to experience healing and growth and ..read more
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God is Using Foster Care for the Good of My Children
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by Jamie C.
3M ago
It hit me today that Jax has no idea that our family is a foster family. The last time we said goodbye to a child, he was only six months old. We have pictures and moments, but he has no memories. We said goodbye to our girl and spent some time healing up the holes in our hearts, then we welcomed our little baby boy, and the state counted up our six kids and called us “full.” No one’s come or gone since. And so, in his little life, he’s never known the confusion of saying goodbye to a sibling. He’s never experienced the grief of this side of foster care. He has no idea that our family—as he ..read more
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I Celebrate all of My (Adopted) Kids' Forever Family
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by Jamie C.
3M ago
Adoption offers kids a forever family. But we must never forget that our (adopted) kids also, already have a forever family—their biological family. Some parents are unable to full time parent their children—meet all their needs, keep them safe. But it doesn’t mean they cannot love their children. And it doesn’t mean they should be erased from their stories, kept out of their lives. As much as compassion for my kids’ biological parents plays a part in wanting to build connections between them, it is not what drives it. Rather, it is my love for my children, my commitment to their best intere ..read more
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Strong as a (Foster) Mother
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by Jamie C.
3M ago
This foster care life is strange and beautiful and full. And, this past week, with all its strange, beautiful fullness left me feeling anything but strong. Full disclosure, I never feel strong. I never feel like I have it together or that I'm doing any of this well. Weak would be the word. I feel plain old weak. But. I know that this is where my strength lies. In admitting weakness and embracing limitations and relying on His strength. I know that when I am weak, then I am strong. You, friend, aren't strong because you have it all together. You are strong, because He is strong. Embrace the ..read more
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