Learn the science behind what compassion is, how it’s distinct from similar concepts, and how to increase it. Compassion is a term that you are likely familiar with already. But why are psychologists interested in compassion, and how does it relate to your well-being? Compassion is generally defined in the field of psychology as “being moved by another’s suffering and wanting to help” (Lazarus, 1991). The opposite of compassion may be “callousness” and “heartlessness.” These terms suggest at least indifference to, if not enjoyment of, another’s suffering. It is generally theorized that humans ..read more

Learn to identify problems and generate effective solutions. Discover different problem-solving skills and tools. If I ask you, What do most people do when faced with a problem in life? You would probably reply either of the below- They can choose to adopt a victim mentality and let the problem control them. They may opt to avoid the conflict or challenge altogether. Alternatively, they can take action to change the situation. They can also modify their perspective of the experience. Finally, they have the option to accept the problem or challenge and find ways to cope with it In my coaching ..read more

What is self-consciousness, what causes it, and how do you overcome it?  Are you preoccupied with how other people perceive you? Do you frequently feel concerned about potentially offending or upsetting others? Are you anxious about performing in front of an audience? If so, it’s possible that you are experiencing self-consciousness. Experts who research self-consciousness suggest that it’s natural for people to alternate between self-reflection and focusing on others. At times, we may consider our own thoughts, emotions, and actions, while at other times we may focus on those of others ..read more

We are designed to crave companionship and support. What’s surprising is the extent people are willing to go to keep things the way they are. Now, we all know that Life doesn’t stay the same and is not supposed to. Certain relationships stand the test of time while others just follow their designed course and then fizzle out. And statistics just show that humans prefer familiarity over the unknown. An individual would rather be in an abusive relationship than choosing freedom and the unknown. The Unknown is scary, the unknown can pose challenges, the unknown can be a frightful place and hence ..read more

Gain Insight into Anxiety Triggers and Effective Reduction Strategies As with most things, anxiety can affect people in different ways. For some, it may show up as sweaty palms, shaking, or a rapid heartbeat. Others may experience indigestion, headaches, or insomnia. (Konkel, 2021). These physical symptoms are associated with the body’s natural response to a perceived threat, which triggers physiological arousal. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, particularly for the first time, it would be best to consult a doctor to ensure no other underlying causes. Anxiety can also manifest co ..read more

Learn about the science of shame to understand where it comes from and how to deal with it. Shame stems from feeling flawed and inadequate, but it can be hard to recognize as it often operates outside of awareness. Shame is associated with depression, anger, inferiority, helplessness, and interpersonal anxiety, among other negative emotions (Goss, Gilbert, & Allan, 1994; Lewis, 2004). Understanding the Two Forms of Shame ‘Shame can be classified into two types: state shame and trait shame. State shame is a momentary experience of shame in response to an event, while trait shame acts more l ..read more

Burnout is a state of emotional, physical and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It’s not a temporary phenomenon that resolves on its own. It is an accumulation of unresolved stress and overwork that spirals out of control and can wreak havoc on an individual’s personal and professional life. So what causes burnout? It could be one factor or it could be a combination of multiple factors like being underpaid, being overlooked for promotions, lack of validation and appreciation, lack of autonomy in decision making, micromanagement and a host of other factors. The worst p ..read more

In today’s fast-paced world, focus is becoming an increasingly valuable commodity. Whether we are trying to complete a work project, study for an exam, or simply enjoy a relaxing activity, our ability to focus is often the determining factor in our success. However, despite its importance, focus is a skill that many people struggle to master. In this essay, we will explore the concept of focus, its importance, and some strategies for developing and maintaining it. At its core, focus refers to the ability to concentrate one’s attention on a particular task or activity. This involves blocking ou ..read more

We all want to have perfect relationships, but what does that entail? In the midst of a demanding schedule, how do we make time for the people we love? And most importantly, how do we show them that they are valued and treasured above all else. Here are my top tips for having healthy vibrant relationships. In No particular Order: Take a trip down memory lane– What were the things that you did for your partner when you first met them? Most likely you went out of your way to make them feel special. It might be a good idea to start doing those same things again. Who knows, you just might be pleas ..read more

It never ceases to amaze me as to why people don’t read as often as they should. Perhaps one of the major reasons is the absolute lack of time. Juggling work and family account for almost ninety percent of available time, with precious little time left for reading. Second, and I hear this often, most people consider reading as work and at the end of a long tiring day, concentrating on any subject regardless of how interesting it is, seems like the last thing someone would want to do. Statements like, “I just don’t see the Point” or “There are no interesting topics” are fairly common. That bein ..read more