As many of us who have DID know too well, finding a good therapist who will give the proper diagnosis is hard. We are often misdiagnosed with a myriad of different conditions, such as bipolar disorder, schizo-affective disorder, or borderline personality disorder.   This article will break down what it takes to receive the correct diagnosis.   Finding a Therapist     Finding a therapist who is trauma-informed and who will work with dissociative disorders isn’t easy. Some people don’t find the correct therapist and receive an accurate diagnosis of dissociative identity diso ..read more

If you live with dissociative identity disorder in your life, you are very aware of the problems you have with your memory.   This article will explore memory dysfunction and why and how we forget.   What is Dissociative Amnesia     Dissociative amnesia is, like dissociative identity disorder, a form of dissociative disorder that causes people to forget parts of their lives. This memory loss is usually caused by traumatic events such as abuse, violence, neglect, military service, or other times when the person felt they were threatened.   The internet says you only ex ..read more

One of the most interesting side effects of childhood trauma is that many of us feel we are separated from our bodies. We acknowledge we have a body but view it as an inconvenient necessity that we prefer to ignore.   In this piece, we will focus on learning to live wholly in your body rather than just exist there.   How Did I Lose Contact with My Body?     When childhood abuse and neglect take place, the child may choose to numb themselves from what has happened to them. Some children, especially those who form dissociative identity disorder, can become disconnected from ..read more

There are approximately 1-7% of the world population (sometimes figured higher) who have dissociative identity disorder. However, most mental health professionals have either not taken the time to study DID or are trauma-informed.   This article will cover strategies to heal in therapy for dissociative identity disorder. Also, this piece will speak a bit about the problem of professionals not treating DID, offering the wrong treatment, or do not believe dissociative identity disorder exists.   What is dissociative identity disorder (DID)?     Dissociative identity disorder ..read more

I apologize for the lack of pictures in this post. Something was wrong with WordPress this morning.   Children should be allowed to be kids and grow up slowly and with joy. However, people who have survived severe childhood trauma did not have that option. Many were the victims of abuse and neglect, but one form of child abuse not usually mentioned in the literature is parentification.   This article will examine parentification and how it impacts survivors today.   What in the World is Parentification?     Parentification is when a child is forced to grow up too fast ..read more

Many who live with dissociative identity disorder fantasize about their birth parents showing up and loving them unconditionally. While we all know this isn’t possible, it leads to one conclusion: we must learn to parent ourselves.   In this article, we shall explore self-parenting when you have DID.   The Inner Child     Everyone, not only multiples, has a part of themselves that never entirely grew up to adulthood called the inner child. The inner child is a part of your subconscious mind that has gleaned messages from before you could process what those messages were. T ..read more

Learned helplessness is a term I had never experienced until recently. I had felt helpless and out of control of my life, but the words learned helplessness took me by surprise.   In this article, we shall explore learned helplessness and what it means for survivors of childhood trauma.   What is Learned Helplessness?     Learned helplessness is a psychological phenomenon that has been observed in humans. It is caused when humans are conditioned to expect suffering, pain, or discomfort without hope of escape. After enough conditioning, the person will stop trying to escape ..read more

Have you ever had that day where you feel disconnected and pulled too many directions at once? Under those circumstances, it is difficult to concentrate, and you may feel overwhelmed, anxious, and depressed.   This article will tackle a subject we have written about before mindfulness. Mindfulness is a critical concept to grasp to enhance your journey down the healing path from dissociative identity disorder.   What is Mindfulness?     One definition of mindfulness is that it is the essential human ability to be fully present and aware of who we are, where we are, and what ..read more

In this world we inhabit, there are stresses and pain that can cloud our ability to be content. Instead, we find ourselves caught in a repeating pattern of hope and disillusionment.   This article will focus on contentment, what it is, and how to achieve it.   What is Contentment?     Unfortunately, in our society, people have lost the ability to be content. Contentment is a deep sense of accepting yourself and your environment at any given moment. It is a fact that we humans don’t notice the happiness we have now. Instead, we are focused on the future and what material we ..read more

Divorce or separation is messy and very hard on any children caught up in the process. Often, children worry about losing one or both of their parents, even when the divorce or separation is amicable.   But what happens when one parent decides to cause alienation between their children and their ex? This article will explore parental alienation and how it affects children.   What is Parental Alienation?     Parental alienation includes doing or saying things by one parent against the other that damage the child’s relationship with the other parent. One parent causes their ..read more