Many Highly Sensitive People are more subtly attuned to energy and this is where much clarification and help is missing. In many ways, being sensitive to energy puts you in an “inbetween” place that not many people acknowledge, understand or know how to help you with. The Psychology Approach to Energy In the world of psychology, “energy” is a metaphor for how someone makes you feel at best. I see more and more psychology articles these days using energy terminology, but it’s clear that they don’t intend it in a literal way. In my line of work, energy is a subtle but real substance. In order t ..read more

At heart, emotions are not meant to make you suffer. They are not meant to be with you for years and years on end just to “make you feel bad”. However, emotions are persistent. They have a loving agenda for you. They are there for a reason and so, if you don’t unwrap the gift that your emotions are trying to give you, then they simply won’t leave! What this means is that, when you feel stuck with an uncomfortable emotion, you have some learning to do. There is something important that you’re not “getting”. If this is you, you’re not alone, at all. Mental health – as the name implies – is mostl ..read more

If you thought fear is just the big sister of anxiety, you’re not alone. On the face of it, anxiety and fear are very similar. Except, for their root causes. Fear tells you that something dangerous is on the horizon. Anxiety may seem to tell you the same thing, but actually it’s very different. While fear is an emotion, anxiety is a secondary reaction to an emotion or situation. Anxiety says: I don’t feel good because I don’t know what this is. However, not knowing doesn’t mean there is something dangerous on the horizon. In fact, there could be something sad on the horizon, or something plain ..read more

A lot of HSPs I speak to don’t want to label anyone they know as a narcissist. And I think that’s sweet. There is a deeper concern of: “but narcissism is bad! And I know this person up close, they have their good side! They’re likeable! They have their human struggles! I don’t want to condemn them”. I think partly, this is because popular discussions on narcissism tend to get very black-or-white. “Narcissism is bad and toxic. End of story.” Partly, this is because many discussions focus on what it’s like to be in a romantic relationship with someone who is very narcissistic. And the answer is ..read more

Nobody wants to be too much of anything. Am I right? So as a Highly Sensitive Person, you definitely don’t want to be too sensitive. At the same time though, are you equally concerned that you may not be sensitive enough? How are you supposed to know what is too much and what is too little anyway? Most of us base that assessment off of what our parents say. Yet, what may be a lot for them, may be just a little bit for someone else. Sensitivity is about Perceptivity Here’s what I mean: as a healer, I need to be very sensitive. I need to feel things that my clients don’t feel, and then I need t ..read more

Healthy habits become your new normal over time. With enough positive habits in place, life gets better on auto-pilot. Here are 4 disciplines I believe are very worth cultivating, no matter how good – or how bad – your life is: Discipline 1: Save to make your life better Have a savings account with money in it. How do you get money in it? You set up an auto-transfer. Each month you auto-transfer an amount that fits your income. You set this up to be recurring automatically so that it’s set and forget. Ideally, the savings account is not one you can super easily withdraw money from. An account ..read more

Let’s face it, you don’t need excellent boundaries in order to deal with truly kind, compassionate people. Chances are, if you forget to speak up they’ll ask anyway. If you ignore your own needs they’ll check if you’re o.k. Before deciding on anything big they’ll make sure to know what you truly want and factor that in! The kind, compassionate people are how you can survive without good boundaries at all. Which is why, it’s easy to lament “oh, if only the whole world were filled with kind compassionate people!”. Yet, we know that’s not the case and more importantly, there are important lessons ..read more

Many people avoid healing childhood trauma because they’re scared of the emotional pain that might surface. They worry they won’t be able to handle it or that they’ll be stuck with chronic pain. If that’s you – even if just a little bit – I have good news for you. A responsible healing practice starts with learning practices that give you stability, not stress! What does that mean? It means that you start with learning a practice that brings you inner peace, rest and rejuvenation. If you’re the A-type go go go personality, you may believe that the rest and relaxation will come after the healin ..read more

Do you have a heartfelt dream? Something that feels so right but that has been on the back-burner for a while now? Something that’s been put on hold? Or something you’ve not quite pursued actively before? Or maybe you ARE working on it and serious about it (high-five!). Either way, here are 7 big reasons to get (even more) serious about your dream. 1. Working towards your dream makes you a better person It’s time to end the myth of the virtues of needless suffering. Sure, sometimes life is hard. I’m also the last person to say that everything should feel good all the time (your feelings – al ..read more

So on empaths and relationships… Gosh, this should probably be a list of 200 struggles, not just 5. But writing a whole book would take too long, so I’ll just share 5 points. These are 5 that I get a lot of “oh my gosh I had no idea!” reactions to from clients, so I’m guessing they’re probably new to you. Since being an empath is such an “out there” thing, even connecting the dots on all the things that it affects is quite the journey. If you absorb emotional stress from others, or feel their feelings so strongly that it’s a constant distraction, then this will impact relationships in a l ..read more