This morning, I had a small conflict with a friend, who I’ll call Piper. Although I’m on a tight book deadline for a book that’s due February 1, she’s also on a tight deadline to write her essays for her grad school application, and she’d offered to pay me $200 to help her write those […] The post The Sensitive Art Of Relational Rupture & Repair first appeared on Lissa Rankin ..read more

My partner Jeffrey Rediger and I are almost done with the manuscript for our first book together about the health implications of unbalanced relationships, which is due February 1 and will come out Spring 2026. We’re also developing the curriculum for a weekend Zoom workshop we’re teaching this upcoming weekend HEALING THROUGH RELATIONSHIP, where we’ll […] The post The Challenges & Blessings Of Partnering With Someone With A Traumatized Nervous System first appeared on Lissa Rankin ..read more

In Part 1 of this series about how to navigate unbalanced relationships when one of you is autistic or has adult ADHD, I told Tara and Bryce’s story and published my letter to Tara. You can read their story and my response to Tara here. After reading my response to Tara, my partner Jeffrey Rediger […] The post When You’re Not Getting Your Needs Met Because The One You Love Is Neurodivergent Or Has Adult ADHD, Part 2 first appeared on Lissa Rankin ..read more

My partner Jeffrey Rediger and I are preparing to teach a Zoom relationship workshop HEALING THROUGH RELATIONSHIPS January 4-5. (You can save $100 if you sign up before January 2 here.) We’re going to be sharing the latest Six Steps From Fawning To Freedom, with some prime teachings and practices from the book we’re writing […] The post When You’re Not Getting Your Needs Met Because The One You Love Is Neurodivergent Or Has Adult ADHD, Part 1 first appeared on Lissa Rankin ..read more

Unlike many of my trauma survivor clients, for whom holidays were often a nightmare, I am one of those people who grew up with a family who knew how to do wonderful holidays. At home in Winter Park, Florida, the holiday season was filled with advent calendars and candles, nativity scenes at Disney World, Christmas […] The post An Empty Nest At Christmas (+ Empathy For All Of Us Who Are Hurting This Holiday Season) first appeared on Lissa Rankin ..read more

After my divorce from the father of my now 18-year old daughter, I hoped to find a relationship with someone who was willing to go the distance with me. I’d met people who claimed to be up for personal or spiritual growth, but when the rubber met the road and we entered the real birth […] The post Pursuing A Healing Partnership Is Like Climbing Mount Everest first appeared on Lissa Rankin ..read more

For those of you seeking to write a memoir or learn self-help tools to deepen your Internal Family Systems practice, either as an adjunct to your IFS practice or because you can’t afford or can’t find an IFS therapist, my health equity parts want to share some practices you can try at home to get […] The post 10 STEPS TO FINDING YOUR WRITING VOICE & HEALING YOUR TRAUMA first appeared on Lissa Rankin ..read more

Because we’re writing a book together about the health impacts of unbalanced, non-reciprocal, and oppressive relationships, my partner Jeff Rediger and I have been previewing some of what we’re writing about in the book in online Zoom workshops. When we taught Healing Attachment Wounds In Relationship and, before that, Preparing The Heart To Love Again, […] The post What If You Give More Than You Receive In Every One Of Your Relationships? first appeared on Lissa Rankin ..read more

  Some people expect that their romantic relationships will be purely a sanctuary of refuge, a conflict-free zone of safe, nurturing connection, unconditional acceptance, pleasurable fun and joy, and nourishing companionship. Other people approach relationships as a competitive sport with the goalpost being purification, freedom from trauma, or enlightenment, glorifying the painful challenges of intimacy […] The post What If You Want To Grow & Heal But The One You’re With Isn’t Interested? first appeared on Lissa Rankin ..read more

I just got back from Europe after seven weeks teaching and writing overseas. It was surreal to be away from my country during the election, and it feels weird to be back, given all that’s going on. Parts of me are in shock. Other parts are feeling deja vu, since I was in Bali teaching […] The post A Call To Action For Healers & Creatives In Times Like This first appeared on Lissa Rankin ..read more