The Drama Triangle is a psychological model generally used to describe dysfunctional relationships when people move through the roles of ‘victim’, ‘rescuer’ and ‘persecutor’ creating an emotional storm or drama. More generally, turn on a television, read a newsfeed or listen to a colleague, friend or family member who always seems to be complaining about … The post The Drama Triangle – How to Spot Dysfunctional Behaviour. appeared first on NLP School ..read more

What is mindfulness and how can it help manage stress ? I would define mindfulness as a mental state, where your conscious attention is taken up with experiencing the present moment. You are no longer dominated by your thoughts and feelings; you have a choice whether to engage with them or not. You become an … The post Using Mindfulness to Manage Stress and Boost Mental Health appeared first on NLP School ..read more

Do feel as if you want to change your life but the ‘how to’ somehow alludes you? In this post I will write about our ‘blind spots’ – we may want to change our life, but while that seems possible for others, it somehow doesn’t work out for us. It could be work, financial stability, … The post How to Change Your Life: 5 Things That Keep People Stuck appeared first on NLP School ..read more

What is Transactional Analysis? Transactional Analysis (TA) was developed in the 1950’s and 60’s by Eric Berne, a Freudian trained psychiatrist. Berne wanted a theory which could be understood and available to everyone. He was a brilliant observer of human interaction with an eye for patterns of behaviour and began to develop what came to … The post Transactional Analysis Explained and How It Can Help In Coaching and Improving Communication appeared first on NLP School ..read more

If you are choosing an NLP Practitioner course you are probably aware that there is a lot out there, and a huge variation in the cost, number of days and method of delivery. Pre recorded courses such as you’ll find on Udemy and the like are all very well and do have their place, however in this post I will focus on what to look for if you looking for a live training that covers serious in depth change work or, if you are looking to gain a qualification to work in the field. 1. What is the ‘source’ of NLP? It is important to find out from your training provider who is the source of their NLP ..read more

NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming, uses perceptual, behavioural, & communication techniques to help people change their thoughts & actions. NLP was originally developed by Dr Richard Bandler and John Grinder. They observed sessions by psychotherapists such as Fritz Perls, Virginia Satir and Milton Erickson, identifying common patterns and positive suggestions which they used to help their clients change. Once they had identified these patterns, Bandler and Grinder applied them in their own sessions and were able to reproduce similar results. This was the origin of the first NLP model ..read more

Many managers and HR Professionals attend our NLP courses, and in this article, we explain some of the key benefits they gain by using NLP techniques. To manage and mentor competent people, especially millennials, using traditional management methods simply do not work, or worse, can alienate people, in today’s workplace. NLP was created to find out what were the ‘magic beans’ of effective communicators: salespeople, leaders, and therapists. One of the discoveries that these professionals had in common was an ability to help people to feel ‘seen’ and understood. But how do you actually achiev ..read more

Working with beliefs in coaching is a fundamental part of helping clients achieve positive change. The Meta Model was the first model of NLP and was designed to help identify and categorise limiting beliefs into three groups: distortions, generalizations, and deletions. These categories are influenced by the famous linguist Noam Chomsky and this post will give a summary of how to use this model to identify these beliefs and open up more flexible options. NLP was co-created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in the 1970s, aiming to study and model excellence in human behaviour and communicatio ..read more

Being perfect is the problem! Psychologist Carl Rogers emphasized the importance of self-acceptance and being enough rather than striving for perfection, he also highlighted the significance of unconditional positive regard, both from oneself and for others. This involves accepting and valuing oneself regardless of achievements or failures (which are also subjective) , as well as extending empathy, understanding, and acceptance towards others. Through this process, individuals can build a foundation of self-worth that is not contingent upon external validation, or the pursuit of perfection ..read more

There is a saying in coaching and therapy: “The presenting problem is never the real problem.” Looking back to when I did my first NLP Practitioner training twenty years ago, I believed at that time that NLP would give me some new skills to help me manage my business and thereby help my overwhelmed and highly stressed state. Overwhelmed and Needing Help Like many people, I had become skilled at certain competencies at business, such as sales and finance, but not good at the other skills involving inspiring and managing my own staff. This is because I spent the first ten years of my career be ..read more